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Sometimes I hear a voice in my head that tells me negative things like everyone hates me or I should kill myself. What should I do?

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Anonymous
November 7th, 2018 9:07pm
Many thoughts are coming to our mind, and some of them are staying for a while or repeat. When bad things happen or feel lonely, we can tend to accuse ourselves like thoughts coming to your mind. In this situation, it may be better if you improve a self-compassion. Also there are books about that, and it works by reading and practicing the exercises. Other than this, you should focus on what's happening more than accusing and being harsh to yourself. It is like a process for most of the people. Sometimes we can be alone, or feel like this. Important thing is how you manage this process at the end. There are still many things to learn, and we should be tolerant and friendly to ourselves. Hope it somehow helps :) Best wishes,
LouisaCT
November 8th, 2018 5:53am
Talk to a professional. Be honest with those around you. Talk as kindly to yourself as possible. It's hard when our heads tell us negative things, especially to kill ourselves, but reaching out is the best thing we can do. A professional like a therapist or a doctor, has great skills they can use to help you change the messages your head is giving you. Therapists might teach you tools to talk back to your head. A doctor or psychiatrist will be able to look into any further problems you may be having. Sometimes health conditions cause our brains to hear voices. I know being honest about negative thoughts and voices is difficult but it really is best to ask for help. Best wishes, keep safe and talk kindly back to that voice!
FreshRiver42
November 11th, 2018 3:40pm
This is hard, and I'm sorry you're going through it. I find it helps to question these thoughts rationally: Does everyone *really* hate you? Or are they just too busy thinking about what's happening in their lives, making it seem like they're distant from you? Again, should you *really* kill yourself, or is it likely that one day, things may get better? Is it likely that your friends and family would be devastated, no matter how much your brain may say otherwise? It's not easy. And you don't always believe these rational thoughts, not at first. But, it's a start. Maybe one day, you'll really begin to believe them. Stay strong. I believe in you x
Anonymous
November 24th, 2018 5:36pm
We all have that little voice in our head, sometimes it’s helpful and othertimes it tries to persuade you to let the world come crashing down. You don’t have to listen to it, as it’s only a voice, it can’t tell you what to do and it can’t hurt you unless you let it. Take it day by day and you will slowly get stronger, tell the voice to leave you alone and blast your headphones with your favourite song, read a book, write a story, anything that helps you ignore the negative thoughts and voice. But don’t feel as though you’re alone and that you have to do what the voice is telling you because it has absolutely no control over you unless you let it, and if you have a moment of weakness, it’s fine, we all do, just make sure to tell someone so that you don’t risk hurting yourself x
Anonymous
December 7th, 2018 7:31pm
It is good that you see it as a voice in your head and are able to observe it. Don't take it too seriously. You could talk to it like you would talk to a little child and show the voice why this would be not true for you.
BeeboIsQueen
December 27th, 2018 6:51am
You need to get professional help. Whenever you feel like killing yourself, visit suicide.org. Please understand that these thoughts are very important and should be dealt with right away for your safety. You matter, and you deserve help. Please, get help whenever those thoughts arise. I am not a professional, so you should see someone who is. Starting at a doctors office or something can allow you to get some help, and a support system would be nice. If you don't have a support system (or just would like an addition), then you can visit 7 cups of tea, where we can welcome you with open arms.
SadCupoTea
January 20th, 2019 1:03am
I have personally dealt with this demon in my life. It is a very difficult thing to overcome and it takes a lot of strength and willpower. The fact that you are here on this site shows that you do have what it takes to overcome this darkness. You have to will yourself to focus on the better side of things. To choose to listen to positive music and to choose to see the good things that have happened throughout your day. It's all about shifting your perception to minimize that voice in your head as much as possible. Things do get better and they will improve, no matter how bleak things are.
hohwriter726
February 9th, 2019 12:49am
I would try saying something like 'No' or 'Stop' whenever you hear that voice. You can try saying it out loud or in your head. Also, make a list of positive things about yourself. If you are struggling to do this, ask friends and family what they think is something positive about you. Then write it down. Whenever you are feeling down about yourself, take a look at this list. It will be hard in the beginning, but overtime you will find yourself believing the positive things more an it will become easier. I wish you the best of luck!
Anonymous
February 10th, 2019 9:28pm
You should go to the doctor and tell the doctor what is going on with you because this could be the beginning of some mental issues. There is nothing wrong with seeking help for medical issues. I believe everyone from time to time hear voices in there head. The problems come when these voices keep coming more frequently and wont go away. It still is a very good idea to see a medical professional to see what they think about your mental status. I hope and pray that you will take these voices seriously and get it checked out. Hopefully, it will turn out to be nothing.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2019 8:57pm
You should tell someone you trust as soon as you can. This could be a sign of either depression or schizophrenia. Things like this are very serious, and may lead to some serious mental health issues. The best thing to do is talk to your parents about seeing a therapist and possibly being put on meds. You should never listen to the voices, they are not real. Everyone does not hate you and I am sure you a very loved and wanted here by many people. Try your best to explain to your parents what it going on and how you feel.
dxphne
March 28th, 2019 10:08am
First of all, try not to listen to the voice so you don't do thing you'll regret. This is definitely easier said than done though. I don't have any experiences with this but I feel like the most important thing you could do is seek professional help in this case. It's a serious issue that you shouldn't ignore, it might get worse if you do and you don't want that. A professional will probably be able to diagnose you and tell you why you keep hearing that voice and why it keeps telling you negative things, they will most likely also be able to help you get rid of it or atleast learn you how to deal with it.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2019 9:06pm
That "voice" that you hear is actually yours whether you believe it or not. It's most likely your dark subconscious thoughts. Whats best would be to challenge them. Ask "why should I listen to what you say?" "why would everyone hate me?" especially when you know that not everyone does. You're amazing and wonderful I am sure. Try to understand more about yourself. The roots of these problems and voices. After doing so figure out a solution or maybe tell someone who can help you wether it be friends or family. I wish you the best of luck. .
pplloveu
April 25th, 2019 1:39am
That voice is a mental illness, it could be depression or anxiety. Or just an effect from bullying. It’s best if you get scanned for any mental disorder, that way you will be able to start getting treatment and not have to wait till it gets really really bad. Where you have to contact a suicide life line because you’re not sure that you’ll be able to sure that you will be able to see the next morning. And those voices can become super harmful when that’s all you hear 24-7. And you start to believe them. Talk to someone get out everything you’re holding in. It’s way better so you know that you won’t end up doing something that will effect you future. While talking may be hard, talk on a site like this we don’t know each other, yet this a bunch of people who can relate to what you’re going through. And give you advice which they weren’t given. We want to see you succeed, and that may take a while. And that’s ok, but it’s not ok to run from you’re problems because they’ll just end up popping up at the worst moment.
softPrime1818
July 7th, 2019 2:12am
Open up, talk to someone, anyone. Getting it out there will help identify the cause, maybe lead to an answer and definitely show you are not alone. You will find that voice can be silenced, that you are worth the life you own, but most importantly how cherished and vital you are to those around you. Your presence impacts others in ways you could never dream of, just by your existence, be it’s brother, sister, friend, parent, partner. People need and want you daily as their lives would lessen without you to light the path and show them a unique and wonderful person
hope0207
July 30th, 2019 1:01pm
i think most people with social anxiety can relate. i myself, hear the voice all the time. the important thing is to remind yourself that the voice is just a tiny part of you. you are stronger than your fears and you are stronger than the voice. you can overcome this by reminding yourself that you are here for a reason and that not everyone hates you and you certainly should not kill yourself. you might feel that the voice is right, but it is not. it is only showing you a reflection of how wrong things could go, which would give you all the more reason to want to show the voice that you are stronger and also feel better.
Anonymous
October 26th, 2019 10:23am
Human autonomy differs among each individual. But, one-thing remains same i.e. we all have voice, which continuously let us know about right & wrong in our daily dealings. This voice is collection of our feelings. If a person suffered during different occasions & haven’t expressed oneself too. Then, his/her associated voice starts plotting negative agendas inside mind and manipulate oneself thinking (Which is quiet alarming). Usually, this happens with introverts because they are not quiet vocal in expressing their feelings. In order to avoid being trapped in this state or being manipulated by your unexpressed feelings, he/she should work on their communication-skills, be good listener and share their inside with their love ones. Good communication sort out about 99% of such issues & stops the ‘negativity’ feeding upon your soul. In short, "Whenever you feel bad about other, go talk to them directly... & when you feel bad about yourself, go talk to good listener (7Cups)" I hope, this answered your question.
LtPastel
October 30th, 2019 8:40pm
Firstly, I'd say "That voice is simply a figment of your imagination, it can do no harm to you and you should disregard it." and advise the client to practice deep breathing and other distraction techniques to avoid them from harming themselves. If needed, I will refer the client to crisis support, as therapy is not a viable option for them at the present time, they need immediate support such as the National Crisis Line and the Suicide Prevention Lifeline. It's really important that a listener is aware of many psychotic conditions that may cause hallucinatory voices promoting negative thought patterns.
Elizaswords98
November 21st, 2019 8:42pm
Those voices come and go. You are not alone in this struggle. But what you need to remember is, that that voice is a lie. You are important and loved. And no one can take that from you. And when that voice leaves, you'll know there is better to look forward to. There is so much to live for. Death never brings peace to anyone. Just imagine saying those words to your younger self. You are not alone. Find help and find someone to talk to. Build yourself up and surround yourself with people that cherish and love you.
Anonymous
November 27th, 2019 4:35pm
Try to keep your head up and don't listen to it. Do things you really like to do! Like go on a bike ride or go shopping with your friends! And soon you will forget that voice in your head. You are strong and beautiful and smart and so much more. Don't let a stupid voice bring you down you are strong and can get through this! We are all here for you and when you need to talk we will always be here! And remember if you want to see the rainbow then you have to deal with the rain!
Anonymous
November 30th, 2019 5:07am
Remind yourself of 5 good things about yourself and 5 good things about your life. Ask a friend to name a good quality about you. Think back on something good you did. No one should ever have to think that way. Always remind yourself of the people you are closest to, they are there for a reason. Not everyone will like you or everything about you, and that’s okay. You don’t need everyone on your side, only yourself. Someone out there cares, and until you find that someone or figure out that someone, let yourself be the one you know for a fact cares. Stay strong, and never give up.
HotChocolate2
December 1st, 2019 3:26pm
First of all, I'm glad you're able to recognize that these thoughts are NEGATIVE, untrue, and ultimately not thoughts that you want to have! Come and have a chat, if you like! I know it can be very hard when the person you're fighting against yourself, so airing out these thoughts to someone else might help you feel better. If this problem is severely affecting your daily life, though, I definitely recommend seeking professional help. Left untreated, these negative thoughts could lead to pretty drastic consequences. I hope you feel better soon. Feel free to come and chat anytime you feel like it :)
Anonymous
December 6th, 2019 5:17pm
Negative voices are usually the result of negative thoughts. If you look at life as negative it will be the same. And normally focus yourself on optimistic thoughts. Don't you think life is too shaky for you to have negative thoughts?Get rid of it, relax yourself, make a change and practice it. That will only eliminate the negative thoughts.Pleace answer for next yout feeling and what happened to you after we got the chance.I am very happy because I help for yours, Practice a smile and be relaxed .. Everything else will be great.Good look for your life .
theSereneFish
December 14th, 2019 9:42pm
Although hearing those negative voices can be unsettling and hurtful, they are thoughts, and as such you can ask those thoughts why they are there, if they are speaking the truth, or if they are alerting you to deeper fears about yourself. If that voice tells you that everyone hates you, is that actually true? Does every single person who interacts with you hate you? Chances are, most likely no. There are most likely several people who love you and care about you. In terms of killing yourself, as yourself where those feelings are coming from? Are they a result of you believing that everyone hates you, therefore you feel like you should kill yourself? Are there any other options available to you? Can you find one or two reasons to live? The goal is to critically question our thoughts and see if we have enough evidence to truly believe them, or give into them. Once we take a deeper look at where they are coming from, and how closely they align with what is true, we discover that our worst fears are really just that: fears. The reality is, we are loved, we are capable, and there is ALWAYS a reason to stay alive.
Anonymous
January 18th, 2020 11:02pm
Even i feel the same most of the time. I don't know what to do. Please let me know if you know the answerEven i feel the same most of the time. I don't know what to do. Please let me know if you know the answerEven i feel the same most of the time. I don't know what to do. Please let me know if you know the answerEven i feel the same most of the time. I don't know what to do. Please let me know if you know the answer
Anonymous
January 19th, 2020 2:32pm
I have had experienced this, not too long ago. These voices are hard to get rid of, and for you to be brave enough to want to fight it, by asking this question (or even for being here to search for answers!) is a big step. But that is one thing that we need to remember. It is a voice. But you? You're much much much bigger than just a voice. You're a mixture of body, mind, soul, and when it's big enough, if you breathe and focus a bit more, you'll have a much bigger voice that can silent out these negative voices. Remember to breathe, think about your whole body, your experiences, and how you should leap out of it to be the louder voice. :)
gentleSun78
February 7th, 2020 1:05pm
Regardless of whether it is a voice and not just negative automatic thoughs, which can be symptom of delusions which is symptom of schyzophrenia and delusional disorders, or it is just negative automatic thought symptomatic to depression or obsessive compulsive disorder, you need to seek appropriate support (call emergency number, suicide hotline) and visit your psychiatrist as soon as possible. It can be very serious as it can lead to harm yourself seriously. Every suicide thought needs to be taken seriously. These thoughts shouldn't be disregarded. I hope that you will seek appropriate help and that they will be able to help you that you will no longer have these voices or that you will be able to cope with them in non harmful way.
Stillfalling2002
February 9th, 2020 8:19am
Firstly please reach out to someone close to you or consider seeing a therapist or even call a mental health hotline. in the meantime practice separating your thoughts and maybe take some time to think about why you are feeling this. What is going on your life that might make you feel this way? Realise that you deserve to be here and there are always ways to feel better even when you think it’s impossible. When we are going through bad times it’s easy to fall into a negative place and learning how to take time away from Things that stress you us out is important and takes practice.
LadyNikita
February 28th, 2020 12:50am
It's very hard to get rid of the voice. I don't actually know a cure - I'm not sure that one exists. I've been on therapy for 2 years and the voice is still here. I still sometimes believe it. But what helps me is debating with the voice. First of all - recognizing that the voice is your Inner Critic and it's not always right. It has become too cautious because it tries to protect you and that's the only way it knows how. It's very complicated, something to work out in therapy. Anyways, what helps with the voice is dispute. Search for rational contradictions to what it's saying. Take a deep breath or two and tell it that it has no power over you. It can whisper lies to your ear but you don't have to act on them or even believe them. It's all in your power, it only needs a lot of practice. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2020 2:36pm
When you hear these voices, do you try to ignore them or do they give you any feelings? If these feelings are affecting you negatively, please utilize a hotline for suicide prevention. We are here for you to listen if you would like to talk about how these voices are making you feeling and what they are telling you. We are here to listen to you and talk you through any feelings that you may be having at this time. This is a safe place with no judgement so we are happy to listen to how you are feeling at this time. Are you comfortable to share your story?
Anonymous
April 26th, 2020 8:42am
stop, breathe, and talk. talk to your emotions. tell them that you can hear them. tell them what you are feeling; that they're too intimidating, and they are making you so uncomfortable. tell them that they should not be that loud and expressive because you are doing your best to make your situation better. you are doing everything to make it out every day. those voices should not be louder than you. you control you; you are the superior of you, not them. make those clear for them. writing would do it too. just let those things go out.