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How can I end an unhealthy relationship?

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Last Updated: 10/06/2020 at 4:54pm
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Top Rated Answers
Greatlistener87
January 27th, 2016 3:45am
Just end it, be straight with your partner and tell him that you want to leave. Be firm with your decision.
devilsOrchestra
January 27th, 2016 4:14pm
it's best for you both to sit down and discuss how it's making you feel and that you now want to call it a day. I would do this somewhere neutral like out for lunch so neither feel intimidated.
Joner2016
January 27th, 2016 7:31pm
Think about it with a clear mind and make a decision. Try to have a talk with your partner and let him/her know about your decision. Request him/her to respect your decision. One last thing is delete or throw away all the things like photos, phone numbers, gifts,etc which could remind you about your partner. Try to get engaged with work or socialize. Take excercise and get yourself physically fit.
AlwaysEssic
January 30th, 2016 5:02am
Be truthful toxic relationships are started for lies and misunderstandings. Sit down and chat tell the truth and be blunt about why you want to end this relationship.
softShell54
February 1st, 2016 2:07am
Best way is to sit down have a conversation explain how it effects you and breakup on good terms so that everything is in the open
soccer12811
February 3rd, 2016 4:01am
If it involves abuse, then do it in a public place so that people can step in or call 911. If not, then just be completely honest to him/her so there are minimal questions.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2016 7:43pm
Tell them that you need space for your own health. They may laugh or say no, but ultimately, the decision is in your hands. You don't have to stay if you don't want to.
hearnospeaknoseeno
February 5th, 2016 6:43am
Learn to love yourself and treasure who you are and what you have to bring to a relationship. Understand that you don't deserve to be harmed, please consider contacting the white ribbon society or beyond blue for more specific tips. I hope that you are safe and have supportive friends.
hopefulpoetry
February 6th, 2016 11:02am
Explain to the person what they did wrong on their part. So that the next relationship they are in, they will fix their own problems and won't do it again to another person. Then, you tell them you need to do what's right for the both of you, considering you have realized your relationship is unhealthy and not going anywhere in the future. For the sake of yours and that persons happiness/well being.
Anonymous
February 6th, 2016 8:32pm
Speak to your partner, try to have them understand what your feeling and I guess try to end it.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 4:29am
Maybe you should first the person if he/shes really interested in you or cares for you, if things go south put it in a simple way that hey i don't think this is working out and this how i feel so I think we should break-up
bubblyOcean52
February 11th, 2016 4:29pm
You need to take the chance, tell your partner how you feel and how this isn't what you want in a relationship anymore. Be brave and confident and just end it because the right person is there waiting for you. It's just taking you time to find who you are and what you want and sometimes it's better to be single than unhappy in a relationship.
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2016 6:33pm
On a positive note. Let your partner know that parting ways may work better for both of you! But make sure to be polite at all times. And not rude or negative.
YourSupportGroup101
July 5th, 2016 12:15am
Admitting your relationship is unhealthy is the first step to ending it. You, as the other partner, make up 50% of the relationship itself, and that means your decisions and choices are just as important as the other person. To end said relationship, you need to establish within yourself whether communication is clear, and whether or not you can talk to the other person about how you're feeling. If you can, tell them you don't believe this is working, and break it off. If communication is not an option, reach out to family, friends, or even the police/a hotline for help if the relationship you're currently in is fatal to you and your health.
Chiipurple04
October 24th, 2017 2:39pm
You can end an unhealthy relationship by having a serious conversation with the other person regarding the factors that contributes to your relationship in becoming unhealthy. Being in an unhealthy relationship will cause you to lose yourself, that would just worsen the situation you have in a relationship and make it more unhealthy. It'll be better to have some space for the two individuals involve in an unhealthy relationship for them to have a good state of mind so they can think properly of the best solutions whether they could still save their relationship or they can save their selves by letting it go for the better.
Justlovewickedly84
February 20th, 2018 9:35pm
Stay true to yourself, look at what you need out of a relationship and see if this person is A: able and B: willing to give you these things or at the very least try to get there with you...
Kkxxrr
March 19th, 2018 11:23pm
being honest with your partner can be beneficial, possibly talking with someone who understands your experiance or can give you advice - a doctor for example. Make sure to put yourself first and not let others make any decisions for you. I hop you are well and things begin to turn around for you, sending you love and support in this time.
slhX
August 6th, 2018 10:25am
Have a conversation, explain how your feeling and that you need space and you need to come out of the situation. If the situation is worse at this point - completely leave without saying a word.
Anonymous
August 13th, 2018 4:08pm
You tell the person you are breaking up with them and don't speak to the person and you move on and it depends on what type of relationship if its family then if they're toxic you move away from them and block all contact
ButtercupBoo
September 15th, 2020 5:24pm
We all deserve somone who really loves you. And i don't think in an unhealthy relationship, the person loves you. They are looking to manipulate and control you. I don't see a point in why anyone should stay in an unhealthy relationship. But i also understand it's about the feelings we have for that person. To end a relationship with someone you are not happy with but is in love with is hard. It takes so much strength to do it. But just understand that it's not love from the other person no matter what they say. Don't think it's your fault cos the other person says so. They are just trying to be manipulative and blame you for everything they do. You deserve to be happy and with someone who loves you. So leave the person no matter how hard it may seem like. It is definitely for the better. You would definitely realise that sooner or later.❤️
popesyd1
October 6th, 2020 4:54pm
A way you could end an unhealthy relationship is to set a time and place for you to speak your peace in a public setting. As your speaking with your partner make sure to be completely honest in speak very clearly when you are trying to express your feelings and reasonings of why you want to end the relationship. Allow him to speak his peace as well and then agree that this will be the last time you interact. In a unhealthy relationship it is best to cut off all ties completely. If you are not clear with your intentions he could get the impression that there is still a chance so it is best for both to agree that this is the end.