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Sometimes I hear a voice in my head that tells me negative things like everyone hates me or I should kill myself. What should I do?

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- Expert in Social Anxiety
July 21st, 2016 6:16pm
Hi, I've heard these same voices before. And I'm sorry you have to hear them too. If the voice tells you to kill yourself, don't listen to it! Call the suicide hotline, it'll be worth the wait. Or, you can always talk to me if you'd like. I for one, think this is a very tough think to go through, and you might need some help to get through it. What you need to do is stay strong, and don't listen to the voice. You can get through this, and don't worry, everyone does NOT hate you. I haven't even talked to you personally, and I care for you. And I most certainly don't hate you at all. I wish you the best!
- Expert in Social Anxiety
August 4th, 2016 2:31pm
That voice is a voice i heard for many years. I know how hard it is to hear that voice. What helped me shut that voice up was something as simple as saying three things I like about myself, and three positive things about my day. for example: I like my eyes, I like how im good at ______, i like that i am lovable enough for my parents. Today I ate. My lucky charms were tasty. Today I got out of bead. and Today I got dressed. These are very simple things, however it helps. Another thing that helped me was everytime i thought "Im a failure because... (I cant even put my clothes away properly)" I counter think " Well atleast I can ...(pick out a nice outfit)
- Expert in Social Anxiety
July 1st, 2017 8:27pm
STOP. Tell yourself to STOP. Actually shout it in your head. Speak or shout it even in real if you have to. Negative trail of thoughts should be stopped. It seems difficult, but if you stop and find the reason as to why these thoughts are wrong, you win.
- Expert in Social Anxiety
August 5th, 2016 5:35am
Completely ignore it. The more you pay attention to it the more you are feeding it. Try to watch funny things and stay away from right brain activities for a little bit like listening to music or daydreaming.
- Expert in Social Anxiety
April 6th, 2018 4:06pm
That negative voice is never truth. There is nothing in this universe that wants you to feel bad or to harm yourself, there is only love and light offered in this universe. The suffering that we go through comes when we are not aligned with this truth, when we start believing that there are bad things out there, and when we are convinced of this by others, especially parents. When we incarnate here, we know that love and light is all there is. When you hear that voice, know that there is no truth to it and that where there is no truth, there is no value in what is said.
August 3rd, 2016 11:34am
I would maybe ask for professional help on this as it is a serious case and you cannot ignore something that keeps repeating in your head have you tried a hotline so for example the suicide one can help if you need anymore help you can message me and we can discuss this in more depth
- Expert in Social Anxiety
August 19th, 2016 5:50pm
I think there is always a postive and a negative side inside of us, it depends on what dominates. So you should try encouraging the postive part in you. Whenever a negative voice comes up, tell yourself things like I am a nice person, people like me. Try doing it whenever you feel insecure. Do it even if your mind opposes it or if it feels like a lie. Continue doing it till your mind gets tricked into actually believeing it.
September 1st, 2016 7:31pm
Seek medical help immediately, from my point of view this sounds like schizophrenia. Schizophrenia is a mental disorder and can get worse at any time. Id get a therapist or see your doctor about this to keep you safe. They have methods and medications to prevent these thoughts. I hope you stay safe! 💕
October 7th, 2016 2:46pm
You may need to speak with a therapist. The first thing however is realize and know nothing is worth ending your life over.
September 28th, 2018 9:44pm
Did you ever wonder who is that voice? Negative thoughts are the fuel of the egoic mind. A fault finding mind is what makes people having more negative thoughts than positives ones. Our mind is used to look for the negative aspects of life because compassion, loving-kindness, love, awareness are detrimental to the egoic mind which needs to produce negativity so "we" can focus on that and keep the good things away. Start to practice meditation and follow a MBSR course online or offline, start learning how to meditate and keep the mind still and little by little you will learn how to stop following your thoughts, both positive and negative ones, welcome them all and then let them go. A calm and still mind makes you achieve a peaceful life and a happy one. Learn how to tame the "monkey-mind" which loves to jump here and there, creating negative thoughts in order to make you feel worried, scared, angry, depressed, in one word: to create suffering. Meditate and know yourself, and how to let all the thoughts come and go, experience them as they arise and let them go. And you will stop thinking that people hate you, that you should hurt yourself.
July 28th, 2016 4:46pm
Imagine a stop sign in your head or firmly tell yourself no, these are not your thoughts. Think about something positive and promptly move on. You could also have a go to phrase to repeat to yourself whenever you catch yourself having negative thoughts.
August 5th, 2016 10:26pm
First you try to realize the difference between opinion and fact, and remember that you have no idea what everyone thinks. Second, decide, how serious is this? Should you get professional help or are your thoughts manageable with just knowing that they are there and catching them in order to change them?
March 8th, 2018 4:45pm
That sounds really stressful. I can imagine you’ll start feeling really demotivated and insecure if this keeps going on. I’d try talking to someone about it and try to work through why I was hearing that voice. It could be a reflection of what you are thinking about yourself.
April 7th, 2018 6:06pm
I don't know but I wish I could help you. I've had a voice that pops up in my head out of the blue for no reason whatsoever that I can tell. My voice, demon, psyche, whatever you call it keeps speaking in past tense like it already happened. Same phrase, nothing more to it "Eddie killed himself". Creeps me out
February 15th, 2020 4:07pm
If a friend talked to you the way that voice did, would you keep them around? No. You'd know that they were lying and hated you, you'd distance yourself. That voice isn't you, that voice isn't trying to help you. That voice is a monster, what do we do with monsters? We rid ourselves of them. Don't ever listen to the voice in your head if it tells you horrible things. Don't believe it's mean, cruel and unjust lies. You are your own person, and some monster shouldn't tell you whether you deserve to live or not. Stay strong, tell the voice who you are. Show it how incredible and beautiful you are. Never let the voice win.
January 13th, 2018 1:56am
It’s very important to seek professional help when you have the urge to harm yourself. There are many people dedicated to helping people who struggle with similar thoughts. Seeking them out is the best thing you can do.
April 6th, 2019 1:45pm
Hearing voices in your head can be linked to depression, bipolar, anxiety and schizophrenia. Seeking professional advice is the best way to go when having auditory hallucinations as they are serious, especially when they are telling you negative things. If you can't or won't seek professional help then distraction techniques are usually really good for things like this. A distraction technique is where you find something to do that will distract you from whatever is bothering you, in your case it is the voices in your head. Listening to music, watching films/shows, walking/exercising, spending time with animals, drawing, knitting, talking to friends and/or family (not necessarily about the voices although this may help) and because I love horses, I am going to suggest volunteering at your local yard :)
August 4th, 2016 3:36pm
I advise that you speak to someone you trust about these feelings. If you feel like you are putting yourself in danger right now, call the appropriate emergency service.
August 31st, 2016 8:00am
Ask for the reasons why the inner critic shows up and tell you this things! Sometimes a tough time gives us the feeling we are not worthy enough but there are many people who can give us love, if we let them help. So don't hesitate to ask for it.
September 3rd, 2016 4:23am
It's important to remember that these thoughts and feelings are often unconscious responses to stress or to certain circumstances in your life. They are not rational, and they are not true. These thoughts can often subside with patience and self-care. If they don't, it may be time to seek professional help. But you can do things like breathing exercises, journaling, talking to listeners on 7 Cups, etc. to try to ease them.
November 18th, 2017 2:18pm
Stand in front of a mirror,look how beautiful you are created and tell yourself that no one hates you,even if there are some people that hate you,it doesnt matter you should focus on how much your friends and family love u
February 7th, 2018 7:12pm
Self care is the best way you can stop these thoughts. Like a shower, a good book or a favorite show
July 18th, 2018 12:12pm
Since you phrased the thoughts as 'voices', imma share some coping mechanisms I use ^^ They might not work for you and they're certainly not the best option, but, essentially, I just ridicule the thoughts so much they lose power. First, I recognise that the 'I' is my consciousness, the thoughts are just thoughts. And when i hear the thoughts saying i should //// myself, i think 'well i'm sorry susan I've been doing all the work in the house for __ years drinking water and going into the sunshine you don't even do anything how dare you tell me what to do' or 'that's good and well but my favourite webtoon updates this friday call again in 3-5 business days'. There's a post i saw once- if you feel like you can't make it through the next year, or month, or week, or day, just focus on the next minute and slowly work it through. I do have to say, these are pretty eccentric and even for me they don't work all the time and I'm sorry I don't know how to deal with the 'everyone hates you part', but hopefully this, uh- it's an option you can explore ^^ Take care, fren
July 29th, 2016 11:18pm
Its best if you ignore it and try and surround yourself with friends and family, positive thoughts!
August 25th, 2016 7:10pm
I would immediately call a close friend or family member and ask for help. I would try to think rationally and realize the voices are not real and I should not listen to them.
September 2nd, 2016 4:01pm
The best thing to do in these moments is to take a few deep breathes then contact a mental health professional that can create a plan for you to deal with symptoms like this.
September 25th, 2016 9:51pm
Understand that what you hear from this voice is not true. Talk to someone about it and get professional help. This way, you'll receive support and learn how to handle situations when this voice arises again.
December 22nd, 2017 6:13pm
I'm afraid that I am not quite quolified to help you with this. I would suggest that you should seek a qualified counseler and tell her/him about your experiences.
January 13th, 2018 7:17am
You should perhaps seek professional help. Some things can be managed by discussion and rational thinking , but not all.
August 10th, 2017 6:43pm
Talk to someone about it! Life is hard and we all have moments when we feel that everything is falling apart. Having someone to talk to (a friend, a family member or a listener from 7cups) can help you clear your mind and get rid of that negativity. I'm here if you want to have a chat!
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