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Why do bullies find it necessary to pick with the quiet folk?

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Last Updated: 08/03/2021 at 7:14pm
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May 20th, 2015 8:54pm
because theres a fair chance the quiet ones wont say anything back to them or tell a teacher about them
September 7th, 2015 11:57pm
Because they are cowards who can only deal with someone weaker than themselves. They are not brave enough to mess with tough ones.
May 20th, 2015 7:33pm
Because we quiet folk are awesome and the bullys wish they could be as independent its a hater thang with the bullys
January 15th, 2015 11:27am
Bullies are insecure in nature and they want to extend their insecurity to someone who isn't going to come and bite them off
November 9th, 2015 4:53pm
Bullies pick on quiet folk because they wont stand up for themselves like wolves they hunt in packs otherwise they would lose their power.
February 6th, 2017 1:02am
Bullies are often insecure themselves, so they look for people that they think are insecure too. Quiet folk are not always insecure even if bullies think so. The best way to combat bullies is to show them that their actions do not affect you and that you are strong.
May 31st, 2015 6:28am
Bullies feel the need to pick on the quiet kids because those are the ones that will cause the least amount of trouble about it. Most quiet kids that are bullied will stay silent about it, and will never say anything. Bullies know this and will exploit it as much s they can.
August 5th, 2015 10:47pm
In my opinion it's because they have nothing else better to do, have no life and need to grow up. I grew up as a shy girl especially in school and I was being bullied everyday. One day outta nowhere enough became enough for me and I just stood up for myself and they were shocked. Don't get me wrong it didn't keep anyone from picking with me on down the line, but it got better.
December 8th, 2015 1:26am
They do this because they feel you are vulnerable and you give the image that you won't fight back. So what you can do is stand up taller, keep your head high, show confidence. If people bully you, fight back. You can get in their face and they will be so surprised they might stop bullying you. False confidence is better than no confidence.
January 25th, 2016 8:44am
Bullies have nothing to do. They bully people in order to be pleased by seeing someone feel bad. You don't have to worry about them. You've to worry about people that get bullied and help them out.
June 22nd, 2015 2:41am
Bullies find it necessary to pick with the quiet folk because they think the quiet folk would not tell anyone about it, or that the quiet folk doesn't have any feelings, when, in reality, the quiet folk most certainly does.
April 8th, 2019 8:33pm
I wouldn’t say “necessary” more like an easy target. Because for one, many bullies might find that the quiet ones are easier to target, because they might not be able to speak up for themselves. I know personally that lots of bullies get jealous and pick on the quiet ones to boost the ego that they don’t have, they do that to make themselves feel better and make the quieter ones feel worse, which is obviously isn’t right, but bullies also pick on them because they also might be the “odd ones” or the “loners” so they feel like the quiet ones are an easy target.
April 6th, 2015 1:48pm
Most bullies have had someone bully them in the past. Which probably made them feel weak, so in order to appear strong, they bully other people. The quiet folk are the least likely to argue back and therefore are an easy target for bullies to appear strong.
June 17th, 2015 8:34pm
I think that bullies have insecurities and have some how learned that behavior. It is often an attention getter. They often pick on the quiet kids because they feel as if they will not stand up or speak up for themselves. This is not always the case though.
July 6th, 2015 9:43am
I think people feel that quiet people are more weak and since they're usually not popular, they don't have anyone to stand up for them and they won't stand up for themselves either. They also usually don't have a large influence on the people around them so the bullies don't have to fear getting in trouble with groups.
July 14th, 2015 2:10pm
They want to pick on someone who's weaker and will be less likely to fight back, and if you're quiet and introverted you're less likely to be with other people, which means you're less likely to have allies to back you up.
September 14th, 2015 4:49pm
Most of the time bullies don't know what they're doing. They can't live with themselves alone and need someone else to fule their life. And someone who is not very outspoken and difficult is alot easier to deal with.
January 4th, 2016 7:35am
Because they think the quiet person will just allow them to do it and the won't say anything........
April 19th, 2016 6:28pm
Bullies think the quiet are the easiest targets. They won't go after someone that they think can beat them. Bullies want to ake people afraid of them and they won't look for a challenge.
June 14th, 2016 7:51pm
Because they think the quiet people are the lest likely to resist or fight them back. They wouldn't pick on someone tougher than them.
April 19th, 2015 4:20am
Because bullys know that the quiet folk will not fight back. The bully knows tjat the quiet people will not do anything to stop them from doing what they do.
April 26th, 2015 11:31am
Because they are having insecurities about themselves, and they try to vent it out on someone who wont fight back
May 8th, 2015 4:49pm
Bullies are often insecure them self and pick on others to help ease that insecurity that they are feeling.
July 20th, 2015 2:27am
Bullies think the quiet kids won't speak up and tell, they won't fight back and probably many more reasons.
August 18th, 2015 6:53am
Because bullies think that the quiet ones won't stand up for themselves and are an easier target. They don't know how the quiet people really are, so they're just taking false hope and taking a chance with it. They know the more talkative people and don't ever find a reason to bully them because they probably are friends with the talkative people.
September 16th, 2015 2:09am
I think overall bullies pick on quieter people because they're so much more of an easy target. They assume quiet people most likely won't want to cause trouble, and won't ask for help because they're too weak and afraid. Though that may not always be the case, in a way it makes bullies feel higher and more superior.
October 27th, 2015 8:02am
The quiet folks are the easiest to bully, tease or harass because they won't fight back, argue or complain so they can be easy to victimise.
November 9th, 2015 2:26am
Bullies prey on weaker individuals well that's how they have described it! Very sad but bullies will pick on anyone who aren't able to speak up for themselves or confront the bully at all.
February 22nd, 2016 11:23pm
Bullies find it necessary to pick with the quiet folk because bullies themselves are weak individuals that cannot act on those that will "make a big deal" out of the bullying act. They see quiet people as weak people and therefore they become targets, even when quietness is a kind of strength, a kind of barrier, within itself.
March 7th, 2016 10:07am
Because they know that quiet folk won't strike back and thus the can establish their superiority easily.