What can I talk about with my boyfriend on the phone?

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What can I talk about with my boyfriend on the phone?
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JorJor20 - Expert in Breakups
December 3rd, 2015 11:54am
I completely understand being apprehensive about talking on the phone with someone. It's a lot of pressure! When I had a boyfriend, my favorite thing to talk about was asking him deep questions. Some times you have more courage over the phone to ask the burning questions you have.
glassjaw
September 6th, 2015 4:12am
You can speak about how your days went and even make future plans. Another idea is asking him questions so you can get to him even more if the relationship is still new
Anonymous
August 21st, 2015 10:38am
ask him how was his day? about his work? ask him about his health , tell him that you were thinking about him(that will make him smile). ask him if he had food? and main thing.....ask him if he is free.DO NOT DISTRUB him wen in work or up busy with things
Anonymous
November 20th, 2015 10:39am
anything but not about family, your personal life, your status, where are you and the most important is ...if he ask you weather you are alone or not just ignore it
organticMango15
October 23rd, 2015 10:44pm
If your relationship is fairly new, ask him things about himself. If not, then just ask about his day, what he did etc. it can be literally anything. I think in a relationship all your partner wants to do is hear your voice and speak to you, it doesn't matter what about. Tell him about a film you watched recently, tell him about something new you learned recently - anything! Of course, he needs to make some effort, too. It's hard to keep a conversation going when the effort is only one-sided.
Maxen
December 4th, 2015 11:31pm
If you don't have anything to talk about you don't have to call them up. A relationship doesn't constitute constant calling unless you both feel like doing it.
lovely62
September 12th, 2015 1:03am
I usually talk to him about things that are personal that way we are more open and comfortable with each other
ScorpioDolly
October 30th, 2015 11:16pm
How your day went? When you want to hang out next, just joke with eachother and relax. Tell eachother little stories. It shouldn't be awkward, make it fun!
LittleMusicBox
August 22nd, 2015 2:39pm
I've found that having a regular conversation that you would have with your partner in the living room or at a restaurant works fine. Talk about how the day went, new exciting things that happened to you, trips you could take together.. What's for dinner! You can also talk intimately with your partner on the phone. This could be romantic things (sweet nothings, as they say) or something totally different like reading the same book over the phone, which is especially good if your partner is away for a while. Don't forget to skype/FaceTime/video chat with your sweetie, too. Having the face to face contact in addition to the conversation can make it seem like you guys are right in the room together. Plus, with video chat, you have the added bonus of showing as well as telling! Finally, I'd say relax and don't worry about what to talk about. The conversation will flow and take on different tones and topics. Be okay with those awkward pauses, they're normal! Use them as a moment to regroup or think up something else to say that will engage your partner. Good luck!
Makarios
November 21st, 2015 6:19pm
Gooday Do either of you have preferences on what to talk about on the phone?.. maybe you do have an open and honest conversation about phone conversation topics and preferences with your boy friend.
PoliteOcean
September 4th, 2015 8:28pm
You can talk on the phone with your boyfriend about whatever interests the two of you. You don't always need to have something planned out to talk about. If you are in a relationship it should just feel natural. It shouldn't feel "forced". Talk about your day, your families, or whatever your interests are. Sometimes silence is ok too.
Youarebeautiful77
August 22nd, 2015 2:00pm
Guys just love giving advice to people. They always think they have the answers to everything. If you want to bond better with your new boyfriend, ask him for some help, be it about your work life or an issue that’s more personal. He’ll appreciate you a lot more because he’ll feel more dependable and better about himself.
sweetlinda22
November 11th, 2015 12:48am
the best and worst part of your day, your plans for the next day, what you are doing at the moment or what you'd rather be doing, a random thought in your mind, how you are feeling about a situation. you can ask him questions too, make suggestions for example to hang out, inquire stuff maybe about how his family is doing, reaffirm plans you both have...just be random and let the conversation flow, don't think too much of it otherwise your conversation will sound revised. :)
Anonymous
August 19th, 2015 12:56pm
You can tell him about your day, you can just tell him what you feel. You can also ask how is he doing
Anonymous
August 19th, 2015 7:16pm
anything you'd like! He's your boyfriend and is there for you to support you and to listen to you. If you truly love and trust him, you should be able to be open with him :)
Anonymous
November 28th, 2015 6:14pm
it depends relationship's time. But you can always talk about normal things. I mean about cinema, music, foods and games :)
BouncyTree16
August 23rd, 2015 3:21pm
Try to ask what he is doing, then if he says nothing, turn 'nothing' into a conversation, like telling him what YOU'RE doing.
ClaraJaneM
August 20th, 2015 10:47am
If you feel as though you can trust him, I'd say anything that has you feeling happy, sad, angry, worried. Anything at all! Although, always keep in mind that you should never go out aide of your comfort zone whilst speaking about anything; you should always feel safe disclosing the information that you give.
Anonymous
August 20th, 2015 9:37pm
You can talk to your boyfriend about how your days was and specific moments about when you missed them.
RyleeOk21
September 4th, 2015 2:17am
Talk about your favorite movies and why you liked them, it will spark a conversation and you will end up knowing even more about the person!
Anonymous
September 10th, 2015 8:58am
"What would you do" and "What if" scenarios are always a fun thing to discuss, as long as they are kept light hearted. Such as "What would you do in an apocalypse" As well as daily emotions you went through and being open. Do not forget to ask about them, people love to talk about their own well being and having someone listen. It makes them feel appreciated and wanted.
SouthernlivingNNC
August 19th, 2015 12:08am
Ask him how is day is going, Maybe get to know him better. Talk about things you and him like or plan a fun date night!
AuntieLili
August 19th, 2015 1:22am
I talk about my day, how I am feeling and ask him about his day and how he is feeling. We also discuss plans of activities we can do together.
Anonymous
August 21st, 2015 9:47pm
Life? Music? Weather? Everything? Games? I think there's no real answer to that question, when we talk with someone we just talk, there's no reason to pre-think about the topics.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2017 2:24pm
Well you can share your day with him you can also ask him about his day/how he slept & tell him a joke
HelpfulCookieCrum
June 9th, 2016 11:10am
Ask how he is, ask him how his day has been, tell him how much he means to you, tell him some jokes.
Anonymous
June 10th, 2016 11:59am
You can talk to your boyfriend about whatever makes you comfortable on the phone. You can talk to him about how to improve your relationship, your life goals, your aspirations and what's happening in your life.
Anonymous
August 27th, 2015 5:57am
Ask him how his day was, what he ate, and what his plans are for tomorrow. That would help start a conversation going.
PvtCaboose23
August 28th, 2015 8:28pm
Pretty much anything you want to. Whatever you feel comfortable talking about. Remember some things are best said in person
Anonymous
September 11th, 2015 1:48pm
Anything! Talk like you would if you two were sitting right next to each other. Just because you're on the phone doesn't mean it should change :)