How can I remember that things will get better?

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Last Updated: 11/26/2018 at 6:51pm
How can I remember that things will get better?
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Tylerr
January 11th, 2016 7:34pm
Draw a looooooooong line. From one side of the paper to the other. Now draw dots on that line from end to end. Make 100 of them. Counting the dots from left to right, stop at the dot that corresponds with how old you are. Circle it. See all the rest of those dots to the right of that? Each of of those is a year. An entire year! 365 days. That's 8,760 hours. Now you cannot tell me that in all that time that things will not look up for you. Imagine the kind of person, or things you will accomplish, in the future. This life is yours to create and you have so much time to do it. Life will always have low points, it's inevitable. But the beauty of this is that the low points will make us appreciate the high points so much more. What's like without a good struggle, right? Whatever you are going through right now will pass, and you will be okay. I promise! xx
Polkiujy
May 27th, 2015 2:03am
Think about the life ahead of you. There's so much to live for. Good time with friends, great time with family, finding the person you love, getting married, having a family to care for, learning new things, seeing beautiful and amazing sights. There's so much to live for on this gigantic earth and feelings are all temporary. Things that we feel will eventually go away just as much as happiness does. And if it's a person / thing that's making us feel horrible, then we have to remember that one day, that thing wont be in our life anymore. We will have moved on from it. We will have moved onto something better for us. Something so much more amazing. There's always going to be so much that life has to offer us and yes life will always surprise us the the most CRAZIEST things but then again, life is just so spontaneous like that. If such bad things can come at once like this, then think of all the amazing things that could be rolling downhill and towards you. Things can and will always get better and that's what i love about life. That's what i love about living.
RaveRae
May 23rd, 2016 1:51am
A quote I like to remember when things aren't very good is this: An arrow has to be pulled back to be shot. You're just being pulled back before you're shot.
raquelmonteiro
January 3rd, 2015 10:24pm
Things will get better, read quotes. Write good positive quotes in your books, write it in your face if you have to. Don't stop fighting. I'm proud of you.
Anonymous
March 29th, 2016 2:10pm
remember you are still breathing, facing your problem and your fears. every. single. day. and you survive. remember that. you'll be fine and you'll get through it
Anonymous
December 12th, 2014 4:09pm
Just take a deep breath, look at your mirror and say "I will make it " and mean it. Just run with hope in your heart
Itsacrazylifewelive
July 20th, 2015 6:04pm
I sometimes liked to think of the past and remember all of the bad things that happened and realize that I overcame all of those things to get to where I am today and if things got better then, they could totally get better now. :)
Erynn
November 21st, 2014 4:52am
That's a good question! Because sometimes it IS super hard to remember, let alone believe it. Sometimes talking to friends and a counselor helps. You can write yourself notes on the mirror, wall, journal, cupboard, on your hand... You can make a playlist of recover/it gets better songs and/or poems on your iPod. You can follow inspirational/it gets better blogs online. You can write three affirmations and practice reciting them in front of the mirror, while waiting in line, before class, after meals... all the time. Honestly, it just takes practice and lots and lots of little reminders. It's so hard to keep going, but you can. And it WILL get better. Come on here to talk any time you need. We will help remind you too and help you realize it for yourself. Things WILL improve. It just takes time. Sometimes far too much time.
Puffin
November 23rd, 2014 11:40am
I think it might help to look at your own personal experiences in the past which tuned out better than you expected.
simran14
August 1st, 2016 10:38pm
Just believe in it instead of forcing it on you...give yourself time and sort out your feelings...the way you got stronger earlier you will manage now too...just believe in it
InhaleLifeAndExhaleMusic
November 21st, 2014 9:50am
Sometimes it is best to reflect on the times that have happened before that made you feel good. Remember what it really felt like inside, and them think about how good it would feel to experience that again!
echo
November 22nd, 2014 11:04pm
Leave post-it notes and other positive messages around the house in your journal and other places to remind you its going to get better and you will make it
smileforawhile
December 7th, 2014 3:48am
Think about a time where you though things would never get better, but they did. Remember that things can change; anything can happen. Nothing lasts forever, even our pain and suffering ends. You have the power to change something about your situation to make it better.
Anonymous
March 19th, 2015 12:54am
Honestly, it's something I find really hard to remember. So instead of thinking about it and hoping it sticks in my brain, I write it everywhere; on sticky notes, in notebooks, in a little box on my computer monitor. And even if I don't always feel like things will get better, seeing that phrase so many times helps it sink in. Then eventually you get so used to seeing it and thinking it that you don't have to remember anymore - you just sort of know.
Eyy
July 13th, 2015 11:47pm
From the shifts in tides, to the movement of celestial bodies; Everything in the universe happens in cycles. If you're in a bad patch, everything will get better, it is just about managing your feelings through these hard times and cherishing the good ones.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2018 8:15pm
If you feel that you’re at the very low, remember that once you’ve reached low, the only way that you can go is up.
slowdyingflower
November 22nd, 2014 6:42am
Write it down on little papers and put them all around! Also, repeat it to yourself often. "Things will get better"
EffyBlue
January 8th, 2015 8:43pm
By looking at the positive things is life, and remembering that you are the one making it better. You can choose to focus on the positive things that will make you feel good and talk to people about how you feel. Remember that we grow all the time, and that everybody is worth a great life.
RhinocerosWings
August 8th, 2016 8:54pm
The only reliable method I've found to remember that things will get better is to write "Things WILL get better!" on Post-It notes and put them all over my walls in my house. I do this with other phrases, too. My current favorite is "It's not what they take away from you that counts. It's what you do with what you have left."
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 1:25am
Look at the time that things were worse, you probably have gotten better in at least one field of your life, now it is up to you to continue that change in all aspects of life.
Godsbaby
July 9th, 2018 3:21am
Keep a box and every time you have a problem and you overcome it write down the experience and when you feel like your back is against the wall just read them
Bubbyduckie
December 31st, 2014 4:05am
Never think in the moment. Always think about what you're doing in a couple of years. Think about that and then what you're going to be doing later and not soon
Anonymous
September 12th, 2016 3:33pm
It will. Just hang in there and find that tiny bit of hope that is in there. I know it's hard but eventually, you will get through it.
thoughtfulSoul82
July 24th, 2018 12:47pm
Think of all the times you felt this way before. Remember how it got better after those times. Think positive.
Anonymous
November 26th, 2018 6:51pm
I can remember that things will get better because I've been through much worse and come out of it alive. There are many things in the world to be grateful for. Sunshine is literally abundant, there to provide us with joy. Puppies walk the streets on a daily basis, children smile everyday. I might not see it right now but these things will be abundant in my life sooner rather than later. Sometimes miracles come through tragedy and hope is built through possibility. Also I know things will get better because there are so many fast food chains out there that I love, like Mcdonalds. This isn't a joke, even though it's funny, I'm serious. Those are things to be grateful for :)
TheComedyTragedy
November 30th, 2014 11:07pm
(Research positive psychology) but remembering times that have made you happy in the past can often help, watching videos of entertaining times that have made you feel happy or videos that make you laugh can be really good ideas.
Sintix
March 13th, 2018 1:45pm
I have notes around my mirror and around the house. You can try that, or have a mantra that you say throughout the day. Remember to breathe through it all though.