How do I deal with the emotional changes?
Last Updated: 02/15/2021 at 3:12pm
Tara Davis, Doctorate in Counselling Psychology
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I've had a lot of experience with changing emotions throughout my life. I've found that the best way of dealing with them is to recognize that my mood has changed, and ask myself why that has happened. What is making me feel this way? This can be a good way of not only realizing that I'm experiencing different emotions, but figuring out better ways of dealing with them.
Emotional change can be an overwhelming experience. I have felt this way countless times. The way I cope with emotional change is by being mindful of my feelings and thoughts, taking a small break from reality, and breathing deeply. Relaxing is a great way to calm down and put things in perspective.
Emotionally we all change often depending or age, environment and culture. To deal is to accept the emotional changes and to turn it into a positive thing.
All you can really do is take everything slowly. Nothing is easy to get used to but in time it will get better.
This can be really hard! I think what works best is to rationalize how you feel. Compare your feelings with objective reality. Are you overthinking? Is this a phase? Try to make decisions slowly. Put yourself in another person's shoes. A mood journal and a solid friend to talk to will really help :)
Everyone must deal with emotional change because it is a part of life. We can learn to deal with emotional changes in healthy ways that help us or in ways that don't help us. So, what help and does not help looks different for each person. It's helpful to know what helps us and what does not help us. Maybe exercising helps or watching our favorite TV helps? Perhaps we deal with emotional change by eating, looking at porn, drinking etc. which does not help us? One thing that helps us is talking (being listened to) and in that process we hear ourselves and perhaps we get the opportunity to listen to ourselves, unload the thoughts about change that may be weighing us down. For me talking to friends and family and being listened to helps me a lot.
Whenever I am dealing with emotional changes, especially negative ones, I place a lot of emphasis on self care. I do things for myself that make me feel happy and feel good and I am gentle to myself. It's hard and its a process, but we are worth every second.
When I'm feeling emotional changes, I make sure to remind myself that it's okay to feel emotion. Sadness, anxiety, anger, and disappointment are all a part of life-- just like joy, relief, and pride. By reminding myself that these emotions are normal, it provides me with a feeling of validity. The result is that I find positive emotions even more satisying-- it's a deeper feeling of joy when you've also felt what it's like to be terribly sad. While I deal with negative emotions, I find it's best to spend time doing things that I enjoy and allow myself the time and space to heal.
You really can't prevent them quite so easily, but you can prepare for them. When you feel that you may have an emotional change, take deep breaths or hold your breath to slow down your heart beat and calm yourself, write reminders and notes to yourself before, during and after your emotional change to enable you to not only prevent it but also understand it.
First, it may help to track your emotions for a while. Make a chart and check in a few times each day - what are you feeling? How intense is the feeling? Pay attention to situations and thoughts that surround these feelings. Are there any patterns regarding when you feel certain ways, what thoughts are connected to certain feelings, and what situations/types or experiences trigger certain feelings? How intense are these feelings? What do these feelings make you want to do? With this knowledge, you can find coping methods to help you prevent, lessen, and manage these emotional changes. Breathing Techniques, Grounding Techniques, Challenging Irrational Thoughts, Mindfulness, Distractions, Riding the wave of emotions, Journaling ... all these things can help with emotional changes. (googling can explain them in more detail). If your mood changes are severe and hard to manage, it may be best to visit with a therapist and consider asking about psychiatric medication to help stabilize your moods. If you already have meds, it is important to take them regularly - within 30 minutes before or after the assigned time of day, every day - for them to be most helpful.
Adaption is a big part of being human. What caused you to have these emotional changes, do you feel that they're healthy or useful changes to your environment? All good questions that you should ask yourself.
Be aware of your emotions with your surrounding or events. Note out your current emotions and triggers. Do it for a week for a start. Maybe you come to realisation on why your emotions change by time and come up with something :)
When its uncomfortable, just think, "this too shall pass."
Depends on which way your emotions change. Going from happy to sad is often harder than going from sad to happy. But emotional changes are natural things so it's not something to be so afraid of, acceptance and understanding of yourself and your emotions is key
It's normal to have changes in your emotions or even mood swings as we are all susceptible to feeling like we are unable to control our emotions. Although this is normal, if you feel like you genuinely can't deal with your emotions and that they are completely slipping out of control, then definitely contact someone you trust to talk it out or see a therapist to seek help. If you're dealing with emotional changes in the moment, take some deep breaths or try some relaxation exercises. Try thinking of some positive things or about some good memories. In the long-term, you could try starting a hobby to try and manage your emotions and setting some time out daily/weekly to reflect and take a breather.
Emotions are an important part of us and for this reason it is important to listen to them, let them flow within us, feel their effect and internalize it. The important thing is to practice recognizing the emotions that arise within us, in order to understand what emotion I am feeling and in this way it is possible to train yourself to manage emotions in small steps. Because when you are able to recognize emotions, you can search within yourself for what need they arise from. What is the need we want to satisfy and for which that emotion is born in front of a specific event.
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