How do I stop worrying about my future?
Last Updated: 05/04/2020 at 8:09pm
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You shouldn't worry about the future, is better to just focus on the present, so we can really live it. If we're always thinking about the future, we get really worried, because what's gonna happen it's uncertain. The present is were you always are and were you exist. Why worry about the future when you can just let it surprise you? This way you don't get anxious about what might happen, and you get disappointed when things don't turn out the way you expected. So live the NOW and ENJOY it ! :)
I stop worrying about the future by focusing on the present moment. I take time to reflect on how I am currently feeling, what is going on in my life? I focus on the good things happening me around me.
If you're worry about your future it usually means something isn't right in your present. Figure out what you can change in your present and change it. If you can't change it, maybe it's time to accept it and try something different.
A friend recently suggested to me that I focus on "what will make me feel better today" and not "what is making me feel bad." It seems simple but by switching your mentality, you can focus on smaller tasks that are realistic and avoid that overwhelming feeling that you aren't making a dent. Allowing yourself small successes does wonders for the heart and the mind and those decisions will lead you to where you truly want to be.
I think it's important to take a step back and just breathe. It is easy to worry about something that hasn't happened yet, but what's the point in it? I think it's important to take everything one step at a time, so take a breath and maybe make a list of what you want to do. Making short term and long term goals helps me put what I want to do in perspective and also makes it seem more manageable.
I make a plan for what I want to accomplish in my future. Also stick to my personal motto, "Optimistic but realistic."
You are totally valid to worry about your future, Its definitely a common fear that for one reason or another we're not heading in the direction that we truly want to go in. But honestly the best way to put your mind at ease is to know yourself. Do you trust yourself to lead to to the place you want to be, and are you the person you want to be today? If you are not making the decisions today or tomorrow that reflect on what you want and who you want to be you will not be doing so down the road either. Our fear of the future is rooted in fear of our own capabilities, and whether we can rely on our future decisions. So know yourself, trust yourself, if you are not already make an effort to be the kind of person with convictions who will take you where you want to be. You are capable of a great future.
This time two years ago I was suffering from depression and frequent anxiety attacks. Leaving my house was a major struggle and I could not see any hope for a better future. I am now studying for a degree, I have moved to a beautiful new city and am surrounded by wonderful friends. When I look back over the past two years, there were incredibly difficult times, but also achievements that I will always be proud of and remember. I also learnt to take each moment as it comes and appreciate being here as much as I can. Spend your time appreciating the here and now instead of worrying about the future, there is no way to know what the future holds, but you are in control of your present. Live it to its fullest.
Mindfulness is a helpful skill to have in your tool belt when it comes to worrying about the future. Stopping that rapid thought cycle and focusing on what is happening to you in the moment will often stop the worrying. Mindfulness can be focusing on your breathing, focusing on how your feet feel in your shoes, or focusing on how many different colors you see and maybe even trying to name them.
Understand that your future is never promised, and yesterday is gone. Today is what you're living.
Practice mindfulness. Be in the now. Its hard to do, honestly. But when ever you are worrying about the future, take a deep breathe and look around. Where are you now? Who are you with? You have today and you can decide what you do today. The future is unpredictable, who know's what can happen even tomorrow..
Know that the whole journey to get to where you want to is important and what we call life - not just the final destination. Nothing is certain and I think to some extent having an 'it is what it is' attitude can help get through the things we can't help. A CBT type of activity really helps to manage how we may feel e.g. anxiety, doing meditation or some sort of relaxation exercise. I'd also say if there are things that you can mostly control e.g. how well you perform on an exam, then work as hard as you can in order to get the best possible outcome. However, also know that there is always another path to get to the same destination. For me that was knowing I could still study medicine with less than perfect exam results if i took another route to get there - doing a foundation year on top or doing a different degree first and then applying for graduate entry medicine! Lastly, believe in yourself, you have to be your own biggest fan in this journey!!
You can't predict the future. Thus, just keep doing what you are doing currently and try new things that you love!
The best way to stop worrying about the future in my experience is to just focus on the present. I found worrying about the future always complicated situations and caused unnecessary stress. I've learned that all that you can do is all that you can do and all you can do is enough (Art Williams) and i live by it.
you are concerned ans that is good however it brings lot of worries which turns into turnmoil and thoughts suddenly change ita course and controls you. Feel helpless and want to shake that worries off but it still lingers on you like a fly with an annoying noise.
By looking for your passion because it will motivate you and keep the fire burning to be successful in your own way
I personally have suffered a lot when it comes to worrying about the future, whether it's my grades or something else. But I think the best way to tackle it is the popular phrase of living in the present and everything else should fall into place. You should enjoy life rather than worrying about every step at the end of the day!
It starts with being ok with the present. If you are happy with where you are today, and where you'll be tomorrow, you will be ok. Not to say that you shouldn't plan ahead, just try to not be emotional about the future.
We tend to worry about our future because we really don't know what is waiting for us and we don't know what is coming, so we worry about our future because of that
I would try focusing on small things that are happening currently. Something like planning out a meal for tomorrow, or maybe focus on a new hobby. Exercise, Writing, Reading, Art. Anything that distracts you could help. But you also need to come to terms with it. You need to realise you're going to be fine. As long as you're happy in the future, you're winning.
It is normal for people to worry about their future. Mainly because it is the unknown and people have a fear of the unknown. Anything could happen by surprise. And that can cause worry.
Take a step back, slow down. List all the things that make you happy in your life right now and repeat this every time you begin to stress about your future :) Live in the present.
You must live in the present. If you live in the "now" and really focus on what you are doing now, there will be no worries. You can't control the future. Nobody can, by thinking too much about the future you create worries that makes your present bad. If you really think about it, the present is all you have and why spoil it with things that might never happen. Read more about mindfulness if you want to start practicing living in the moment. You will be amazed at how free you will feel!
I look after myself first, and live for each day. After all you’re the only one who can really look after you! 😀
Take a few slow, long deep breaths and focus your attention on the present moment allow yourself to feel grounded and supported in the present moment. You may also like to journal your concerns about the future. Taking some time for a walk in nature is also a great way to come back to the present moment
The best way I've found to stop worrying about the future is to take one thing at a time! One day at a time, one project at a time, one chore at a time. Its easy to get overwhelmed with the volume of things we have to do, but crossing things off one at a time feels better than stressing about what is going to happen next.
Worrying about your future is a normal thing, as there are so many different ways you could stress about. But, learning how to deal with negative feelings towards the future will help you to eventually be able to understand and do something about your emotions, instead of just letting them bother you.
The now has enough to think about in one day. Honestly by occupying yourself with what you have to do in the now it helps remove the worry about the future. When we focus to much on the future we can get swamped with anxiety and worry about things that, truly we don't even know about yet. So when that starts to happen it is best to start taking things a day at a time. Writing a list of things you need to get done today and doing that every day and focusing on those goals and making the achievable also helps as well.
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