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Why do I always feel upset even if everything is fine?

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Last Updated: 03/31/2020 at 5:09pm
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everen
February 23rd, 2016 4:04am
I always feel upset when everything is fine because of the mental illnesses I have and the way I was born. It is not my fault that I overthink or have mood swings. My depression comes in unexpected waves that bury me deep within the sand. Whether I just got a new car or won a million dollars, my unexpected depression will always be there. This is not my fault.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 10:52pm
Maybe because you feel like you don't deserve to be happy which is because something happend to you and you are afraid of being disappointed again or you did something bad and now you fell like punishing yourself,
HopefulJet61
November 9th, 2015 2:22am
If you find yourself feeling this way there's a great possibility you are feeling like maybe there's something missing.
lavieestbelle95
February 22nd, 2015 12:25pm
I think it happens a lot to me too. If I have nothing to do, I am easily upset, I become more emotional. But when I am busy, I am happy. So I always try to be as busy as I can to be happy. Sometimes it's not always what people thin about you. You have to try to be the better you. Accept your flaws, be grateful for what you have, make everyday counts. I think it's all cliche but I've felt those all.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2016 9:05am
Because you are afraid that whenever you're happy, something bad happens. When everything goes fine, you wait for an upcoming storm.
Anonymous
January 9th, 2017 1:12am
Do you think that what you may be experiencing is depression? If you believe that this is the case, then I would advise speaking with a therapist or psychiatrist. Speaking with them may help you figure out the root of your unhappiness as well as ways to reduce/eliminate the negative feelings that you have. Sometimes, even though we may have everything that we can possibly need, we still feel an underlying sense of emptiness and/or dread. It isn't that we are not grateful for what we have, but it feels as if something is just not right.
Serifeee
July 18th, 2016 6:58pm
sometimes you want to take refuge in your problems although they are so irresistible and they are so unbearable. Sometimes you can not find a convenient solution except for this.
PoliteOcean
September 6th, 2015 6:52pm
It can be hard to deal with emotions when you aren't even sure where they are coming from and why you feel that way. If you feel that your emotions are consuming you or are interfering with your life, then you might find it best to seek the advice of a trained counselor or therapist.
Anonymous
May 4th, 2015 6:53pm
It could be that you are not in touch with your emotions, the ones that make you upset. We sometimes think we should be fine because externally, everything seems in order, in its right place. But, often the reality is that there is something, possibly not in our awareness or conscious that acts as a splinter in our mind, wiggling around in there, suggesting something needs to be dealt with. Maybe sit quietly somewhere and just be for a few minutes. Something may bubble up to the surface that you can then consciously address.
xTheFallenx2017
September 25th, 2017 2:44am
Honestly this is a very difficult question, as everyone at some point in time feels just as you describe. The feeling of knowing that everything is, and will be okay. But feeling upset for unknown reasons. This is normal and okay. You could be feeling this way because something traumatic or really upsetting has occurred. Something that you never thought was ever going to happen. Reassurance is the best key of helping in this type of feeling. Feel free to talk to someone and communicate to how you feel, and if you can the experience's from the past that may make you feel this way.
PashT007
April 7th, 2015 6:10pm
Sometimes we train ourselves to make sure that things are fine, and to be upset until we prove otherwise.
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2015 6:05pm
There is a part of your brain that deals with emotions and after a while it gets overwhelmed. This causes you to be sad and upset sometimes.
Shadowisnotintresting
November 2nd, 2015 8:52pm
it could be an imbalance of hormones in the brain. this can cause depression etc that can be the cause of feeling upset although everything is fine.
Neverend1ngLake
May 15th, 2017 5:03am
We may feel upset sometimes even if nothing has happened. It usually is because there is a situation that we have not handled or the anger is masking other feelings, like sadness or anxiety. Taking a step back to reflect on our lives can help us identify the real cause behind our feelings, and addressing it can improve our lives very much.
TeresaGreninja91
December 12th, 2017 1:18am
Sometimes we feel really upset even though everything seems fine for us. Take some good rest and really nice care of yourself. It’s okay to feel upset. Just experience and feel that feeling fully.
Morgan2002420
November 13th, 2018 6:09am
This sounds like depression or anxiety of some sort. Seeking therapy may help, but also look into self strengthening exercises such as meditation. If it’s really bad, which I hope it’s not, then definitely seek therapy right away. But if you just have sad days, like the most of us, definitely look into self strengthening. I personally love going to the gym to help with stress and anxiety that could make me feel down. Also, keep out of toxic relationships and situations! Don’t put yourself in upsetting situations to prevent from being upset, if possible. If you are in a upsetting situation, come talk on here, talk to a friend, or practice a self calming exercise. Remember you are your own hero sometimes.
Spoton53
March 31st, 2020 5:09pm
Maybe cause I overthink every situation alot that makes all the fun disappear. Happiness seems to be temporarily, and we cherish the sad life. I feel everything is not according to my needs and that upsets my behavior. However, I could overcome this attitude by taking a breath. Stop stretching out every situation and let it be the way it is cause their are some situations that are not in our control and some we can. Mostly we think about the situation or people and try to overthink about how worse it went. That just hits the bar, but it could be controlled.