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How do I keep myself from crying in public?

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Last Updated: 04/06/2020 at 4:07pm
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Top Rated Answers
February 19th, 2015 2:05am
The best thing that you can probably do is excuse yourself to somewhere more private where you can actually cry, like outside a building or in a bathroom. Sometimes we just get emotional, and there's nothing wrong with that; people will understand if you need to excuse yourself for a few moments. You can always explain yourself afterwards, or at a time that you feel more comfortable in doing so.
September 14th, 2015 10:47am
I think that one of the best ways to stop from crying in public is to just distract yourself. This may be super hard, but if you have an iPhone and some headphones, listen to some music. Think of the things to look forward to, like maybe you're going to hang out with a friend later that week or you have a book waiting for you at home. But if it gets really bad and you're really sad, I say just take a moment to yourself and just breathe and calm yourself down. And if you really need to; let yourself cry. It feels so much better afterwards, and though you may have red eyes after you're finished crying, just blame it on something else, like you just yawned or you have something in your eye. Hope this helped.
January 18th, 2015 7:10am
Whenever I feel like I am going to start crying in public I try and think about things that make me happy like my pets, friends, or family. I also will try singing my favorite songs in my head and that always works :)
March 22nd, 2015 6:56pm
Fun fact: you can't whistle when you're crying! What works for me is whistling my favorite song. I use crying as a method of release, though, so I tell myself to hold off until I'm at home or someplace where I can be alone.
April 26th, 2015 11:07am
If you're feeling overwhelmed and have trouble not crying in public, tell someone you love- or come talk to us at 7 Cups of Tea. Just sharing your emotions, and having them validated, can be a great release. Trust your emotions, too- if you're that sad- maybe it's time to seek professional help.
June 5th, 2015 10:28am
In my personal experience, if I can't find a place to escape once the feeling of crying arises, I try the breathing pattern you do whenever you get an anxiety or panic attack. Breathing in deeply and concentrating in sorting out your emotions will eventually diminish the feeling of wanting to cry.
September 7th, 2015 3:12am
Thats a hard thing to deal with if you feel that you are overly emotional or overwhelmed by a situation. There is no one answer fits all. But perhaps you can come up with something that works for you in advance by planning. Such as thinking of something ahead of time that can distract your thoughts if you become upset. Or whatever you can think of that will work for you.
November 17th, 2015 6:03am
Take some deep breaths and try to focus on one thing. If you can, try to remove yourself from that situation to give yourself a moment to think. If all else fails, try counting backwards from 300 by 7.
November 24th, 2015 8:06pm
by beinning strong or remmembring something positive and conforte other people and it's okey is i cry it's much better than doing things bad
December 15th, 2015 9:53pm
Usually it's best to let it out as if you keep it in it will make you feel worse and more upset. However if you feel the need to cry, go somewhere that's a bit out the way of everyone, for example a toilets. You can also try not to cry by not thinking about the issue and taking your mind of it by distracting yourself.
February 8th, 2016 3:48pm
And why do you have to keep yourself from crying in public, dear. But if you really want that, you should train yourself how to be numb and trust me you're not gonna like the result. Do not refrain yourself from your natural response as long as it won't put anymore. If your reason not to cry is stronger than the urge to cry, then you can actually prevent it.
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June 27th, 2016 8:54am
Remember that there is a place and time for everything. If you feel emotional and want to cry you can excuse yourself from the public, like go to the rest room where its more private and you can cry there to deal before returning to the public.
June 28th, 2016 4:33pm
You can try to breathe deeply, or focus on something positive. You can also try to walk away from the area with people, or go to the bathroom.
November 14th, 2017 7:12pm
Think about happier times and remember that there is always a rainbow at the end of a storm. You might not want to show your vulnerability in public, so just think about some goals you have for yourself or maybe other tasks that you need to accomplish today.
September 3rd, 2018 8:26pm
Excuse yourself to the nearest restroom and apply cold water in your face and eyes. I try to stare upwards to the ceiling and that helps me avoid crying a lot in public, especially at school. Avoid thinking about the subject that is making you upset and try to think about someone that has made you happy in the past or something good that will happen in the future. Find something that keeps you going through all the hard times. Also drink lots of water to stay hydrated because it will help you not have a headache later in the day.
April 6th, 2020 4:07pm
If you are crying in public then the way to stop this is to get to the bottom of the problem that is upsetting you. I'm sorry this is happening to you, and I just want to say that although this is something you want to stop doing, it is okay to cry, and to cry in public! You should not be ashamed of this and most people are very kind and will be nothing but concerned for you. A good way of getting to the bottom of your emotions is to talk about it - have you tried chatting to a listener on 7 Cups? This may be a good start for you.