How can I get my parents to stop yelling at me for everything?

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Top Rated Answers
niceBecca84
May 2nd, 2015 6:13pm
Tell them yelling doesn't make you listen as much as trying to talk to you in a normal voice tone, say you will try to listen more to what they are upset with you about if they don''t yell.
beautifulParadise07
May 31st, 2015 10:27am
Try to confront them about that. Yelling is not a good way of telling especially teenagers what must be done. It just makes the situation worst. You are more likely to stop working if someone is yelling to you. Communication is also important in a family. Burst it out to your parents. It is important that they will know your side too.
incredibleFlamingo52
November 26th, 2014 5:16pm
From what I have learnt, yelling back is definetely not the answer. You need to sit down when you are all calm and talk it out. If it can't be solved like that, seek out another adult who can mediate.
AnnieElen
November 24th, 2014 5:18pm
You can always talk to them. They are you parents, they love you a lot. Maybe explain to them that you are different from them. You are yourself
beautifulCandy40
September 15th, 2015 1:45am
Tell them that you are your own person and that they need to understand that you have to do what you have to do and learn from your own mistakes.
BroadwayBaby
November 24th, 2014 5:43pm
Well, talk to them. Maybe they don't realise it! Tell them how you feel and they'll probably understand it.
Laura1206
December 23rd, 2014 10:47am
Unfortunately, you cannot force any person do something or stop doing something; however, you can focus on yourself and being the best that you can be. This does not mean seeking perfection, as no one is perfect; rather, it means reflecting on the parts of yourself that you feel are upsetting your parents. Is it something that you are doing personally or are you unaware of it? Do you feel like it is something that can be changed or is out of your control? Try to understand where you parents might be coming from. They are not trying to be mean; they may simply feel that they don't know what else to do but yell. But the truth is, they do love you and all they want to do is help you.
smileitswhit
December 26th, 2014 7:14am
maybe communicate with them. Try your hardest. Some parents aren't as supportive as they should be and there some that you will never be able to please. Sometimes you just have to remind yourself you are better than the words they say, that just because they are family doesnt mean that it automatically makes what they say as truth.
enlightenedHeart75
May 20th, 2015 2:14pm
Go and talk to them them nicely and tell them how you feel and, how it hurts when they always yell at you
AlteredLight
December 29th, 2015 9:07am
Parents are difficult creatures, but you must take into account that without them you wouldnt be here, if you are under their roof then you must give them the respect they want even if it is against your mind to do so. Without their support then how will you survive the real world without mom and dad? The best thing to do is to answer politely, it can be more rewarding watching them yell at you and their reaction when you reply in such a tone. it also decreases tension and can help the situation :)
Anonymous
October 19th, 2016 7:17am
First, think about what it is they're yelling at you for. Think about what you could do to help yourself, and if a change is something that needs to happen on either side. If you confront your parents about it, remember to stay calm, and use words like "I" or "me" instead of "you". If you say, "you yell at me for everything", it might come off as accusing and disrespectful, and could start an argument. If you say "I know that I'm doing things wrong, but I don't appreciate being yelled at for every mistake I make. It makes me feel _____". Let them know how you feel without coming off as rude or disrespectful; they are your parents, after all, and know what's best for you.
mroon17
November 29th, 2014 4:03am
Try to talk to them and have open communication. Talking out the problems is key to solve them, otherwise you both won't know what to do!
Anonymous
October 19th, 2016 9:01am
Sit down, and talk to them. Ask them what about you is bothering them. So, she can work together, and make them feel more comfortable that you are trying your best.
SmileYoureWorthIt
November 27th, 2016 8:27am
Try to be patient and see their side. We all have our own perspective of the world: one that is based on our past experiences and emotions among other things. If you yell back, they will probably get angrier and not listen to what you have to say. Calmly try to explain your side, and listen to what they have to say as well. Attempt to find a mutual understanding. However, if you feel it is excessive to the point of abuse, please talk to someone you trust! Stay beautiful and keep smiling. You've got this!
Tg119340
July 17th, 2017 3:14am
That's a really great question. You cannot control what your parents say or act. I think it's important to be patient,because nothing last forever. I would encourage you to tell let them how you feel. Try to talk to them when they are in a better mood and hopefully they will be able to understand. Again, nothing will change immediately, however, in time I'm sure things will get better. It's all about communication.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2014 1:33pm
Sit them down and explain to them, ask them why they are yelling at you, Maybe give them some advice, tell them how you are feeling and how you feel when they shout at you
comeon
December 9th, 2014 12:40pm
You ask them to listen your version of seeing the problem and explain them about the issue in detail and ask them to support you so that you can give good results and reach their expectations.
Ananase
December 29th, 2014 3:39pm
Talk with them patiently. Say that you are feeling bad when they are yelling at you. Don't scream to them. Tell themit nicely.
mysteriousHeart66
October 8th, 2016 7:35am
When you say yelling at you for everything is it everything or at a specific time? Parents don't always see or hear what you do so maybe try telling them how you feel.
Anonymous
May 26th, 2017 6:06am
Parents often are angry because something is going on in their lives. My parents got mad at my sister all the time when we were having financial problems. What is troubling your parents? What can you do to help? You cam do things such as appreciate them out loud or wash the dishes this night for them.
Forualways
March 1st, 2018 11:24am
Parents want you to become a successful person in ur life because children are Thier responsibility. they r experienced they know better what is good for u.kidz are inexperienced du to Thier age so that they are not able to understand what is good n what is not for them.so trust Ur parents n do whatever they wants u to do.if u think u r not comfortable to do that what they want you to do then polity u make them understand that u r not comfortable n you don't want to do what they want. Communication is the only solution it can help you to understand Thier view n to make them understand what is in ur mind.if they are yelling at you ..go n hugg them n say ok Mom /dad I will do that...her/his voice will come down immediately.thier love towards you is unconditional.. respect that love n care they gave you.
turquoisepomegranate18
May 31st, 2018 3:12pm
Firstly, it might be good to ask your parents why they shout at you- they may be stressed out themselves. From there, you can see if you could help them- maybe that will reduce how much they shout at you
Brighter19
July 1st, 2018 8:36am
Find a common activity that all of you like,do the activity together and wait till the moment that all of you are smiling and feeling happy then hug your mothet/Father and tell them you like them the most even when they are yelling at you that you hate most .
Anonymous
April 5th, 2016 10:34am
To get your parents to stop yelling at you, sit down and speak to them about how you feel, have a few examples in your head to explain when you think it is happening. Make sure you are calm in the conversation and hopefully it goes well.
Greatlistener87
April 11th, 2016 4:06am
If it is possible sit your parents down and talk to them. Tell them that the way that they are dealing with you effects you and how does it make u feel. If possible suggest a better way of dealing to them.
KindKat00
July 4th, 2017 4:18pm
I would suggest having a conversation with them about how you feel and how you can adjust both yourself and they can work on themselves. That way it's a two way street and both people are working on the issue.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2017 12:36pm
Talk to your parents and tell them honestly how you feel when they always yell at you. If you think you did something wrong that makes them angry and yell at you then tell them you are sorry and do your best next time not to make them angry.
Anonymous
June 21st, 2016 6:10am
Sit down and try to have a calm to with them about how the yelling bothers you. Hopefully, they can understand what you say to them.
Anonymous
September 5th, 2016 11:01am
Tell them that you don't like they talking to you like that. Tell them to don't blame you. Tell them that yelling at you without any clear reasons will only mentally abuse you. They will stop, because they love you ;)
Anonymous
October 5th, 2016 3:22pm
Try and find the triggers of your parents yelling at you. Talk to them about how you feel and how you can all tackle your triggers so you can move forward.