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What can I talk about with my boyfriend on the phone?

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Last Updated: 08/15/2021 at 7:48pm
What can I talk about with my boyfriend on the phone?
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Anonymous
February 14th, 2020 2:33pm
I can understand why you’re asking this. My boyfriend and I also have trouble starting conversations. Sometimes the best conversations can be from simply getting to know each other, no matter how long you’ve been in the relationship. By asking each other questions about the other person can really help get to know your s.o. Another tip is try bringing up some past experiences or stories you feel comfortable enough sharing. That can also really help strengthen your bond. You could also talk about how your day was and talk about how you feel. Depending on the situation, you might need to tweak these tips a little bit to apply to your relationship.
Endlessdreemer
February 20th, 2020 10:01pm
Ask him to tell you about his day. Bring up current things going on in either of your lives: new job, class, family situation, etc. Get to know him on a deeper level. For example, what his dreams are; areas he wants to improve on; what he wants out of life; your family dynamics; what kind of marriage or long term relationship you want. If all else fails, maybe pop culture: latest or best movie, politics, music, etc. in addition you can chat about your dream vacations, your future goals together or separately. Phone sex can also be exciting.
Anonymous
February 21st, 2020 8:52pm
You can talk about how your day went, how his day went, ask each other what you did today, ask each other how you’re feeling and how you can support them and be there for them. You could talk about what you both have planned for the week ahead or maybe even the weekend if it’s a Friday, ask each other out on dates, talk about things that make you both happy, tell each other the goals you reached this week, you can invite each other out to plans if you aren’t busy, make each other feel wanted, loved and cared for. There’s so much you can talk about.
herealways27
March 6th, 2020 7:02am
It sounds like you are running out of topics to discuss with your boyfriend on the phone. I think a topic that can work everyday is to ask how his day was and share about your day to him. If you can, don’t try to keep it short. You might want to get closer to him by digging deeper into what happened and how you felt about them. Usually, from one thing that happened during a day, you can always relate it to other stories in the past that you can think of. By doing this, he can get to understand more about your current and past experience, and that should also take up a lot of time talking with your boyfriend too!
Anonymous
March 26th, 2020 5:01am
Talk about things that interest both of you or use the phone conversation as a way to connect on a deeper level. There are a lot of resources online for sparking conversation. Psychology Today has a great article called "36 Questions to Bring You Closer Together" which has a lot of these. By doing these on a night when you feel you have little to chat about, you will be able to learn more about yourself as well as each other. There are also similar ones throughout the web that can give you more prompts for talking, but just having conversations about what interests the both of you have is a great start.
Lynzdeedee
March 29th, 2020 2:36pm
You can talk about anything really. How your day has been and ask how his day is going. You can talk about how the relationship is going and things you both like about it and things you'd like to change. Understand each other and how your both feeling. It is important to both check in with each other and make sure your both still getting what you want from the relationship. You can plan days that you want to see each other on and days out together having planned fun activities with each other. It's best to be open and honest with each other at all times.
GuardianRose12
April 4th, 2020 11:08pm
Great question, The fun about talking to your partner on the phone you can both can talk about what ever you want to really, start of asking how is day is and if he got any plans for the rest of the day, what activities you both like to do together and maybe set a date up that you can both meet up, Ask your boyfriend what his favourite things are ie colour, favourite food, best TV show and find out why just really get to know him better, Tell him how you have been feeling that day and what you been up to that day
circusmirror123
April 8th, 2020 6:26pm
You can talk about anything you want to talk about! A good way to start is talking about how your day was, how you're feeling and what you got up to today, or maybe what you're planning to do today! You can also talk about the last time you two were together, or the last time you spoke. Another thing you could talk about is your goals or aims, so what you want to achieve or something you think would be cool if you could do. It's also super cool if you guys do something together on the phone, like watching the same thing on Netflix!
Ssolis97
April 25th, 2020 5:02pm
You can ask him how his day is going, if he has eaten, or if he slept right, what’s his plans for the day. Try to connect with him and make him feel like you care. Ask him things you don’t yet know about him try to learn something new about him. Ask what are his favorite hobbies or activities he’s interested in doing on a daily bases. Ask him if he has time to spend time with you. You can talk about the good memories of y’all’s relationship and try to laugh with him. Who doesn’t like a bit of a laugh, right!
Anonymous
May 21st, 2020 11:11am
You could start with simple things such as 'how was your day today?'. Listen to their answers, and engage in the conversation as much as possible. From there, I think that the conversation should flow on it's own. As the conversation goes on, you could talk about all the things you enjoy, and ask them what they think. This was, you can find out more about their likes and dislikes while keeping the conversation light. Relationships take time and effort, so do not rush anything. Just do what feels right for you, and trust the rest to fall in place on it's own.
supportall15
May 29th, 2020 3:07am
Hi, I understand coming up with conversations is super difficult in any situation with anybody. But thankfully, there are so many topics you could talk about, the most important thing to remember is to let it flow, a forced conversation is the worst! My best friend has the same exact problem with her boyfriend while I naturally have really good conversations with him. Some tips are too just start with small talk and expand from there, unless you’re extremely comfortable discussing, stay away from religion and politics because those are such controversial and tricky subjects. Your day, likes/dislikes, pop culture, school, and being a little flirty are just a few ideas of what you could talk about.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2020 8:49am
That is a question many of us ask ourselves and others a lot. What could we talk about on a phone call with our partner? Texting or hanging out with them seems pretty easy, but being on the phone with them could always feel uncomfortable and sometimes it is pretty awkward. The answer is; whatever you want to talk about. You could talk about your day, your interests, and even the events happening around us. Most of the times, you would start by catching up on things, and probably end up discussing BLM, or COVID-19 breakout. You could always talk about your interests, e.g. astrology, music, history, and poetry even! Each topic would lead you to another, and you could end up on the phone with them for hours long! The start is always tricky and awkward, but once you've launched your topic everything would sort itself into place.
Anonymous
June 18th, 2020 2:21pm
You can talk with your boyfriend about anything that makes you comfortable and happy. This can be casual and relaxing chit chat, or making plans for the future or if nobody is overhearing the conversation it can be anything on the romantic spectrum. You can still show love over the phone, and still keep each other company. Sometimes it can be awkward to talk on the phone instead of in person or text but there's plenty of things that you can talk about to get to know each other better or to show that you love each other. Good luck!
Anonymous
June 18th, 2020 7:01pm
We usually talk about the most random things like movies or what happened during our days. We also talk about what we'd do when we see each other. Just a lot of random topics. It's also nice to watch shows together. It gives you more stuff to talk about. And if you want, you could do phone s*x. But that just depends on whether or not you are comfortable with that. You can also pray together. Or watch anime together!!
Anonymous
June 24th, 2020 5:47am
Just like taking a break from your job search is important, so is having the right mindset. It is hard to be a job seeker, applying for many jobs and possibly not hearing back from employers. Work to focus on the progress you are making with each application—honing your search tactics, getting efficient with your application process, and understanding what keywords to use for an ATS are all important tools to use as you go through your search. Each time you apply for a job, you are improving your process, and that’s great progress to landing a job. nice
bouncyWaterfall89
July 2nd, 2020 4:35am
Is he happy? How is he mentally? How are his family? Talking about your problems only if he is in the right frame of mind. Your feelings and concerns about him and yourself Any future plans Communicate and solve problems, if you have any. Positivity Love Express yourself Any new things you have started like a hobby or new stuff you have started. Your fears Pandemic Outside world Any upcoming online events New drama or series or books you have started Any other issues or aspects you need to address Any online jobs or internship you might want to start Support both physically and emotionally if you are in the right frame of mind
Anonymous
July 18th, 2020 6:47pm
On the telephone you can talk about 1). the way you feel 2). plans 3). thoughts 4). feelings 5). plans for the future 6). the news and the news of the world. 7). You favorite music and or favorite food. 8). You can talk about things you like to do which make you feel good or things you hate do do but when you do it (like such as making your bed ) when you are free then you feel much better...in other words when you are free of a chore, you feel better! Speak positive and not negative!
Anonymous
July 24th, 2020 4:09am
You can talk about anything you want! You could talk about your hopes and dreams, you can talk about your past, the good and the bad, ask about family members and talk about family members. Just Express Yourself however you want to. Just remember that it is a conversation that goes both ways. Give him or her a chance to with you. And remember you can always dive into more difficult subjects, such as, a resend or not show recent difficult time in your life, or taking the relationship to the next step, or your future together, or really whatever you want!
honeydrops19
August 9th, 2020 4:23pm
You should be able to discuss whatever you both feel comfortable with. It can be about how your day went, any plans you might have, or perhaps a show that you watched recently. This will become easier as time goes by. Being relaxed and paying attention to what he is saying, as well as showing genuine interest will most likely have a positive outcome. The point of these conversations can be to build a stronger relationship, where you both can feel appreciated and accepted, without having to try to seem in a certain way or impress. Whenever you think you are out of ideas, try picking up a topic that crossed your mind recently. Anything goes as long as it’s not hurtful to your partner.
Anonymous
August 27th, 2020 11:08am
Anything and everything. Your common interests. His likes and dislikes, your likes and dislikes. Common topics like food, sports, movies, tv series, politics, geography, science, nature, pizza, weather, animals, penguins, etc. But most importantly how you both are feeling and doing. What your goals in life are because it's very important to be on the same page with each other. It helps in knowing where everyone stands in their life and maybe even broadening our minds and keeping them on their toes with the general trivia. Conversations aren't that hard, they have a way of flowing on their own. Take care
aNewFriendForU
August 30th, 2020 11:14pm
You could talk about Future career prospects such as plans for college and university as well as future jobs. School/ college subjects and what subjects you would like to pursue in the future. Childhood memorie! Future date ideas and plans! Bucket list ideas that you could do together! The challenges of the lad week and how you overcame them and the week coming up and the challenges you need to be prepared for! Hobbies and things you are interested in or are considering taking up as a hobbie! Your music taste and artists you have in common! Fun games like truth and dare!
Anonymous
September 10th, 2020 8:34pm
You can start with a greeting and ask him to share how his day went. What positive things happened? What negative things? It is suggested to ask open-ended questions if you feel the conversation is coming to an end when you do not want it to; this will allow your boyfriend to expand on his thoughts and continue the conversation. Furthermore, talk about things you share in common that you can both contribute to in your discussion. You can elaborate on current events and your perspective on them, or you can even ask a question about him that you are uncertain of the answer to. This will allow conversation to move forward. Lastly, it would be strong to close off a conversation by scheduling plans for the future.
Anonymous
September 11th, 2020 2:03pm
Talking with your boyfriend on the phone can be a struggling issue sometimes. I myself a male would like to answer this. We love talking about what we like to do, If we like to fish talk about fishing. Talking about something like that will make him like you more and build trust and a good friendship with him. Guys just love talking about themselves. Plan for what you guys are gonna do on your next date. Think of good restaurants you guys can go to for a date. Simple things like that are key to talking to a guy on the phone. Hope this helps :)
Anonymous
September 23rd, 2020 6:40pm
Talking to a significant other on the phone can be very rewarding and can help foster communication in the relationship. However, if you feel like you're not sure what to talk about, a good starting point might be considering what you have in common. Do you both go to school? Are you both working? If you answered "yes" to either of these questions, you could consider asking them how their day at school or work was. Do you have hobbies or interests in common? Consider discussing common hobbies or interests. You might also consider other topics such as: family life, upcoming plans, or any goals either of you might have. If you feel comfortable doing so, you can also offer them emotional support for anything they might be going through or ask for support if you need it as well. Being open to communication with your significant other is a great way to grow the relationship.
MisoSmiley22
October 9th, 2020 2:19pm
You can talk about shared interests, exciting plans coming up, how your day was! There are tons of great topics! You can look up "conversation starters" on Google and get to kn ow each other better! Depending on how intimate your relationship is, you can complete the "36 Questions that Lead to Love." This is a psychological study that was completed and covers a lot of topics that have two individuals truly get to know each other in a more intimate sense. Ask him questions about his day, what he is looking forward to, etc. and make plans for the next time you see each other in person!
Anonymous
November 26th, 2020 5:26pm
Hey! Glad you've asked that question! Here are a few things you could talk to your boyfriend about on the phone: 1. Get Into A Healthy Debate. 3. Ask About His Day. 2. Make Plans For The Future. 3. Play The Question Game. 4. Tell Each Other Exactly How You Feel. 5. Share Random Thoughts. 6. Talk about books or movies 7. talk about your day Hope this helped! 10.
SchmellyAshley
November 27th, 2020 9:19am
Think of the things that makes not just you, but you and your boyfriend happy. Talk about your similarities or your interests like hobbies. If he gets bored and tries to change the topic, don't make a fuss about it. If he doesn't show interest in your topic, then let him talk about anything. Don't be angry because this is an opportunity for both of you to get to know each other. Listen attentively to what he says and show the interest in your voice. Be sure to make him comfortable when you talk to each other. Meaning, make him feel like you're fine with the topic and you're listening carefully. Listening isn't an option. He might interview you about what you heard and remembered from your conversation. If you're getting annoyed with what he keeps on talking about, feel free to say no because if he really loves you, he'll let you do so. Calmly apologize that you have to do something.
10311996
December 3rd, 2020 7:22pm
At times, as corny as a list of questions may sound, they can be your perfect solution to a dry spell of conversations. Even if both of you have emailed each other the answers, you can remember a few of his shocking or hilarious answers and talk about it when both of you meet each other. Random bits of gossip and news are always great things to talk about. At the beginning of a new relationship, everything’s new and fascinating because both of you are trying to know more about each other’s lives. The best way to get to know him better is by talking about his day, every day. When both of you know about each other’s lives, you’ll feel more connected to each other.
Glo44
December 17th, 2020 10:44pm
You can talk about your day, ask about his. You could also talk about the past or you could play games. You could also watch movies together on Netflix party. If you're facetiming, you could be working on something and telling him about it and showing it to him. You can also bring up things you know he's passionate about if you feel like he isn't involved enough in the conversation. I think telling him about something funny that happened to you is a great way to positively communicate with your S/O. If you're worried that you don't have anything to talk about you can let him guide the conversation as well.
tearainandwarmblankets
January 15th, 2021 8:55pm
Try to connect based on mututal interests and if not ask them to talk about something they are interested in talking about - whether that be sports or philosophy. Perhaps try listening to a podcast and chatting about that, or discussing a tv show you both watch and let the conversation flow from there. Sometimes it is nice to be talking but also doing your own thing (e.g. if you're both studying make a call) and then it feels more natural since if you were hanging out you wouldn't be expected to be just speaking the entire time. Hope this helps.