This one is easy..my mom tells me to make surei dont do somthing society doesnt see as a nice deed even though you thimk its rite i always reply to her by jst telling her it doesnt really affect me what the society says...bescause even if i do rite they would always take it otherwise and also none of them are going to stand by me when i am in a problem its going to be just you and dad...so what i really care about it what you guys think and not what the society thinks...i hopethis could help you out
You are an individual! You are the one who is going to achieve success! You are the one who is going to suffer! Don;t spend your energy thinking about what people are going to say! You are special your own way!
You are entitled to your own happiness not the society. And if you are gonna put the responsibility for society to make u happy you will never be happy you will only always be pressured. How you carry yourself stresses how u are in the society. Society sees you the way that u carry yourself. So it is up to you n whether you wanna show them that you are strong and confident or timid and scared.
You can take a step back and make a list of the pressures you are facing. Sometimes, when you figure out what people want from you and write it out, some of the pressures seem silly. Look through the list, do the pressures mean well? Do you feel like they are unnecessary? Treat the ones you feel are important as motivation, as goals you can plan for, achieve and can deal with. Discard the pressures that do you no good. With a game plan, you don't need to worry about what to do when society ask 'when are you getting an actual job or when are you getting married.' You know exactly how to respond to those questions.
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May 17th, 2015 7:16pm
This is a tough one, but I would say being comfortable in your own skin is a process. It takes time, and I think the first step is truly finding it in yourself to accept yourself. Once you do that, you have your own shield against what society tries to have you do. Be gentle with yourself, and your comfort with yourself will radiate.
The pressures of society; there are so many, so many indeed! But its okay, its normal, its the way of the world; essentially, it is important and imperative to be confident in yourself, to trust in your person--who you are! Society places many expectations, normals, and values amongst us all; you need to adhere to the beliefs and customs of which you believe to be worthy, healthy, appropriate and beneficial; trust in who you are and how you were raised, in an effort to be the best individual you can be. Along with these pressures, society allows for growth and various opportunities for enlightenment and overall success; take into account your needs and values, your internal strengths and capabilities--these are what matter most. You are your first, and more prized priority. Let society serve your interests, be confident in you.
You are feeling wrong because you think you are not enough to solve these pressures. That means there is a ""you"" inside of yourself that you aim. A ""you"" that can handle everything and is just a happy being doing his cool stuff! Since you want to reach it, that means your subconscious has not given up on the idea of the better you.
I say believe in the ""you"" who still believes in you. Good luck!! :)
Good question, especially considering we all at one point or another worry about the pressures of society. The easiest way to stop worrying is by paying more attention to what YOU consider important and the right path to take. Once you get comfortable in that state of mind, the rest seems to fall into place.
Societal pressures are a difficult battle. It is hard to know yourself from the opinions of others. I am in my mid-30s and still struggle with this. However, I attempt to look inward when a situation or question like this arises.
The first question I ask myself is, "Is society putting this pressure on me? or is it my PERCEPTION of society that is doing this?"
The second question I ask myself is "Who's judgment out of the 5-10 people I spend the most time with am I really worried about?"
Once I answer these questions, I find it easier to take on the situation. If I whittle this down to the care of one person's opinion, I ask their opinion on the situation, and then use my own internal values compass to guide me to what I feel is the right course of action-- regardless of what will be though of me.
You would stop worrying when you decide to not care aboit society. You think like it is your life, and you must take decisions regarding it, and the society must not affect you. There will be people who would question you, you must keep going without thinking what others think about you.
Think about it like our solar system. You're the earth, but you feel the tug of the sun, the moon and all the other orbits. You can let them control you. Or you can concentrate on being yourself, grounding yourself literally to the earth. Refuse to give in to pressure from outside. Take some time talking to and listening to yourself. Do what your gut instincts tell you is right for you. Only you know what you really need. Society will keep on going in circles, and you'll still feel the tugs of societal pressure. But you can stop worrying about them by focusing on being the best "you" you can be.
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