How can I remember that things will get better?
Last Updated: 06/29/2020 at 9:32pm
Melissa Hudson, MS Ed, PhD(c), LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist
I work with clients of diverse backgrounds on a multitude of concerns. My approach is, at times, directive, yet always curious, nonjudgmental, collaborative, and validating.
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Draw a looooooooong line. From one side of the paper to the other. Now draw dots on that line from end to end. Make 100 of them. Counting the dots from left to right, stop at the dot that corresponds with how old you are. Circle it. See all the rest of those dots to the right of that? Each of of those is a year. An entire year! 365 days. That's 8,760 hours. Now you cannot tell me that in all that time that things will not look up for you. Imagine the kind of person, or things you will accomplish, in the future. This life is yours to create and you have so much time to do it. Life will always have low points, it's inevitable. But the beauty of this is that the low points will make us appreciate the high points so much more. What's like without a good struggle, right? Whatever you are going through right now will pass, and you will be okay. I promise! xx
A quote I like to remember when things aren't very good is this: An arrow has to be pulled back to be shot. You're just being pulled back before you're shot.
Think about the life ahead of you. There's so much to live for. Good time with friends, great time with family, finding the person you love, getting married, having a family to care for, learning new things, seeing beautiful and amazing sights. There's so much to live for on this gigantic earth and feelings are all temporary. Things that we feel will eventually go away just as much as happiness does. And if it's a person / thing that's making us feel horrible, then we have to remember that one day, that thing wont be in our life anymore. We will have moved on from it. We will have moved onto something better for us. Something so much more amazing. There's always going to be so much that life has to offer us and yes life will always surprise us the the most CRAZIEST things but then again, life is just so spontaneous like that. If such bad things can come at once like this, then think of all the amazing things that could be rolling downhill and towards you. Things can and will always get better and that's what i love about life. That's what i love about living.
Things will get better, read quotes. Write good positive quotes in your books, write it in your face if you have to. Don't stop fighting. I'm proud of you.
remember you are still breathing, facing your problem and your fears. every. single. day. and you survive. remember that. you'll be fine and you'll get through it
Just take a deep breath, look at your mirror and say "I will make it " and mean it. Just run with hope in your heart
I sometimes liked to think of the past and remember all of the bad things that happened and realize that I overcame all of those things to get to where I am today and if things got better then, they could totally get better now. :)
That's a good question! Because sometimes it IS super hard to remember, let alone believe it. Sometimes talking to friends and a counselor helps. You can write yourself notes on the mirror, wall, journal, cupboard, on your hand... You can make a playlist of recover/it gets better songs and/or poems on your iPod. You can follow inspirational/it gets better blogs online. You can write three affirmations and practice reciting them in front of the mirror, while waiting in line, before class, after meals... all the time. Honestly, it just takes practice and lots and lots of little reminders. It's so hard to keep going, but you can. And it WILL get better. Come on here to talk any time you need. We will help remind you too and help you realize it for yourself. Things WILL improve. It just takes time. Sometimes far too much time.
From the shifts in tides, to the movement of celestial bodies; Everything in the universe happens in cycles. If you're in a bad patch, everything will get better, it is just about managing your feelings through these hard times and cherishing the good ones.
If you feel that you’re at the very low, remember that once you’ve reached low, the only way that you can go is up.
Honestly, it's something I find really hard to remember. So instead of thinking about it and hoping it sticks in my brain, I write it everywhere; on sticky notes, in notebooks, in a little box on my computer monitor. And even if I don't always feel like things will get better, seeing that phrase so many times helps it sink in. Then eventually you get so used to seeing it and thinking it that you don't have to remember anymore - you just sort of know.
I think it might help to look at your own personal experiences in the past which tuned out better than you expected.
Think about a time where you though things would never get better, but they did. Remember that things can change; anything can happen. Nothing lasts forever, even our pain and suffering ends. You have the power to change something about your situation to make it better.
Sometimes it is best to reflect on the times that have happened before that made you feel good. Remember what it really felt like inside, and them think about how good it would feel to experience that again!
Just believe in it instead of forcing it on you...give yourself time and sort out your feelings...the way you got stronger earlier you will manage now too...just believe in it
The only reliable method I've found to remember that things will get better is to write "Things WILL get better!" on Post-It notes and put them all over my walls in my house. I do this with other phrases, too. My current favorite is "It's not what they take away from you that counts. It's what you do with what you have left."
Leave post-it notes and other positive messages around the house in your journal and other places to remind you its going to get better and you will make it
I can remember that things will get better because I've been through much worse and come out of it alive. There are many things in the world to be grateful for. Sunshine is literally abundant, there to provide us with joy. Puppies walk the streets on a daily basis, children smile everyday. I might not see it right now but these things will be abundant in my life sooner rather than later. Sometimes miracles come through tragedy and hope is built through possibility. Also I know things will get better because there are so many fast food chains out there that I love, like Mcdonalds. This isn't a joke, even though it's funny, I'm serious. Those are things to be grateful for :)
By looking at the positive things is life, and remembering that you are the one making it better. You can choose to focus on the positive things that will make you feel good and talk to people about how you feel. Remember that we grow all the time, and that everybody is worth a great life.
Keep a box and every time you have a problem and you overcome it write down the experience and when you feel like your back is against the wall just read them
Write it down on little papers and put them all around! Also, repeat it to yourself often. "Things will get better"
Things will get better, i know it and you know it. if we look at the past we can see that we grew up, things changed and we overcame the bad things that we had. If we did that in the past, why do we think we cant do it now? every and each one of us has a lot of power inside us. Sometimes its hard to believe and remember that things will get better, but with help and people who support us, we can do it. Well, 7 cups of tea is here for us, right? This is our safe place.
Never think in the moment. Always think about what you're doing in a couple of years. Think about that and then what you're going to be doing later and not soon
Look at the time that things were worse, you probably have gotten better in at least one field of your life, now it is up to you to continue that change in all aspects of life.
It will. Just hang in there and find that tiny bit of hope that is in there. I know it's hard but eventually, you will get through it.
Think of all the times you felt this way before. Remember how it got better after those times. Think positive.
I have notes around my mirror and around the house. You can try that, or have a mantra that you say throughout the day. Remember to breathe through it all though.
When people face tough circumstances in life, everything can seem so hopeless that its hard to imagine that you can ever make it out. I like to remember that things will get better by doing small insignificant things that make me laugh or feel accomplished. When I feel particularly sad, I hang out with my friends and we do something fun together like play games over zoom. Or on days where I feel really sad and don't feel motivated to do anything, I watch stand-up comedy by John Mulaney or Hasan Minaj and then I make myself do accomplish two things in a day. For example, one particularly sad day, my goals were get out of bed and do the laundry. Even through the rest of day was bad, I felt accomplished that I was able to finish my laundry and motivate myself to leave the bed. Then, the next day, I would pick two other maybe something I felt was slightly harder to do, goals. By accomplishing things and trying to test out coping strategies that I might work for me, I felt better and was able to remind myself that things will get better because I was actively working towards making them better. Its not easy to remember that things will get better so I do little things everyday related to self-care that remind me that there are things still under my control that matter in the long-run.
(Research positive psychology) but remembering times that have made you happy in the past can often help, watching videos of entertaining times that have made you feel happy or videos that make you laugh can be really good ideas.
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