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How do I stop feeling very bad 24/7. How do I stop taking it out on the people around me?

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Last Updated: 05/18/2021 at 11:08pm
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Anonymous
May 8th, 2019 11:35am
You will have moments where you'll feel sad over the things that have happened but don't let that keep you down. And, more importantly, don't let them take away from your positive experiences. You need to distract yourself from those negative thoughts. You can always go for a walk, watch a movie/yt video or even read a book. What we think in ​our ​minds will eventually become what we believe. This is why it is so important that we start saying positive things about ourselves many times each and every day. Choose two or three statements and repeat them to yourself throughout the day.
greatfulUnicorns8158
December 23rd, 2019 7:14am
My husband deals with anxiety and depression and it can take a toll on our family. We had to choose to seek counseling and medical treatment. Dealing with a problem without the sight of a possible solution is tough. Fortunately there are people out there equipped to help with those things. It may even take family counseling to help to learn to deal with how everything effects you and for everyone to be able to come together to understand the pain and look for a solution. That can make a world of difference for all parties involved. Being able to have a third party to communicate for both ends and determine a plan of action can really help.
sia1325
May 18th, 2021 11:08pm
Hey hey first of all relax! I can understand that sometimes feeling bad could make you take it out on others! It's okay to feel bad but maybe try to figure out what incidents make you feeling bad? Maybe try to think about what is actually causing that? Maybe try to think how can you stop feeling that way? Also taking it out is okay! but if you are taking it out on people then maybe try to think what is making you take it out on them? Maybe try to think of the other ways you could cope with it? You could surely try other ways if your really like to cope with it! Maybe you could write your feeling on paper or you could something productive in order to distract yourself if you would like to but always remember that your feelings get the top priority so make sure to not to bottle the feelings as well! Maybe try to find some coping mechanisms that will actually help you to take the emotions out instead of keeping them to yourself but at the same time making sure to not to hurt others!
Taten1199
May 6th, 2019 5:04am
One thing you can do is focus that negative energy, into positive energy. Take your horrible experiences, and instead of projecting your negativity on them, treat them like you would want to feel yourself. Helping people out can make you feel really happy, give you purpose, and even take and serious amount of those bad feelings away. The best thing that you can do is change your mindset, it can take a very long time achieve, but it's definitely worth it if you want to make an significant change in your life. I wish you the best of luck!
ingeniousPeace79
May 6th, 2019 10:37am
well, first of all, you have to stop wanting to stop it. this is the sneakiest trap about it. it took me a lot of time to realize this, on my own. and after i've listened to some wise people along the road, it was clear that the right way is to refuse to apply any force to the bad feeling. We have to stay with the bad feeling. We have to refuse to kill it, or repressing, or stop it, or participating in it, getting involved into it, losing ourselves into it, and whatever other force. This forcing is what will give it energy. And the subconscious will understand that you want this feeling to be repeated. There are 2 effective ways to act, in this light. 1. If you can move your focus, easily, from the bad to the good => great!, this is first option 2. if you cannot move your focus from the bad, then you have to watch it, stay with it, but in a detached way, not getting involved into it (because involvement is a forcing, so the feeling state gets reinforced) From all people I've listened to, Joan Rosenberg goes at it in the most logical way (for me at least) Maybe it will help more, to explore what she says, her message. But, those 2 points, I've practiced, and they work. I deal with a long lasting bad emotional behavior (reaction to the environment) to which I am applying point 2, because point 1 is too far for now. It's a slow progress, but it's a progress nevertheless. The more I watch the feeling, not involved in it (or non-judgemental), the more I understand, flashes come to my mind, ideas, visions about it, understandings. And these all signal changes in the subconscious, signs of progress.