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How can I end an unhealthy relationship?

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Last Updated: 01/05/2021 at 5:47pm
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popesyd1
October 6th, 2020 4:54pm
A way you could end an unhealthy relationship is to set a time and place for you to speak your peace in a public setting. As your speaking with your partner make sure to be completely honest in speak very clearly when you are trying to express your feelings and reasonings of why you want to end the relationship. Allow him to speak his peace as well and then agree that this will be the last time you interact. In a unhealthy relationship it is best to cut off all ties completely. If you are not clear with your intentions he could get the impression that there is still a chance so it is best for both to agree that this is the end.
Anonymous
January 5th, 2021 5:47pm
Perhaps one of the biggest mistakes a person can make in an unhealthy relationship is mistake the addiction of a relationship as love. It may seem better to be inside an unhealthy relationship than to be alone, and getting over that fear of being alone is the first step. It's important to remember that you have a support group of friends and family that will take care of you after you end a toxic relationship, and it's especially to surround yourself with people that have a positive affect towards you when in the process of ending things. This process also leads into the thinking of doing what's best for you. The relationship is hurting you, and the addiction to the unpredictability of the relationship or fear of being alone can stop any progress that you are currently making. That's why it is important to make a plan and perhaps even share that plan with your support group of family and friends. When you start to miss your ex-partner, you should make a promise to yourself that you will talk to your support group first before going back to contact your ex-partner. Ultimately, the decision to end the relationship is your own, and the help of a support group may be beneficial in the beginning but their pressure may not last very long. In the end, it is up to you and it's important to ask yourself "what do I want?".
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 11:25pm
unhealthy relationships are hard to deal with and if it is unhealthy then find some way to get out of it
BriNecole2014
December 17th, 2014 7:37am
Realize that it's an unhealthy relationship first of all,then do everything that you can to walk away. It's not worth the pain and suffering to stay
DonnyJames
December 23rd, 2014 2:11am
Be straight up front. Say the following "This isn't good for you, and it isn't good for me. I think it's best we stop seeing each other." If things happen to go bad, and you feel your safety is at risk, there are many ways if preventing any harm your way. ALSO, if you feel telling them in person will put yourself in danger, its okay to use a free pass once in your life to do a breakup over the phone, preferably, not over text.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2014 2:27pm
First, you need to contemplate if this is actually what you want. Next, decide on a proper, kind way to tell the other person. It is wise to do this as soon as possible, hopefully in a safe setting.
Arkelight
December 27th, 2014 10:49pm
You need to get the outside support necessary to help you with this transition. Continue to remind yourself that both you and your partner deserve better than this.
SageBunny
January 2nd, 2015 9:14pm
Try to do it as quickly and cleanly as possible. If you need time to prepare (such as to take back important possessions or find a place to stay), try to plan ahead and to this beforehand. If you feel you might be in danger, leave when it's safest. Ask friends or family to help, and don't hesitate to call the authorities if things get dangerous -- police can even escort you to pick up your stuff in some areas. Good luck!
Anonymous
April 10th, 2015 8:36am
"This isnt working for me. I know i can do better. Ciao. Sayonara. Arrivederci. Au revoir. So long."
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2015 12:13am
I got unhealthy relationship lately, the best way to end it is talk. Talk deeply with your lover, think about future, and if it have blurred future, just end it.
Ametrine
June 30th, 2015 3:00am
Decide what you really want, make your intentions clear to the other person and walk away. Ensure you take care of yourself in the process.
misskris
July 13th, 2015 5:30pm
Well, that ending cannot be painless. But, when it's done, you'll feel relief. You tell to your partner that you want to end it, and when he tries to get you back, do not give in. Be consistent. And don't forget to stop every kind of contact.
AlwaysEssic
January 30th, 2016 5:02am
Be truthful toxic relationships are started for lies and misunderstandings. Sit down and chat tell the truth and be blunt about why you want to end this relationship.
Anonymous
January 16th, 2016 8:29pm
Pull them aside and tell them how you feel about the relationship. Tell them exactly what you want and need.
bubblyblueberry08
January 17th, 2016 2:40am
first try to sit down with the other person and talk to them about whats going wrong and bring them to realization. hopefully they will agree and the relationship will end mutualy. or you can bring a friend or two with you and end things on the spot with protection and back up prof from your friends.
RaniD
November 22nd, 2014 6:12pm
Attempt to talk to your partner calmly about why you find it unhealthy ad why you wan tot end the relationship.
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2014 2:25am
Best way is to get yourself apart for a moment and see the way your relationship is going. Making sure to you that you deserve the best from someone, talk to the person and dont regret your desicion because life will have something better and someone better prepared for you
Anonymous
January 23rd, 2016 4:22pm
Speak to your partner in a good manner and tell him/her what is bothering you and that its not healthy for the both of you.
crownrosemary
January 24th, 2016 4:18am
You have to explain why the relationship is failing, yes it'll be hard to hear the reaction but that's great that your ending it before it got worse.
smileforawhile
December 7th, 2014 3:51am
Calmly and respectfully tell the person how you're feeling and why you want to end the relationship. Communication is key. Let your partner speak as well, honor their feelings as well as your own. If you ever feel you're in danger, you should tell someone before you begin talking to them.
devilsOrchestra
January 27th, 2016 4:14pm
it's best for you both to sit down and discuss how it's making you feel and that you now want to call it a day. I would do this somewhere neutral like out for lunch so neither feel intimidated.
Joner2016
January 27th, 2016 7:31pm
Think about it with a clear mind and make a decision. Try to have a talk with your partner and let him/her know about your decision. Request him/her to respect your decision. One last thing is delete or throw away all the things like photos, phone numbers, gifts,etc which could remind you about your partner. Try to get engaged with work or socialize. Take excercise and get yourself physically fit.