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Attention All 35+! Join your 24/7 Group Chat today!
by ASilentObserver
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 August 31st
...See more Note: The group chat is not active atm. Update date: Jan 28, 2025.  Hello community, We are excited to announce that we are opening 35+ group chat as an exclusive 24/7 chat group, just for those of us who are 35 and over w.e.f Monday, April 22, 2024. This is a space to connect with others in your age group, share experiences, have meaningful conversations, and build a supportive community to encourage and empower each other. To ensure this group remains a safe space for everyone, the chat will be badge-locked. This means only users who have their age as 35 or over will be able to access the group chat.  Here's what makes this group special: * 24/7 access: Keep the conversation flowing, day or night! * Exclusive community: This group is badge-locked, ensuring only users 35 and over can join, fostering a space tailored to your life stage. * In-depth discussions: Dive into meaningful conversations on topics you care about. A few group chat guidelines to keep in mind: * Respectful Communication: Let's all treat each other with kindness and courtesy. * Positive Vibes: We encourage uplifting and engaging conversations. * Life Experiences: Share your wisdom, stories, and support. * Open-mindedness: Be receptive to different perspectives. * No Spam: Let's keep the chat focused and respectful. Let’s join and participate. Please spread the word to your 35+ friends and invite them to participate with you in the group chat for some supportive & meaningful conversations. 
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Weekly Prompt #1: What are some unexpected challenges and triumphs you've encountered in your 30s and beyond?
by ASilentObserver
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 July 14th
...See more Welcome to 35+ Community,  As we navigate through our 30s and beyond, life presents us with unexpected challenges and triumphs that shape our experiences and perceptions and define who we are. These years bring a unique set of experiences and test our resilience, patience and push us out of our comfort zones, and ultimately lead to personal growth. Let's explore and share some of the surprising obstacles and victories that many of us encounter during this stage of life. Question of the week: What are some unexpected challenges and triumphs you've encountered in your 30s and beyond? Please share and discuss together. Also, you can join us in 35+ group support chats [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmdmeXyUkeJO45VriIjD] for live discussions and exploration as well.  Click here to join! [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmdmeXyUkeJO45VriIjD]
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You Will Survive
by silverArrow67
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 16 minutes ago
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Loser nothing
by lavenderCranberry3121
Last post
 19 minutes ago
...See more I'm a loser. I have nothing going for myself, never did.  All I have is deep wounds that get deeper with age, and trauma that becomes more traumatic as I age.  In my late 40s. Never had a job due to disability, never been a looker, never had a good body, never had good skin. My body and skin have always been scarred filled, from trauma and abuse and my body keloids so I have those all over .. Nobody ever befriended me, I've always been bullied my whole schooling years.. when I first entered school at 5 I was bullied and isolated. I've never had someone shown a genuine interest in me and wanted to be my friend or include me. I've never had a friend, never had any genuine people who wanted to be with me romantically and in a relationship. They'd lie, pretend, use me and discard me like trash, often ghosting me or making up something to exit my life. No kids, no husband, no friends, no long term partner, no family, no one really talks to me unless they see me collecting mail or packages and they can't get away before I spot them ..and it's always an obligated forced good morning, and their eyes roam and a sense of urgency to get away from me as soon as possible when they ask me how I'm doing.  Their eyes always pleading for me just to say fine so they can leave. I stay in my bed mostly , only to get up and handle the absolute necessary. I don't go anywhere. I am house bond. Which I prefer ..but sometimes it often gets lonely and depressing .. especially when I people watch from my window. I just mostly doom scroll all day or sleep.  I live around a bunch of people and no one ever checks on me or even thinks of sending the cops over to do a wellness check....when I accidentally see people who live in the area after a long time ..I usually get people pretending they care saying that they haven't seen me in a long time, and wondered if I still lived here. I've also lived in the same house since I was 11.. same bedroom...never lived anywhere else.  I also just cry a lot about all the trauma and things that have always been my life.  Everything within me is depressing and pitiful. If we ever go anywhere..I can't wait to ctb
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One River
by silverArrow67
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 19 minutes ago
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A Blatant Lie
by silverArrow67
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 24 hours ago
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Let's Go Nowhere
by silverArrow67
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 1 day ago
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Hello from Ding — glad to join this 35+ community
by MysticEast
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hello everyone, I'm Ding, and I'm glad to be here with all of you. I come from a Chinese background and have spent more than 30 years studying Eastern philosophy and energy wisdom — ideas about balance, timing, and the cycles of life. Life in our 30s and beyond brings so much: relationships that change, careers that shift, loss, loneliness, and also hard-won wisdom. I've come to believe that very little in life is random, and that understanding our own patterns can bring real peace. I'm here to listen, to share an Eastern perspective whenever it might help, and to learn from your stories. Whatever you're carrying, you won't be judged here. Looking forward to connecting with you all. — Ding
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I'm just a failure
by sensibleEyes1111
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more I'm new to 7 cups. I'm going through depression. I'm 31 years old female but I haven't achieved anything in my life. I have no friends. No job. I'm just a failure. Everyone is getting married. Everyone is getting successful in their life. Except me. I'm ashamed of myself. I feel guilty for not fighting for myself. I wonder if it's too late. I'm jealous of everyone who has it all. My mother lies to people about me. She tells them I'm doing WFH. But in reality, I'm just hiding myself from the whole world. I'm obese too. One more reason to feel self hatred and shame. This is the lowest phase of my life. I don't want anyone to see me like this. The worst part? This is happening since last 4 years. I'm stuck here. Since forever.
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Hello
by straightforwardBeach2123
Last post
 Monday
...See more Hello ,  I'm from New Jersey. I'm 37 years old. I'm currently really sick and can't go out of the house much. The isolation is driving me crazy. I'm extremely lonely in the house. Looking for people to connect with and talk but just online since I can't leave the house and make it to any plans right now.  Regards, Shenaz 
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Help needed
by sensibleEyes1111
Last post
 Sunday
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Unforgettable Memories
by silverArrow67
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 Sunday
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Hi, I'm new here.
by Goingthroughtime
Last post
 Sunday
...See more I'm a 38 years old man. I'm very skinny (very bony) 50 Kg's. I've been sober for 14 years and still am unbale to put on weight. It's mostly because I feel depressed all the time. I'm long term unemployed. The best thing going for me are my hobbies I play guitar (not advanced however I'd say intermediate +), Reading (I most read science fiction however I once in a while I read other non fiction and fiction genres as well) and I have a twitch gaming channel that has 70 followers (I play age appropriate games. Games that have a deep narrative and lore that a late 30's person would find interesting). I've been single for 14 years. It used to depress me a lot in my late 20's and early 30's however now I guess I'm grown accustomed to it. My happiness now lies in listening to music, playing guitar, reading and playing video games. I tried a sports goods sales and export business however it failed. I worked for an year before the pandemic in healthcare and then later in a flights and hotel booking company but then I quit during the pandemic. I'm from India however I'm quite westernized. English is my primary language. The music I listen to is American and English. I just wanted to say Hi.    
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Does anyone need a friend?
by Hjjfxgkffgijh
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 Saturday
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Welcome to the 35 and over community!  Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea  :)   


(Adults), Join us in the Thirty-Five & Over Room every Wednesday! 

Would you like to be added to the Tag List?  Please reply to this thread Here

Our ever-growing support team are here to help you with any questions, so feel free to send us a message :)  Interested in joining the team?  Please PM 7cups.com/@MistyMagic

Please respect others' opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. 

Thank you!

Community Guidelines

The following are the guidelines which are specific to the 35 & Over Community. We ask you to follow them, as well as the Forum Guidelines. Their purpose is to ensure a safe and supportive environment for everyone.

The main goal of this sub-community is to offer support and a space to share and socialize, for the 7 Cups users who are 35 years old, or older. After reaching a certain age, people have specific life concerns that might not be shared by people who don't have as much life experience.
However, age isn't a requirement to participate in our sub-community.

All Adults are welcome!


However, please understand that teens as young as 13 years old can access these forums, so please keep topics appropriate.

So please:
- Reach out for support from your member account
- Offer support as a member or listener
- Be respectful to everyone
- Add a trigger warning  [TW] if your topic needs it
- Take care of yourself
- Take care of others
- Have fun!


 

For more detailed information about how to behave in the forums and in 7 Cups in general:

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Read the 7 Cups Guidelines
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Welcome to the 35 and over community!  Our aim is to provide an inviting space for those of us who are over 35 to find like-minded people, discuss our concerns, and reminisce over a cup of tea  :)   


(Adults), Join us in the Thirty-Five & Over Room every Wednesday! 

Would you like to be added to the Tag List?  Please reply to this thread Here

Our ever-growing support team are here to help you with any questions, so feel free to send us a message :)  Interested in joining the team?  Please PM 7cups.com/@MistyMagic

Please respect others' opinions, even if we strongly disagree. There is no right or wrong answer here. Please avoid conflict or arguments. 

Thank you!