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What's the best way to get over a family member's death ?

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Last Updated: 07/28/2020 at 1:31am
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Anonymous
November 30th, 2014 8:58pm
The adage "time heals all wounds" is wise. It will take time. In the meantime, expect to feel grief, sadness, loneliness, and a hole in your heart that will never fully go away. Stay busy, get the company and support of friends, family, and loved ones. Cherish the memory of your deceased loved one.
RachxTheLight
November 30th, 2014 9:43pm
In my personal experience, the best way to get over a family member's death is to remember them as not being gone, but as how they were. Remembering how they were and the good memories will help you realize they had a good life overall and will not be forgotten due to their great accomplishments during their lifetime.
Anonymous
December 1st, 2014 12:37pm
It is so important to take the time to grieve, to shed a tear and remember all the positive moments you had with them. Personally I find spending time with friends and family and talking about them helps considerably - remember them together.
Anonymous
December 2nd, 2014 1:52am
Crying and also talking with people about this family member. Let them live in your heart. Never forget them.
kristinshere
December 6th, 2014 4:39pm
remember all the good times and remember that they would not want you to be sad their at peace:) they want you to be to
Anonymous
December 15th, 2014 5:48pm
I believe that a family members death can only be gotten over with, With time. That's the best way to heal you emotionally.
FeatherIce25
April 3rd, 2015 12:24am
time will heal everything. In the beginning try to stay away from the triggers. After sometime it will work
Anonymous
April 16th, 2015 4:01pm
Think about the pain they may or may not have been experiencing before there death. Say they were terribly ill and needed the pain to stop, or say it was sudden. Just remember they are in a better place.
amorvincitomnia143
April 24th, 2015 10:19pm
KNow that it is okay to mourn, and that there are stages of grief. Surround yourself with as much support as you can, whether it be other family members or close friends. Try to focus on the positive impact they've had on your life, and take the time you need to fully heal. Let yourself feel the pain, but try not to linger in it too long.
Pumpkin74
May 20th, 2015 7:07am
We all know time heals all wounds but sometimes it just doesn't seem enough. First, allow yourself to grieve. Give yourself time to heal and don't put a limit on when you should "be over it." Plan a time to think about the person and remember them as you loved them. Make a photo album or collage that you can hang in your house or create something you could leave on their grave that would reflect the relationship you had. Having said that, if you feel your depression is severe or your daily life is affected, reach out and talk to someone. Sometimes antidepressants can help, but only your doctor can tell you if that is an option for you.
Anonymous
August 18th, 2015 2:02am
There is no easy answer for this and there is no 'best' way. Everyone grieves in their own way. However, keeping the person alive in memory is a good idea. Even though they are physically gone, they don't need to gone in spirit or mind. They are always with you watching over you. Include them in your future.
PoliteOcean
September 21st, 2015 4:34am
THis can very difficult to deal with. You can try to start speaking with family members who are also going through the same thing. You can also speak with anyone you are close to and feel that you can trust. If that doesn't help you can try seeking help through counseling or therapy or grief support groups for further help.
Anonymous
December 15th, 2015 5:52pm
Grief is normal. I lost a family member a year ago and one when I was six. Talking helps and I like to think they are proud of me no matter what.
carefreeJoy67
December 28th, 2015 7:30pm
What I did was I went to therapy, talked to friends and family members and went on to seven cups of tea to talk to a listener! hope this helps!
Anonymous
September 13th, 2016 12:54am
The best way to move on is to give it time. Other things will come to pass, and the pain will lessen everyday.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2017 4:47pm
Give yourself lots of time to heal, everyone is different with how they deal with grief. Everyday remind yourself that they love you and that they're looking over you and protecting you.
Anonymous
July 29th, 2019 11:36am
I lost a family member last summer and the anniversary of his death is coming up. In order for me to cope im spending a lot of time with family and trying not to keep my feelings inside. Its important to let yourself have feelings and to cry. Obviously you can never be completely over something like that, especially if you were close with the person. It takes time. Something a lot of my family did was start seeing a therapist to deal with the trauma. Having someone understand from a professional standpoint can do a lot of good.
safeshoulder2CryOn
July 28th, 2020 1:31am
We all have expiry dates in life. No one lives forever. When our love ones expire before us, we experience excruciating loss, the kind that we are never prepared for. There is no one strategy to get over a family member's death for everyone. No two person can heal in the same manner in the same amount of time. Our wounds heal differently at different rates. Hence, we must be patient and exercise self-compassion in times of bereavement. Allow yourself to grieve in anyway that you feel like grieving. Do not try to mask it with substance abuse,although it is very tempting to do so. Many people for instance had their pain doubled when they turn to alcohol to ease their pain.This however only compounded their problems. It only leads to further problems and increase pain.Self-compassion includes self-care such as having more rest when you need to n ensuring proper nutrition, exercise n rest for your agitated state. Identify supportive people whom you can approach for a chat for venting. Take meditation breaks n mindfulness exercises throughout the day. Take each day at a time.