I was a bully . The past keeps haunting me even though I apologized. What should I do?

You need to learn to forgive and forget the person you once were. You obviously feel bad as you've said sorry and want to change. Not everyones perfect and sometimes we do things we regret later on. You just have to learn to live through it and realise that your not perfect.

Not sure that you can prevent the past from haunting you. Just like you can't alter the past itself, because what has been done has been done and can not be undone. We often, at one point or another, want to go back and redo things. But we can't and it is better to attempt to try and move forward into the future, rather than stay stuck and overthink the past. You have apologized, right? By doing that, you show true remorse and also show that you have matured from it. As long as you have learned from your mistake, and do not repeat it - Then, that's the only thing that you can do. The feelings of guilt will live with you, regardless of how much you try to forget about them. Just be strong enough to endure them, and look past them! Hope this helps.

If you have asked frogiveness from them for what you did, the next thing is to ask forgiveness from yourself. If you are truly sorry for what you did, then over time you will be able to let it go.

Perhaps you could try to reconnect with the person or people you bullied in some way. Have a serious conversation about things, and perhaps even do something small, like sending them some flowers.

You have noticed how bad bullying is,you do regret your behaviour and apologized which you should be proud of yourself because you have taken the right step. Now you have to learn how to forgive yourself and show to everyone that you are completely a new loving,caring,and compassionate soul. You are not the same person as a bully you used to be. Past is past,you can't change it,what you can do is learn from it and make the future better.

have you talked to someone about it? try and remember that what happened in the past is done and over with. dont stress it. you have apologized and thats amazing. most people dont even do that! keep your head up!

you apologised, which is more than atone can ask. you can't change the past and you shouldn't feel guilty, we all bully in one way or another. you are a good person, your past can't define you.

While you've apologized and were likely forgiven, it would appear that you haven't been forgiven by the most important person: yourself. If you start thinking of who you were before, instead of hating it, look at it as progress. "Wow, I used to respond negatively to this, but now I'm being a better person working to make others feel good!" Use it to show yourself just how far you've come.

First, be proud of yourself for changing. It's not easy to admit that you bullied someone or to stop once you start. And it takes a lot of courage to try to make up for past bullying behavior.

That is a hard situation, I'm very sorry you've found yourself in it. Sometimes our past grips us like a vice and wont let go for anything. The thing is, we've all done things in the past that we're less than proud of. When I was younger I acted very stupid and did things that I'm still trying to work past. The fact is, you're trying to be a better person now, and that is wonderful. You can't undo the past, but you can be a better you and make the future great! Good luck! I believe in you!

Firstly you need to realise you are a changed person now. When you first thought to ask this question on here showed that you realise your mistake. You know you cant change your past just accept it. When we accept our mistake we can find a solution to it. At the end I would like to say -"Sometimes all matters is one step you take to improve yourself"

Be the person you want to see in the world. You apologized and maybe you can help other people do so too. Educate. Use your story in a way that can help others.

Apologise to the ones you hurt. Even if it would seem irrelevant to them. You will feel better knowing you that those people now know youre a changed person. this will serve as a great first step to your healing.

Sounds like you need to learn how to forgive yourself for what you have done and let it go that way.

You've got to learn to let go of the past and continue moving forward. You can't change what you did, but what you CAN do is make a difference in the lives of victims of bullying. Volunteer in your community towards some anti-bullying campaign or sign up as a listener here on 7 cups and talk to people who are victims of bullying. The fact that you feel guilt for what you did means you aren't a bad person.

Bullying has become an area of increased focus in schools and workplaces. Often times people who are acting in ways that can be considered bullying - using hurtful words, pushing or hitting, starting lies or rumors - are experiencing their own difficulties but struggle to express that to others. The fact that you recognize your past behaviors as bullying shows a great deal of insight. Taking time to reflect back on the time in your life where you consider yourself to have been a bully can help you figure out if there was indeed something going on in your life that was painful and difficult for you to deal with. There are resources available on 7 Cups that discuss bullying and may be able to help you process that time and begin to move forward.

Learn to forgive yourself, We all make mistakes but it's about how we grow and learn from them that is important.

I'm glad you apologized, but I regret to inform you that that is not enough. You need to be super nice to this kid that you bullied. I was bullied and I would never wish that kind of pain on anyone else. Offer to help and be kind to the person whenever time permits, and if time does not permit go out of your way. If you do this, hopefully all will be well again.

So I was also a bully during my freshman year of high school , didn't physically hurt people but I bullied by my words and jokes(which were way too offensive). Only when I reached junior year and the pandemic dawned upon us did I realize what all I had done wrong. Almost immediately I apologized to all those I knew would have been affected, still the feeling that I almost suck the life out of some classmates never left me. I started channelizing all the empathy I had inside me to something good. I changed my behavior completely. I started to talk sweetly with everyone, went out of my comfort zone to be friends with people I hated during that time and most importantly started treating everyone with compassion and kindness. This not only help me let go of my past behavior but also develop emotionally as a human being. So the catch here is try to convert all of the emotional guilt into sympathy, kindness and love for fellow beings.

Forgive yourself and strive to be a better person in the future. Understand why you acted the way you did.

Don't become a bully ever again. Prevent it from happening again. Make peace with the person/people you've bullied. You also have to make peace with yourself. People make stupid decisions, and we are all human. We've all made mistakes. Try and accept that.

Take a deep breath. The fact that you feel guilty about the situation says a lot. Take the opportunity to move on from the past and focus on the present you.

Many people do not realize that people that bully are actually hurting as well and also need guidance. It was wonderful of you to apologize. Can you forgive yourself now? This is important. Maybe reflect about the reasons you felt like bullying in the first place and talk with a listener or someone else. When I work with bullying situations, I believe that the bullier and the person that has been bullied both deserve to be heard. Forgive yourself, reflect on why, and talk with someone. Thank you for saying you are sorry. You are so brave and I am just really proud of you. Be proud of yourself and now stand up for others. Great job. Feel free to talk with any listener.

You have grown from your bully days and acknowledge the pain you've once inflicted. Recognizing and not repeating, along with stopping current bullies from inflicting the same pain, is enough to not be haunted and know you are living a great, helpful life

Being ashamed of your past only means that you have grown from it. It means that you are able to look back at your past actions and reflect on it and see that you have become better than that now and that you understand why what you did was wrong. It is normal to still feel bad about past actions but it is important to also realise that it happened in the past. No one is perfect, everyone has made mistakes in their life. You should feel proud that you were able to admit to your wrongs and apologize.

You should forgive yourself and move forth. I was bullied and I have forgiven my bullies. As long as you have learned a lesson in the process. You know that it was wrong and you now know better. Some bullies don't even acknowledge that what they did was wrong and they move forward like it's nothing. You are able to advise somebody who bullies others because you know better. You can even maybe go to your local community hall and address the negative impact of bullying and you can also tell them that you used to be a bully but now you are a better person so that the light can keep on lighting, so that there is less hate in this world.

your knew your mistakes and you were able to live up to them thats the best it will haunt you but make sure you do everythingin your power to help other when they are being bullied

You know what you did and who you did it to. The first thing is you have admitted that you did wrong and how it has made you feel terrible in later years. Have you ever considered checking in those people you hurt in the past? Perhaps you could attempt to absolve those sins by apologizing or perhaps write your younger self a letter. You could explain how awful you were and how you now feel awful about it. I just think you have to try not hating yourself for it anymore. You have said sorry but you need to know that you are a better person now.

There's no point in apologizing when you're not accepting the sorry, yourself. You gotta forgive yourself, first. Hopefully, everything will be alright then. :)

Live your life the best you can be. Try to distract yourself with something else, but if that doesn't help, try to make up for it. Be really kind to people. Do favors for them.