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What if I am not good at what I love to do?

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Last Updated: 11/02/2020 at 10:40am
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CosmicCubes
March 23rd, 2016 5:08pm
Pursue what makes you happy no matter how good you are at it, because at the end of the day what matters is that it does make you happy, not that you'd have to be good at it. You can always get better, after all.
WhenYouSmile
May 14th, 2015 11:52pm
All I can say is if you enjoy doing it, it shouldn't matter what people think. Also, practice definitely makes perfect! x
Anonymous
April 9th, 2016 4:19am
I believe we all have these doubts or self perceptions that we might not be so good or successful in what we love to do. sometimes it's okay to feel like this, as there's always room to improve and stay inspired to keep on creating, other times it can get the best of us. you're not alone. plenty of people high in what they love to do, face this regularly it's a matter of fact. sometimes interests change or shift, you become unmotivated or uninspired or there can be many other factors. if you believe you are unmotivated or could do better and want to continue within what you are doing, there are plenty strategies you could try to keep on task and further your abilities within it. in short, one thing i would say is never give up. regardless of talent or another factor within a task, if you love it or want to learn more about it.. keep going. there is so much potential within us and our minds. we are endlessly evolving and intelligent, creative beings. you can do it
healingWaterfall75
June 10th, 2015 1:51pm
Sometimes loving what we do is not enough to be good at it. However, this doesn't mean we can't get better. If you love something, keep trying, keep doing it, and you will improve little by little.
PhoenixFoxTail
May 8th, 2016 5:34am
Keep at it! Practice makes perfect, you have to start somewhere! If you keep practicing at whatever it is you love, you will see the results!
Anonymous
March 23rd, 2016 11:16am
keep doing it. it doesn't matter if you're good at it or not, just as long as it makes you happy, that's what matters.
KassySunshine96
March 23rd, 2016 2:00am
Do it anyways! If you love to do it, then that is all that matters. If it makes you happy, then do it.
LuckyDuke
June 12th, 2015 5:42pm
Continue doing it! Everything we do is always not only a matter of ability but also a matter of know-how. You can't expect do be awesome at something without putting effort into it. Also some people are quicker learners while others might need longer but reach a higher upper limit. Do not give up to do what you love unless you stop loving it.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 4:41pm
Then you keep practicing. If you love what you do, you can always get better. You gotta start somewhere, you will be good one day.
Lespoir
April 2nd, 2016 10:26pm
One of the reasons we love to do certain things doesn't necessarily have to be because we are the best at it. Instead, it may be because it brings us joy and great pleasure, which in turns keeps us coming back to it...and, as it is popularly known, practice makes perfect. You've got the motivation for it. You've got the love for it. Now what are you comparing your skills to that is making you feel that you are not good at what you love? The goal is to be better than the "you" you were yesterday. With motivation and love, you are already doing great because you've got the passion. Keep it up. Overtime you'll grow better and more confident in yourself and achieve great things.
ShinyAegislash
January 14th, 2015 7:11pm
That's actually a confusing question, almost like a paradox. But, I can understand where you're coming from. I'd say, instead of worrying about whether you're good or not, how about taking the time to enjoy what you love to do. In the end others don't decide whether you're good at what you love to do, you're the one who decides.
Anonymous
June 14th, 2015 8:22pm
Loving something doesn't mean you must make it career. It can me your hobby. amy be you part time or leisure job.
mroa
March 25th, 2016 9:53pm
It does not matter. You're doing something that you love, something that makes you happy, and that's enough. Even if you are not good, you'll eventually get better with practice.
peacefulNight35
November 28th, 2017 12:59am
Keep practicing. Don't give up. No one starts out perfect I promise. You are not worth less because you can't do it and it doesn't undermine how much you love the thing. Keep at it.
brianna0217
April 3rd, 2016 7:28am
You don't have to be good to love something. As long as you love it, that's all that matters. Keep enjoying what you like to do.
Popsicle1990
April 23rd, 2015 9:03am
what is the definition of good? I work with people all the time and enjoy it but i wouldnt say i am a the best at all times. Passion and dedication can outweigh academic ability or some of the skills needed, and naturally we progress and learn through time. Stick with what feels right and the GOOD will follow.
DrumBhudda
April 1st, 2016 12:24pm
Practice makes perfect. With patience and determination you can reach new levels of talent that you had not though possible. Problem is that few are willing to wait that long to get to that level. Be practical and learn as much as you can. Most of all, remember that it's not about being the best as much as it is about being better than you were yesterday.
BatmanAtYourService
April 10th, 2016 7:53pm
It's alright but that doesn't mean you should stop working towards it. Let the passion guide you to perfection. Nobody is perfect at anything. Just keep improving.
TheGreyFixer
April 13th, 2016 9:05pm
If you have found what you love, first of all, I would like to applaud you. It can take many people a long time to figure out, as strange as that may sound. Secondly, I would like to point out that no one gets anywhere without a large amount of hard work. Even these so-called "naturally talented" people you see around will have had to put in work to get where they are now. For some, it's easier than for others. For those others, it can be a lot harder. Never give up on what you love. But don't feel like you have to stagnate, either. Seek new ways to get better at what you love. If it's art, or music, try a free life-drawing class or join a group. If it's sports, find events to take part in or try out a new workout. If it's algebraic equations, find workbooks on the internet. The possibilities are endless. But don't let yourself be downcast because you're comparing yourself to others or having trouble progressing. If you're doing it because it makes you happy, just do it.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2016 11:28am
If you love to do it, then you should keep doing it.If it makes you happy, dont let it go.Success comes after fails.
mindfulBeing92
April 14th, 2016 3:07am
Take it as a lesson learned. There is always time to learn a new trade, and to find a new passion that may be relative to what you previously had wanted.
Lina16
April 14th, 2016 4:50pm
You don't have to be good at something to enjoy it. Having fun is a lot more important that being good at something. :)
BlueSky101
April 15th, 2016 7:22pm
Well, you have to keep trying to be better. Expert in anything was once a beginner! You will - mostly - fail in the beginning. But eventually, you will be good (very good probably) at what you love to do!
thisrideisawildone
April 21st, 2016 12:53pm
Recognise why you feel that you aren't good at it - chances are it is just your personal perception, and whether you are good or not is subjective anyway. If you enjoy what you are doing, and have a passion for it - that is the most important thing. Passion is rare, and doing something you love helps so so much. Don't give that up because you feel you may not be good enough - because you always are good enough.
Aquadreamer4151
April 7th, 2016 7:09pm
if you love it do it. do not second guess your ability. i love basketball doesn't mean i am going to play in the wnba just means i wish to participate in basketball where possible
Anonymous
April 16th, 2016 3:38am
If you don't like one of the things your interested try another of your interest and find a way you can approach it in a different way.
flybird22
April 30th, 2016 1:35pm
we are social being , we have some skills and qualities , sharp your edges and work hard what you love to do , i'm sure you will be successful.
TheFallenOne14s
May 1st, 2016 12:25pm
many things we thought we really love and wasn't meant to be ours , at some point there will be one thing that we are really good at by nature or by hard work, that we truly love doing it
gabbyyyy
May 4th, 2016 10:26am
Still do it! Do what makes you happy because nothing else matters. And after some practice you will get better at what you love to do.
Anonymous
May 4th, 2016 10:38am
Always trust yourself in what you do if you love what you do all you need is the inspiration to keep pushing forward in what you love to do and excel on it.