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How can I stop talking to my ex after a breakup?

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Last Updated: 11/15/2021 at 2:03pm
How can I stop talking to my ex after a breakup?
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Top Rated Answers
LittleFloofFox
May 19th, 2016 10:10am
By not searching contact with him. take time for you now since you need it a lot more. Indulge a full day into things you enjoy doing. hang out with friends and don't be afraid to let out some sadness.
Anonymous
May 21st, 2016 4:53am
If you seriously want to stop talking to them, cut all communication. Tell them you need space and that you're done; that you may come back later. This fools them in "waiting". They eventually will give up and move on. Trust me.
WestWind92
May 21st, 2016 11:08am
It will be hard initially. Just keep yourself distracted. Do things you like doing. Be around people who'll make you happy. Just keep yourself busy for a while.
ninetynine1p
May 21st, 2016 4:18pm
Talk to your friends more instead, get to know new people, have fun, do things you love, if you find yourself thinking about them do something completely different, surround yourself with happiness - you'll get through it !
Brendoodlee
May 22nd, 2016 7:42pm
Delete your ex from social media, delete photo's or anything related to your ex. Not having contact with your ex is always a difficult thing to do, but deleting everything related to your ex, will help you forgetting him/her.
kingdom20
May 25th, 2016 7:03am
erase his numbers and block him in any social media! you cant keep him in any of your connections when you dont wanna talk to him! cut every connection you have with an ex you dont wanna talk to
Anonymous
May 25th, 2016 9:15pm
Delete their number or even block their number so you there is not an option. I know it can be hard.
Anonymous
May 26th, 2016 12:18am
Busy yourself with a new hobby. Or maybe get some of your friends and go out and have fun. Go out to movies or go out to a concert to something
YoureBeautiful911
May 27th, 2016 2:49pm
I'm sure you do miss him, but I'm also sure you'll find someone better so try to remove and delete his number and all kinds of interacting between you both. Also get out of your confront zone, meet new guys, perhaps you'll find someone to truly love.
NovemberRainfall157
May 28th, 2016 1:39am
Block their phone number so they cannot call or text you, block them off all of social media (facebook, twitter, instagram, etc) and this should help, as well as help you not to interact with them.
s2ka
May 29th, 2016 4:21pm
remove them from your contacts (facebook/whatsapp/..) and ask your friends to distract you, especially if you feel like talking to your ex again.
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2016 2:41am
It is best to cut off any contact for 60 days following the breakup, this gives both sides time to recover and begin moving on, by the end of 60 days you will hardly feel the need to speak to them.
caterina9999
June 2nd, 2016 6:15pm
Delete his number, his address, block him everyone and delete your pictures. Realize that's over, and start thinking about your future, instead.
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2016 2:28am
You can block their phone number or on social media. If you are in highschool or college you can completely ignore them.
sunshinethroughrain23
June 3rd, 2016 9:24pm
you can stop talking by changing your number. keep yourself busy with friends and just done bring your ex up
Anthonyedx
June 4th, 2016 10:57pm
By seeing if they want to be friends, if they do not,then just delete there social media and or number.
Anonymous
June 10th, 2016 12:11pm
I know this sounds grotesque . However, you should picture your ex taking a dump in front of you so you feel disgusted by him/her and / or block him You can write him a good bye note. FInd a temporary replacement. The best thing to do is block him/her.
YellowDaydream
June 12th, 2016 4:42pm
You can tell him/her that you will know break contact. That's a major step. Then you can seek help of friends or family to help you not fall back. If you are still unsure, deleting and blocking are always available options :)
generousRabbit93
July 31st, 2018 5:49am
remove all contact from them and just focus on yourself, theyre your ex for a reason dont forget that
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2020 12:55am
The breakup occurred for a reason. The best thing would be to implement the no contact rule, regardless of the situation. Talking to someone when you or they are in a distressed state would be adding fuel to a flame. Block their socials, delete their number, remove their items from immediate view. Use this time to invest in yourself: read, exercise, be with friends etc. Take time to reflect on yourself and the situation. When you are ready and with clear mind feel free to unblock them, or contact them to reflect on the situation. But the main point is really to not have any contact with them.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2021 12:25pm
It really depends on if you're willing to finally let go of this connection. It's very normal to have the urge to try and connect with an ex even if you're through, but if you really believe in this mindset then you will find it easy to just stop doing it! Talk to friends or family, distract yourself with the things you love to do. If it helps, block the person on any social media platforms. Learn to listen to your other thoughts! Try coping mechanisms, like writing down what you wish you could say to them and throwing the paper out. Remind yourself what you truly want to do about this situations, and you'll come out of it just fine :)