I want to stop thinking about my ex. What should I do?
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Once I've decided I would try my best to get rid of his thoughts. I'll move on doing different things
Anonymous
February 14th, 2016 9:16am
Buy a dog, or a cat.
Start doing some new activity.
Or simply accept the fact that He IS your EX.
I guess, you still can't accept that fact ... let it set into your mind.
Write on your hand "EX" so that you know he IS your EX. You've to accept that it is Past !
Surrounding yourself with friends is the best distraction. It's also a good idea to pick up a new hobby or take a mini vacation to clear your mind.
Anonymous
February 13th, 2016 12:25pm
Breakups are hard, and its not easy to get over about that one person that you have fallen hard for. Its okay for you to cry and all just know your limit and not harm yourself because there is no point on harming yourself for another person. Take your time and get back on your feet. No one can make you feel good about yourself, except for YOU.
Fix yourself first. Take care yourself. Work on yourself to be a better and a new you. That's up to you but time heal broken heart. But time also breaks a still heart.
What helped me is hanging out with my friends in lieu of alone time because that is when my thoughts drift to darker places. I know this answer sucks but it is true: Time is the best healer. Healing is also a process that can't be rushed, but spending time with those who appreciate you and make you happy can definitely make the interim less sucky. :)
Your should listen to music and plus they are a ex for a reason. So just ignore everything and just be happy.
Anonymous
February 12th, 2016 6:04pm
One good thing to do is to get rid of all items that remind you of your ex and to avoid going to places that remind you of them. Keep yourself busy and focus on things that make you feel happier and more satisfied. The break-up happened for a reason and keep reminding yourself of it. Sometimes we have a tendency to only remember positive aspects of the person and the relationship. The right person will come along, but there's no hurry, just take this time to improve yourself and set some nice goals.
Try to keep yourself buys, hangout with friends, do things you like, and start seeing new people! :)
Surround yourself with other things! Create some art, spend the afternoon with your best friends or family... If you continue to do things that will distract you and give you better things to do,.. You'll have forgotten about him in no time!
Stop talking to him, avoid doing things that remind you of him and erase all of the memories you have of him
Try to busy yourself with things you enjoy, or things to take your mind off your ex. Then look back at what happened to make you think of your ex and try to avoid that trigger or expect it and know how to cope with it. This will get easier with time
Sometimes when you keep busy and stay focused on something you enjoy doing , it can help to not think of your ex
As yourself what about them you miss and see how you can compensate on your own. Remember you are just as whole now as you were before they entered your life.
Your ex is your ex for a reason, always remember the reason and learn from it as you move forward in life.
Coming to terms with the terminated relationship will happen with time if you take some time to work on yourself. It is natural to think about past events, but perhaps take it as a learning experience. Like others said, taking up a hobby that is important to you and helps you grow as an individual is immensely satisfying and great for your growth away from the constant thoughts.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2016 10:13pm
Finding new hobbies or activities that you enjoy can help, as well as going out with friends and doing things that you've always wanted to do.
Sadly, you can only forget to think about your ex. For now, find happiness in little things. Realize you can smile without them. You realize you are your own home. Accept that you will have that lingering, behind the scene feelings for your ex. Just don't bottle it up and let it out now and then, whether to a friend or counselor.
Its hard to just automatically stop thinking about an ex. I would try and keep your mind focused on positive other things.
Go out and meet more people. Do more hobbies and delete them from your social media
You can only forget about an ex if you did not love him/her, if you did love then you have to accept them in your memory forever, in time it becomes easier to deal with those memories without any emotional pain it will just be memories
Anonymous
March 6th, 2016 8:30pm
Tell friends/family how you feel, about your heartbreak, and I completely understand your troubles (and need of help.) S/he just isn't "The One," so you should move on. In fact, get support from friends, and if you'd like, you can go to me for help numerous times. Breakup is hard, but try to forget, have fun, even give yourself a "Spa Treatment." Just keep the good moods up, forgive, forget, and keep the heartbreak down with fun and spas, and movies and ice cream and relaxation!
Keep yourself occupied. Mingle with new people, stay off the internet. Learn to love yourself and try become the best version of yourself. Work out more, learn a new hobby, study!!
Anonymous
March 5th, 2016 5:54pm
The best way to stop thinking about your ex is doing something to occupy your mind, a new activity or hang out with friends. The more alone time you have the more time you have to think about an ex
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2016 11:04am
Start living your life at the full on happiness you have ever lived before. It will help you to focus on your present and future and overcome your past.
Say thank you for the good parts that made you feel loved; say thank you for the bad parts that taught you some lessons; write it all down in a notebook, read it, re-live it, close it - then throw it away, burn it, feed the pages to the sea. That chapter is over. Start a fresh notebook - and continue the story of your life
Go out with friends and have fun. I think this is the best remedy there is after a break up. I hope it helped
Try going for new things! An online course, a party, going out with friends... All are helpful, really :)
Anonymous
February 26th, 2016 8:45pm
i can't give you any advice but I guess you may be feeling sad and regret some decisions that you have made.
Find things to engage in, do something to think of something else. Do something you enjoy doing, go somewhere new, or try something new.
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