How do you deal with depression after a breakup?
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Write a lot, every thought you have, everything causing you pain, every memory you have of the person, write it down (don't type it), as it'll help you get this out of your head. Sleep all the time you can, because you need it. And get back to sport, it'll give some oxygen to your mind, and allow you to empty it and also regain some well gained self confidence :)
I first allow myself to go through a grieving process: cry, and reflect and learn from my actions that may have contributed to the breakup, and continue to stay centered in my faith. I then begin working on not being alone - surround myself with quality people (friends, family), to lift my spirits. Being active and motivated is key.
Anonymous
January 2nd, 2016 6:29am
right now that you are depressed, every part of your existence wants to end the pain, and get free, from a cell surrounded with no bars, but with your own shitty thoughts instead. that is the worst kind of torture a soul can possibly go through. being tortured not by something horrible and ugly, but by your own thoughts!
now, imagine how you felt about this prison, before getting depressed, or better yet, before you were even born! nothing, right!? there was no feeling! it didn't even exist!
now, when you get out of this hell hole, this loophole pattern, you will not feel any kind of resentment for existence! you will not want to get away from life any more. you will want it, with all your heart. that my friend, is how a life of fulfillment and harmony will feel like :)
How to deal with depression after a break-up in my opinion is you try to do something that makes you happy and that distracts you from the break-up. Listen to music, watch funny videos, spend time with friends and family, go shopping. Anything that makes you happy and distracts you. Try to forgive, forget and move on, or else you will just be torturing yourself.
You do things that make you happy without a second thought. You stop thinking about the other person for a while and only focus on your self. When you are ready, come to terms with the breakup. Find the good reasons before you find the bad.
honestly, you have to give yourself time. It's okay to be depressed afterwards, you built a connection with that person, and you need time to heal after ending that connection.
I personally call my girlfriends over and have a slumber party. Yummy food, funny stories, making memories while being able to talk about why I need there support right now because of the break up
By reminding yourself that there is more to your life than your ex-partner. Family, friends, school/work, hobbies, all these things are still there for you and will help you move on and feel better in time.
you try to ignore thinking about your ex by doing hobbies or anything that will physical distract yourself ... put on some loud music and start dancing! serious;y
Surrounding myself with family and friends. A support network does wonders during the tough times such as that.
Take care of yourself. Look for tips on the breakup-advice. Surround yourself with nice people who help you be active, going out, moving your body. Eat well, drink enough and do things to make you feel nice. You're going through a hard time - you deserve it!
Act as if you were not depressed. Keep seeing your friends and taking care of yourself as you normally would, even if you don't feel like it. Keep doing the kind of things you would enjoy if you weren't feeling down. Work on finding a new routine - replace the things you used to do with your ex with something else. Don't get stuck at home alone doing nothing.
If you don't get better soon, get help.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 11:06pm
You should talk to someone that you are comfortable with and share all of your feelings so that they don't build up inside. You should make sure the person is trustworthy and that they really care about you and will be able to help you manage your depression.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 8:57pm
Dealing with depression after a breakup is a tough thing. You really need to give yourself the time and patience to deal with the pain .
i just cut all the way of communication from my ex because i had to move on and i had my family. so that i had come away from the depression as soon as possible.that's why i made myself strong,i just tried to keep myself busy and didn't look back again.
Always remember your reasoning. Recognize that there were definitely positives to the relationship, but the negatives did not allow for a healthy experience. Grieving is natural, and healthy. Break-ups are a loss. Allow yourself to feel sad, and stay in the present moment to help yourself move forward.
I don't. It takes time to recover from the mourning after a breakup, but you gotta respect yourself and what you're feeling. Take your time, don't mind feeling frustrated. You just don't need to revive in your mind everytime you broke up in your life before. Just let the time do their thing.
vent out your depression by crying, later go for a long sleep. once you wake up re-arrange your room, wash all your clothes, clean your dishes have a bath. Doesn't everything look different now??
you always get lonely after a breakup. i think its being human. but sooner or later we need to focus on ourselves and the things that are good for us. we need to keep ourselves busy and challenge ourselves with new things or go on an adventure. take our mind off the breakup.
Breakups are hard to the best way to look at any situation is that everything happens for a reason. That person was not meant to be with you either at all or at that moment. Life is hard and it's a mystery, but that's the beauty of it. It's going to hurt and take time to heal from a breakup and that's normal. Take the time to deal with the grief, but then remember that if he or she is meant to be in your life than it will happen. Until then, take all the lessons learned from that relationship and apply them to future relationships.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 11:36pm
I personally had a really rough breakup with a person whom I thought was my soulmate. We were thick as thieves. And it all stopped without warning. No news, no seeing each other. What I found was the most helpful to me was to immerse myself in other things: TV Shows, studies, sport... Anything that requires your full attention, and makes you feel again.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 5:11pm
I write things down,rip the pieces of paper up and throw it in a bin or burn it. I sone times also talk to people to release my feelings. Distracting yourself with things you enjoy can also help.
I'll find someone who will help me realize that Life is beautiful&that I should enjoy every minute!!
Post breakup I would refrain from listening to songs that will make me miss my partner. I'll completely avoid them. Make a list of why they are jerks. Delete any data I have on them. Listen to songs that will make me feel confident and I'll absolutely not let them rent a place in my mind or heart and move on.
Breakups can be hard. I personally went through a very difficult one myself. The best way to handle it is allowing yourself to grieve for a little while. For some this may be a day, for others it could be up to a week. However, once you have allowed yourself to grieve, you need to jump back into life. Hang out with people you enjoy doing things with or spend time on a hobby of yours. Anything to distract your mind for the breakup. Eventually, it will get easier. Yes, thoughts will still come up and it's okay. But I promise you will make it through, I know it's hard to believe in the moment and I was able to make it through despite what I may have thought
It is always good to deal with the cause of the depression to deal with the depression and in this case its the breakup. Breakup's involves a lot of emotions and it takes time to deal with this emotions and to accept where you are now. Always remember there is always a reason for the breakup and whatever it was its a good reason enough for you to move forward in life.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 4:20am
The best thing for me was to just find a group of friends I could trust to spend time with who understood what I went through during the relationship and breakup.
First of all you should delete all your text messages with that person and at least leave the photographs in a place where you have not the temptation to look at them (you have minimize to 0 all your contact with your memories with that person, read text messages and watch to your old photographs with that person will only make you feel worse).
You should hang out with your friends and maybe meet new people. Being locked crying at home won't help you a bit.
It's a slow process, but you will feel better soon
Divert your attention to brighter things. Go back of discover new hobbies. Reconnect wih old friends. Focus on your family and career.
Getting over a breakup can be really tough. It's okay to be upset, and it's natural to feel depressed and hopeless after a breakup. But, it shouldn't keep you from functioning as you normally would. A breakup isn't the end of the world, even if it feels that way. Stay strong, and get help if you feel depressed constantly after a breakup! c:
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