My mother hates me and I don't know why. What should I do?
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Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 6:56am
Talk to her, it is very unlikely a mother will hate her child, they more often re overprotective and worried for the children and it can be taken as too much.
I am not sure why you feel your mother hates you. I think it would be good to talk to her. Sometimes when I think people hate me, they are just stressed about other parts of their life. The only one with that answer is your mom though. If you don't think you can talk to her face to face, try writing her a letter.
Anonymous
March 20th, 2016 2:09pm
your mother has given you birth ! a life ! a mother can never hate her kids . May be she is angry with you over something. Just try to talk to her and simplify things. If you are living today , its only because of your mother , never forget that ! she needs your love too as much as you need hers ! just go and hug her and ask her what is it that is bothering her . Hope this helps ! God bless you !
Anonymous
March 19th, 2016 9:57am
If you think there is a problem with her and you want to solve it, choose a good moment and talk to her. Ask your mother why is she upset with you, be calm and open and try to understand his point. Tell your mother you want to have a normal relationship with her, everybody wants to be loved, eventually she will understand and things will be better.
Your mother doesn't actually hate you, she just wants you to succeed and she doesn't know how to do that without hurting you or giving you criticism. Show her some love, and maybe she will see you are perfect just the way you are!
Anonymous
July 20th, 2020 3:37pm
Ah, that's unfortunate. I apologize that you are in such a terrible situation without knowing why..- do you have any suspicions as to why your mother feels that specific way to you? If you are unsure and are still confused as to why she feels that way, I suggest trying to have a sit-down chat with your mother and make both your feelings and thoughts clear to each other. I know that it's important to have a strong relationship with your parents and with having a chat, I hope you clear up any doubts that you may have with your mother.
Have a talk with her, tell her how you feel. It could be a misunderstanding. Sometimes people act negatively towards others when they are dealing with something personal.
Anonymous
October 10th, 2016 12:45pm
First off, are you sure she really hates you or maybe isn't stressed with you or something else in her life? Secondly, try to have a talk with her.
Trying siting down and asking your mother why she feels that way about you. If it helps you can try talking to a therapist and doing family sessions so you are in a neutral setting. The best way to answer this is to open up the communication lines between you and her. I hope this helps!
An eye for an eye, makes the whole world blind. Show her a side of you that leave her with no choice but to accept you. Remember, love and compassion are most powerful forces. Do not let her actions deter your kindness, be gentle to the woman who went through challenges, unknown to you, to give birth and cater for you. You may never understand her situation, which may even make it more difficult for you, but remember, nothing good ever came easy.
Try and talk to her about it. Something must be bothering her in order for her to feel distressed and angry with you, ask her why she's feeling like she is. Maybe letting her know you've realised her anger/sadness will relieve her
She's just stressed and may take it out on the people around her which in this case may be you.
Anonymous
May 13th, 2016 2:56pm
Talk to her. Let her know how you feel and listen to how she feels. You might find out that doesn't hate you at all.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2016 12:48pm
I have had a similar issue. My advice is that you go talk to your mother, dialogue is the best way to resolve such problems according to me ! Good luck
I have found that most of the time people think a parent hates them, the parent doesn't actually hate them. It is possible that your mother has a hard time communicating with you. You should think about talking with her and asking her why her behaviour is the way it is.
Consult a therapist with your mother if she is willing. Regardless of what the situation is, the best thing to do is to accept the reality, come to peace with it and make something positive of it :)
Think about how you feel towards her. Forgive her, love her, do not let yourself sink to her level. It is not your fault she doesn't like you. No matter what you did! It is her inability to let go and forgive that made her heart hardened... don't let that happen to you. And pray for her heart*** Love her more, because she needs it, not because she deserves it.
I don't think she hates you, I think you need to tell her how you feel. No one has the write to hurt us like this or make us feel less. So I truly think you need to tell her how this makes you feel.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2016 6:39pm
You should talk to her and figure out what she had in her heart and why she start to hate you. Because every action was based of some kind of mechanism
Sit her down and have a heart to heart conversation. Explain to her how you feel and how you're interpreting her actions/words yo make sure you are right and not assuming wrong. Depending on her response continue the conversation by asking "why" questions. Don't be forceful or show any anger.m, because it might make her upset,etc.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2016 3:27am
Talk to her. There are a lot of things you can just solve by being kind and talking to each other. Be loving and be genuine
Hey don't think negative, maybe it's a wrong time and she's just upset. If it helps confront her.
Your mom loves you no matter what she says or does. parents go through emotional phases in there lives just like everyone else. Its normal. Sit down and talk to her about how you feel about the situation. Tell her that you understand the stress she may be going through. Try spending more time with her , and make daily conversations. Let her know that you love her very much , and try to help out around the house more. Avoid getting in fights with her , and try not to say anything negative to her. Build a better relationship with her, I know it seems its impossible I have the same relationship with my mom.
The first thing you could do is have a serious talk with her. Ask her why she's so upset with you, be kind and understanding to her, if you've done anything that has irritated her feel free to apologize and show that you care about her.
No mother can hate her child. The key to your relationship would be communication. Talk to her, ask her how she feels and share how you feel. You guys will understand each other and work through your relationship.
Maybe talk to her and ask her why she hates you, and that is the only thing you can do yourself to understand why she hates you. If you find out why she hates you, try to change it. For example if she hates you because you cause trouble at school then be good at school. Another way could be telling the school and asking them politely to ring your mom up and ask her a few questions. Or ask a friends parent if you aren't in school.
You should talk to her! Make sure you both know what's going on. Maybe there was a problem in the past.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 11:36am
First you have to try to know the cause. She might be just very depressed or something. Try to help her out with whatever it is. If everything fails, try to move out. Best of luck.
You need to talk with her ...to ask her what you have to change or why she hate you ...but without conversation you are in nowhere.
Well what you could do is maybe go up to her and ask if you can talk privately and start a conversation and then maybe ask , is there a reason you could hate me.
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