How do I stop feeling guilty about something?

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Last Updated: 07/23/2018 at 3:01pm
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Anonymous
February 9th, 2016 11:48pm
The best way I found to stop feeling guilty is thinking: "What's done is done. It's in the past, and all I can do, is move forward, and make good choices."
ListenLady
September 21st, 2015 11:06am
When you are feeling guilty about something you have done there us no quick way to stop it, you have to accept what you have done and come to terms with it. If you have hurt someone and are feeling guilty about it work towards making things better with the person, earn their forgiveness and forgive yoyrself. We are all human and make mistakes, we then have to choose to learn from our mistakes to make us better people.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2015 7:57am
By telling yourself that whatever happened, has already happened and there's nothing you can do to change things around. So thinking about it will only make you feel terrible, and will change nothing. So it's better to think of a way to manage the consequences than feeling guilty.
Anonymous
June 5th, 2015 10:09am
You need to rationalized it! Find reasons why you are not guilty and try repeat them to your self! By repeating these reasons you will finally believe them and will not feel guilty!
magicalsummer152
June 17th, 2015 5:34pm
Peak to some body about it...also say sorry and empathise with the person you have hurted in the situation will make you feel a lot better..try that
Anonymous
August 11th, 2015 12:03pm
We all feel guilty about something. You can change the feeling or stop. Just try not yo think about that. Think about some thing that makes you happy , about ambitions. Change the thougts .
pleasinglyPoetic
November 23rd, 2015 9:26pm
The first step is to accept what you have done. Whatever you've done to make yourself guilty, you can't change it-- it has already happened, and it's in the past. Once you've accepted what has happened, and that what you've done is wrong, you can seek forgiveness from whomever you have wronged. Consider coming up with a plan before engaging with this conversation. A good apology admits fault and doesn't attempt to blame others, taking full responsibility for what has occurred, and ends with a plan to prevent future wrongdoings in the future. Finally, after you've earned the forgiveness of whomever you've wronged, you must learn to forgive yourself. That can be the most tricky part, since we're often our own worst critics. However, just remind yourself of how you've learned from this experience, and how you're going to prevent it from happening again. Your apology won't mean anything if you simply repeat whatever you've done wrong, so your sense of self-forgiveness should be tied to this as well. Put some real thought into how you can grow and mature through forgiveness, and watch as the guilt falls away.
Anonymous
April 7th, 2015 6:17pm
Believing that you could have done better might be the reason behind your guilt,However, you have to put in mind is that you cant always control bad events because you won't always have the necessary resources to deal with every situation you encounter.
Anonymous
April 25th, 2015 2:47am
I feel guilty for using racial slurs from several years back, whenever someone uses one i think back to how ignorant I myself used to be and now I frequently call people out on it
courtly25
September 14th, 2015 11:34pm
Guilt can be a hard emotion to get rid of. In order to do that, you must remember that what happened is in the past and can't be changed. Just focus on how to improve yourself as a person, and fix whatever mistakes or decisions that were made.
blissfulCupcake
November 10th, 2015 3:15pm
you look for the positive in it sometimes you might think why did i say this or why did i do this but my way of seeing it is that everything happens for a reason
Greatlistener87
August 16th, 2016 8:09am
First of all why are you guilty about it. If there is a good reason as to why, face the reason. If there is no reason then why feel guilty?
myguardianangel
May 15th, 2017 11:58am
You could try figuring out the reason you had to do the thing you are guilty of. Was it done intentionally? Could it have been avoided? What you can do to make it right? Maybe this will help. :-)
Anonymous
June 12th, 2017 7:53pm
By accepting we Make mistakes, forgive yourself and facing the problem as it would be expected. You Will not stop to feel guilty unless you face that what makes you feel that way
soulsoother
July 11th, 2017 7:02am
I recently saw one of Eckhart Tolle's videos where he talks about 'guilt'. He says that all of us experience guilt in some form or the other and the best way to stop feeling guilty about something is to understand the fact that our level of consciousness was probably low at the time we committed the wrong. Probably we weren't as aware as to our (wrong) doing when we committed that act as we are today. Secondly we need to believe that its just not 'we' who might have committed the wrong. Possibly there could be others who might have acted like us as well. Finally, just don't let your thoughts hold on to the guilt.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2017 5:40pm
Guilt is an emotion that many of us feel. It may be best to ask yourself first and foremost, is this healthy, or unhealthy guilt? Look for evidence of your guilt, is it founded? Try to be compassionate with yourself.
Wonder137
July 23rd, 2018 3:01pm
Feeling guilty is a very confusing feeling. Some people feel guilty for committing serious crimes, while others think it’s the end of the world when they commit a minor crime. Basically, It all depends on the person at hand. So whatever guilt you’re feeling right know, it probably has to do with your experiences. If you’re for example guilty for having lied to someone, then congratulations; you have been through great life experiences to feel guilty about something as minor as lying. So guiltiness can be both a good and bad thing. Sometimes it’s actually good to feel guilty about something because you become better as a person while reflecting on your guilt. So, to answer your question, you can feeling guilty about something by evaluating its affect on you and the world. If its something minor, then maybe feeling guilty about it isn’t as important as you might think. On the other hand though, it might be worth it to feel guilty about certain things if they have a huge impact. To sum up, you can stop feeling guilty by examining your situation. You have to decide whether something is actually worth feeling guilty about or not.