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Why do I daydream about how my family would react if I were in an accident and needing to be in the hospital?

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Last Updated: 11/14/2017 at 9:54pm
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May 11th, 2015 3:38pm
I do this myself. I think it's because we secretly want to know who would worry about us and rush to our bedside. Some kind of reassurance that we have people in our lives that we have impacted in some way that they'd worry about us if something happened to us. It's not necessarily a cry for attention, but it feels like an underlying need to know who actually cares.
February 23rd, 2015 5:58am
I do this too! I think it's normal to want attention or to know that the people in your life care about you, and that this is a scenario that shows that without actively seeking attention.
March 5th, 2015 7:07pm
Usually feelings and thoughts like this arise because we feel we are not an important part of anybody's life. Being thinking something as dramatic as this, it is usually linked to wanting to feel like we are loved and cherished and in these circumstances everybody would pay a lot of attention to us and make us feel this way.
April 11th, 2015 9:53am
Because their hypothetical reaction pleases you. It satisfies something that can only be brought out by a situation as tough as that one.
May 29th, 2015 9:28pm
It is very simple. Because you want attention from them. There is other ways to get attention my dear
June 6th, 2015 12:50am
To see what their reaction would be. I don't know you or your family, obviously but in theory, it could be along the lines of if your family don't show you a lot of appreciation and you might be wanting to get them to appreciate you more by realising that if they lost you through an accident, that they wouldn't have been able to tell you how much that they care.
February 23rd, 2016 9:57pm
Sometimes it may just be out of curiosity that you imagine scenarios that may never happen. That or you feel like you're less than important to them, which would be untrue, and imagine how they would react. However, while the scenario could happen you may not know how they'll react. Chances are they'll be very upset and depressed about this but it's all up to how you imagine it. They do care about you and would be upset.
March 1st, 2016 11:40pm
I have experienced this. It is a natural thought process. You know how you would feel or react if one of your family members were in hospital. It's normal to wonder how they would react if you were. However if this is a constant thought or you are feeling the need to put yourself in danger to find out the answer, then you need help immediately. I used to think my family didn't care about me. A number of times I did end up in hospital and they were so worried and upset. Try not to think that your family wouldn't care if you were in hospital, try not to even think about that. You're not and they are happy with that.
May 23rd, 2016 5:13am
Hoping for a positive Reaction, wishing it was given on an everyday basis, feeling like the only way to get what you crave from our family is being injured to the point of hospitalization
October 24th, 2016 1:37pm
Sometimes thoughts are just thoughts, they come and go and isn't something to be taken seriously. If you are concerned, ask yourself if there is anything about your relationship with your family that concerns you in any way, if your answer is "no, not really" then this is just another daydream :)
September 11th, 2017 7:40pm
I think that sometimes we can daydream about traumatic events and our family being at the hospital because we are missing love. Sometimes that is a sign that you want to be loved and supported by your family or you often wonder who would be at your side.
November 14th, 2017 9:54pm
This is a really good question! I think it can be to do with wanting to be cared for. Maybe you take on a role as a caregiver at home and subconsciously really want the roles to be reversed, for YOU to be the one being taken care of? In daydreams we can explore things that seem scary or like they shouldn't/couldn't happen. And that's completely normal and fine!