By making your out-of-work life a priority. It's that simple. When you're lying on your death bed at the ripe old age of 95, you are not going to be thinking, "Oh, I wish I'd worked more when I was younger!". You will be thinking of all of those fun times you had during your life. Times with family. Times with friends. Do not make the mistake that my father did in realising too late that out-of-work time is as important as in-work time. Prioritise that time and enjoy yourself.
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December 19th, 2014 9:21pm
Work/life balance looks different for everyone. Some people, maintain very strict boundaries between work and home life--never allowing work to intrude on home life, and vice versa. Other people are happy to mix the two. With either path, it is still important to have fun things to look forward to that have nothing to do with work. An informal survey conducted by a nurse with patients dying from terminal illness showed that one of the top five regrets of dying people was working too much and too hard, and not pursuing their own dreams and passions.
People may manage work life and social life in a way as treating them as two separate things. They may leave the work at the office, so they don't bring there problems home with them. Too much work stress is never healthy! It is very important to have a social life to help you unwind and have a good time to enjoy yourself!
It may have to do with time management. I find it helps to get what needs to be done over with as early as I can in the day with minimal distractions - and then when it's done, I don't feel guilty about doing the fun activities that I would have snuck into doing instead of work anyway, had I not been determined not to be distracted!
Am just emerging from a two year avalanche of work. I was averaging four hours sleep each night, managed as two two hour naps. I have since stopped this and now gone back to a nice normal 40 hour week. I am trying to find friends, because I emerged out of the avalanche to find that my search party had given up and gone on with their lives. I am reintroducing myself to scoiety but finding the process difficult
Set up a calender and write down the due dates for everything for the month. This will help you remember to do things more often and help you to be organized. Once you have finished something mark it off the calendar and start on the next assignment.
It is all a matter of time management. Whilst you are work, prioritise your work life during this time. When you have finished at work, try to leave your work life behind you as you travel home and focus on your social or home life. That is probably the best way to do it.
From personal experience, drawing a line in between work-time and me-time really helped. Letting work/school take over your life by worrying about it 24/7 is unhealthy. So try scheduling time in your day when you're off work for meeting up with friends for coffee. Schedule your "me" time just as you would schedule your work time. Ignoring that aspect of your life could be a burnout…
Work life is draining so it's understandably difficult to maintain your social life at the same time. You don't have to go out with your friends every single night, but if you have the means to do so, you could try to do something once a week or every two weeks with them, like have them over for dinner. You don't even have to cook if you don't want to, ordering takeout works too. If time is an issue, let them know beforehand that they can't stay too late because you have to get up early the next day. They'll understand. If you can't host, you could find a quick activity to do outside the house, like meeting up for a fitness class or do breakfast together.
Healthy prioritization - figure out what things for work & family are most important to you. If it's important that you spend more time with your friends or family, you can avoid volunteering to take on extra tasks at work. Sometimes it will be the other way around. Try not to take on more than you know you can handle, or you may end up getting burnt out & then both parts of your life will suffer. It may mean that sometimes one has to fall to the wayside slightly so that other can benefit, but fluctuation is normal.
I shut my work phone off after a certain time of day so I can spend time on myself and my interests. Calls can be forwarded to voicemail to be answered the next day. And when it is possible I take time out during the day to stretch and recharge. I have also changed jobs that have stressed me out too much, in favour of a job that will allow me some free time in my schedule.
This reminds me of the quote "You work to live, don't live to work!" It's hard and it's definitely something I've struggled with. For me I just had to put my foot down and decide which hours I was willing to/needed to dedicate to work. Sometimes I have to change it or work a little extra but having that rough plan in place makes it easier to make plans to socialise, and keep a happy balance :)
Through balance. Your professional life is as important as your social life. Making one of them more important than the other can only bring frustration. Work, study, but make sure you find some free time to enjoy your social life.
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