How do you deal with depression after a breakup?

Dealing with depression after a break up is difficult. You need to be very self aware to recognise when natural feelings of distress and possible anger and disappointment have morphed into true depression. For the natural feelings it can be helpful to practice healthy coping skills such as talking to non judgemental friends and reflecting on what the experience has taught you about yourself and relationships in general, maybe through writing. If you are experiencing depression, with symptoms serious enough to affect your life on a prolonged and significant basis it is worth speaking to a mental healthcare provider who can offer you guidance. 7cups is here for you no matter the situation.

Try to focus on me, and allow myself to learn from what happend without criticizing or being overly negative.

Feeling depressed after a breakup is natural no matter the nature or length of the relationship. It's best to do things that you enjoy and to continue living your life in a wholesome way so that you don't succumb to the depression. And if at any time you feel the urge to self harm or you need outside help to cope with your emotions, don't hesitate to contact a mental health professional or reach out to support groups.

Don't blame your self and don't punish your self not every brake up is the same and not every person deals with thins in the same way give yur self time to heal

Well, i had a fresh breakup. And i thought that it is the end of the world. I felt this way for almost two weeks. And that was the reason i'm contributing with other people on 7 Cups of Tea :) . First you need to sit down with yourself and think about what happened for one last time! And if you are sure that you won't get back... So delete everything that remembers you with your ex. Think about your future, dream about what you want to do and start achieving. Would you like to be in one-sided love!? That is not love! You are torturing yourself. The common thing after every breakup which aches you is you think deeply inside yourself saying : maybe that is just a joke or a prank.... Maybe one day we will get back..maybe i get a msg from my ex saying he/she was sorry and let's get over that. So after all just move one. You will find the right person in the right time You she be independent. Never link your happiness to someone or something as you know everything is transient. Never lose hope or faith. And enjoy your life with your family or friends. Do the things which make you happy! :)

It will be hard, usually harder the longer the relationship. Having a good cry (or many) can actually help you release some of those negative emotions. Another good tip is to distract yourself the best you can whether it be by a show, a book, an outdoor activity, singing to yourself, the list goes on. Of course you can't distract yourself forever but it can definitely help get you over some of the hardest parts.

There's no right or wrong way to deal with a break-up, the only healer is time. Keep yourself busy and talk about how you're feeling. Don't bottle it up or let your pain define you.

Understand things will not get better over night. And get as much support from friends and family as you can. Stay strong xx

The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but its not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person-- without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. their happiness cannot be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.

The first step is to come to full acceptance to what has happened and start working on that path to moving on. I learnt that taking time and creating space between you and your ex is really important. Surrounding yourself with people you can trust, like close friends and family, and focusing your mind on other things which you enjoy or would keep you busy is the best thing to do in this scenario. Getting over a breakup doesn't happen instantaneously, it takes time, but it's important to know that things do get better, you, yourself is always number one priority.

i find that keeping occupied can help stop dwelling on the people who were once in your life. Helps forget about things as your mind is focused on the task at hand, moving forward as a person and in life.. and that deep down everything will turn out how i expected it to because something unexpected will fill the missing void.

Give yourself time to accept the negative emotions that you'll be feeling. It's completely okay to be feeling down in that situation. But just remember that you're worth more than that relationship, especially if it was making you feel bad. You deserve somebody who loves you as much as you love them, and you'll find somebody like that one day. Keep that in mind but don't force yourself to feel happy straight away. Pain takes a while to heal, and that's okay.

I hang around with friends and try and forget the fact, and afterwards I busy myself in other tasks around the house

Depression after a breakup takes a major toll on you, depending on how bad you're upset about it. Of course, some people handle them very badly. There are many relationships that end badly. Just know that you are not alone and there are people you can talk to that can try and help you get through it. Maybe keep a good friend close.

Honestly, this is a very hard question to answer. As hard as it is to here, time is a great healer. It's amazing, really. You'll be walking around a mall with your family or your friends and suddenly, you remember your ex and you think "wow, that was so long ago." You won't even realize you're getting over him/her until you already have.

I try to keep myself busy as much as possible, I try to divert my attention to different things. I do not brood over it. I do not spend much time alone. I go out with friends or play games. Do things that I enjoy wholeheartedly. :)

Just think, if you broke up with the person, they aren't the one your meant to be with. Unless you get back together and truly feel like you have a better relationship

This is when my depression is the worst it ever became. I cannot be alone. Absolutely cannot. All the thoughts I can normally ignore become 10x louder. I try to get out as much as I can and have people over.

After a breakup it's important to not isolate yourself. Rekindle friendships and hobbies that may have become neglected through your previous relationship. Being alone is the worst thing when suffering with depression after a breakup so the best thing to do is to reach out to other people, whether that be family members or friends and surround yourself in the happiness of others.

Thats kind of a tough one because everyone has their own way of coping. However, personally i turn my energy to music and writing. I try to write about how i am feeling, why i am feeling it and come up with ways to cope with it. sometimes writing on a notebook helps enough other times it doesn't. When it doesn't i turn to a friend to talk to and listen to a lot of music. i hope this helps :)

While it sounds easier than it seems, the best thing you can do after such a heartbreak, is to always hold onto and look at the wonderful memories, and good times you had once shared. To dwell on the negative feelings, and the situations itself, will only make the depression worse, and will not allow you to better deal with and cope from the breakup.

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Depression after a breakup is really hard to cope with and deal with. You've known the person and gotten really close with that person and then it just ends. Sometimes that's very hard for people to deal with. Most people actually. I think the most important thing to do is to let yourself heal after. Cry. Cry for weeks if you have to. Practice your coping strategies and surround yourself with good people that you trust, like friends and family members. Distractions help. And most importantly, it takes time. It's going to take time to get over the break up and it's going to hurt like hell for a little while in the beginning too. But you'll be okay in the end.

I like to read everyday in my favorite book. This helps me to get in to the fantasy world of the book and forget a little the hard world of reality.

I've gone through severe bouts of depression myself,and I'm happy to talk about it and share my experiences if it means I help someone. After a breakup a person can be very vulnerable to negative behaviors and developing inferiority complexes.It's important to analyze our perception of ourselves and think whether it is actually a true depiction of who we are. Most often we beat ourselves up for 'not being good enough'.This creates a sort of negative loop with us suddenly becoming aware of all our faults and beating us up even more and so on.So it's important to get out of the loop by talking to someone or taking up some activity where you genuinely have fun

You deal with it by surrounding yourself with family, positive friends, and a good support system. It's good to have friends that are going to come over and get you out of the house so you're not sitting around, thinking all day.

Firstly, I think it as an experience. An experience which I will never forget about. An experience which will change all my thoughts, treats and future. The lessons I learned will always help me in my future relationships (either with friends or another one). What happens, happens and time will never stop for me. I will cry, be sad, but think it as a part of my life and continue. One door closes, another one opens.

Not having been in a relationship, i cannot answer that question but by slowly engaging in activities you like

After a breakup I deal with depression usually taking with a close friend. So that it makes me to release my pressure and create a calm self

Breakups are usually pretty tough. You're left questioning yourself, your values, you own value as well as all of the 'woulda, coulda and shoulda' things. For me, after a breakup, after that initial sting passes, I always realized the things I'd not miss about someone, and how I'd start to be able to be myself again. I think we all adjust who we are to fit who we are with. Sometimes those changes aren't healthy, and sometimes the habits we fall back into after a breakup aren't healthy either. So, it's during this time that some self-discovery is a good thing, and possibly trying to learn how to be alone and ok with it. It's usually when we're not actively seeking to fill that void that we stand a chance of finding something real, lest we go in filling in the blanks with someone who may or may not work out for us.