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Anonymous
September 2nd, 2020 2:51am
Yes, of course! Especially when we just had bad breakups, rebound will help us move on faster from the ex. We will be able to build our confidence back faster and even better. Hence rebound can promise and also lead us into a better relationship, the one that actually works. We will be able to apply what we just learned from our previous breakups to avoid another breakups. We now know what we want exactly from our relationship and will able to respect our new partner better than before. So, yes, I think rebound relationship can and will work, if we want it to work.
psych0l0gy
September 9th, 2020 2:10am
Sometimes it can. Ig you and your partner believe in each other then i think that can work. Sometimes it doesn't but you need to be optimistic so you can keep that relationship healthy. The most important thing is that how you feel in that relationship and you need to know what you exactly want and expect from your partner. You need to tell each other what you feel, even when you have a problem. Sometimes people don't believe in rebound relationships but it's okay because sometimes it doesn't work out. You must know that if you thinks that your partner is toxic, you shouldn't come back to him.
AmarahSofia
September 10th, 2020 8:05am
Depending on people. But for me, before we enter relationship we must assure that we are ready. We enter relationship bcos we love that person, we should not use others to get over with our feelings. Let us all value people and their vulnerability. We all deserve true and pure love. Relationship isnt just about love but commitment and understanding. Let us not take anyone's for granted. Rebound relationships mostly happen when one's cant get over with their past. They seek to find comfort in order to relieve the pain and sadness. It is a lame reason to use other people to get over with our misery because we are causing other people's misery too by using them. Human feelings are not decoy to get used and played with it.b
iubarcaelum
September 10th, 2020 5:27pm
do rebound relationships ever work? personally, i think yes. i've been dating a guy for almost a year now and we had dated twice before this. i never believed in second chances but i do believe people need time and i believe, in order to work out, relationships need to have trust, communication and last but not the least, efforts. relationships need time to click. everyone makes mistakes but in the end, it always comes down to if you're really ready to face the world with that person? it's not about how many chances you give someone but it's about the time and person you choose to be with.
Anonymous
September 20th, 2020 11:06am
Absolutely! People love to demonize rebound relationships, but there are instances where they can be beneficial. In a relationship, we get all/most of our romantic and physical needs met. To go from being surrounded by love every day, to having none, can be a bit of a system shock. It's normal to want to embrace someone, and its completely possible to develop an emotional connection! I left a terrible relationship, and "rebounded" to someone who respected me and my decisions. This helped me get closure on my previous relationship and also showed me what a relationship SHOULD be like. Don't let people bring down your happy relationship. If you are emotionally healthy and have moved on, there's a high possibility that it can work!
professionalVision4921
October 4th, 2020 10:09pm
I’m not a expert on relationships. Would say that you are wanting or in rebounding relationships. Sometime I feel that we meet people quickly to fill the void of someone else. I’m sure some people have great luck finding the one after a break up. I don’t know if they are the lucky ones. I happens to remember having my first breakup and needing to have that void filled again. However, I decided to wait. I needed to find out who I was before I ran to meet someone else. I think that was one of my best decisions. I think we get caught up on relationships and forget who we are.
Anonymous
October 9th, 2020 1:39am
It depends on whether the person rebounding is still in love with their previous partner, and also whether they truly love their current. It will also be dependent on the persons mental state, as a big break up can take a serious toll on ones mental health. Sometimes meeting someone that you instantly bond with after a break up heals the hurt the said person is experiencing, especially if the two fall in love. But speaking from experience it is hard to trust and love a person when somebody has just broken you before hand. All in all I believe a rebound relationship can work sometimes but it is dependant completely on these factors.
Anonymous
October 11th, 2020 7:52pm
A Rebound Relationship Will Work If… A partner is open and honest with the new partner about the recent breakup and the reasons for it A partner knows with all certainty that the previous relationship is 100% over. They grieve it, but they don’t dwell in grief. They are fully engaged in the new relationship. If the person is dating a new person out of love and openness, and they are not reacting to the loss of the old relationship, the relationship might just work. If the previous relationship ended on good terms, one has a better shot at a rebound. If the person is the one who ended the relationship, the rebound is likely to work. However, if the person is the one who was left, this may affect their self-image, making them more emotionally unstable.
proudPeace77
November 12th, 2020 12:42pm
Not really, you can do them for a few weeks but then the other person gets bored and goes back to their wife/girlfriend and doesn't tell you or treats you badly, so i don't think it is a good idea really, it is probably better to tell these people that you are not interested from the start if you think that they are on the rebound, because it is not fair on you really. You owe yourself more than that and it is not very respectful or good for the soul. It is probably better to avoid someon who you think is on the rebound.
DarkPiT23
November 14th, 2020 1:16pm
New research shows rebound relationships are surprisingly healthy. Recent evidence suggests, in fact, that people who dive into rebound relationships get over their ex-partner more quickly and feel more confident in their date-ability A rebound is a romantic relationship which follows shortly after a breakup and before the full healing of the emotions from the last relationship. It eliminates the time you stay single after you call it quits with your last boyfriend. On average, 90% of rebound relationships fail within the first three months. Rebound relationships can work, but according to a number of studies, approximately 65% will fail within 6 months. In most cases, this happens because the new person (the rebound) is simply filling in the gaps that the ex left wide open.
Eddy93
November 23rd, 2020 6:27pm
It depends on each person individually. There is a lot of things that can be said here. From my personal experience, I would like to say no. If you just ended a relationship, you need time for healing! And you really need a time for healing. Some years ago I was in a short relationship with a person who had recently broken up his previous relationship, and after some short time I noticed that I felt more like a substitute of his previous lover, he wanted to have a quick-relief and he believed that it will work.. that I will replace his ex-lover and all pain will be gone... but it is deception... I believe that, when you break up, you need time for healing, time for a grieving. Grieving for the lost dreams. You need time to have some analysis of yourself and the relationship that you want. You need to time consider questions like - what I didn`t like in this relationship? What kind of relationship I want in my life? What kind of person I need for a relationship? What are my values in a relationship? What isn`t acceptable for me in a relationship? And quick remedies like a new lover will not help you to get through these questions, and If you will build a new relationship very quickly after break up – there will be a risk to engage in the same previous relationship obstacles, and once again to experience disappointment. I think people who just had a breakup are vulnerable! And it isn`t healthy to build relationship when we are vulnerable. There is a good article in psychology today about this topic: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/intense-emotions-and-strong-feelings/201309/rebound-relationships Best wishes Eddy.
Anonymous
December 9th, 2020 11:09pm
Hello, good evening! Rebound relationships can definitely work. If you real like someone and you guys get along well and they make you happy, it’s a good sign. Sometimes rebound relationships turn out to be the best relationships. It can also be helpful to get your mind off the past relationship and focus on the new. A new relationship can also help you to see what you maybe didn’t like about your last relationship that you now have or can work on having. As long as the relationship makes you happy and the other person is happy it can be good.
Anonymous
December 25th, 2020 3:52am
It depends on the relationship. If there are feelings left over from a previous relationship then probably not. However, the relationships can grow to carry their own meaning and develop on their own, despite being rebounds. I think it all comes down to the circumstance. In general, no. Rebound relationships do not work. Of course there are some exceptions. Rebound relationships typically do not work for a number of reasons, the main one being the purpose of getting into that relationship. Often times it is not fully thought through and things are not done intentionally, it simply happens. Now of course they can work, but in the end they need to work for the right reasons.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2020 1:48am
NO. Rebounds are something I like to call 'emotional getaway cars'. You aren't entering that new rebound relationship to actually forge a bond with another person. No, you are using them to emotionally getaway from the hurt you felt in your previous relationship. Save you and the rebound the trouble. You are just using them to avoid feeling pain and that is not fair to the person you want to rebound with. After a break up the best thing to do is just spend time with yourself again. You just left one painful relationship so why run right back into another. Work on yourself.
HereToTalkAboutIt
January 2nd, 2021 4:19am
In my personal experience, rebound relationships have the potential to work. Although this may not be the case for every person or every situation, it can't be said that it will never work out! Every relationship is different, and people need different things at different times, and sometimes a rebound relationship brings together two people who may need each other at that time. While I'm not currently in a rebound relationship, I was in one previously that lasted for multiple years and meant a lot to me. I'm still close friends with that person and they are a significant part of my life. In my opinion, that relationship worked and I'm so glad that I had that experience.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2021 7:22pm
Rebound relationships are not always doomed to fail simply because they are "rebound relationships". However, that being said, it can be challenging to make a relationship work if time and effort are not expended to evaluate why previous relationships have not been completely successful. That may mean taking a complete self inventory to see whether you contribute in any way to any type of relationship dysfunction that leads to the dissolution of relationships. In other words, if you hop into a new relationship super quickly, you may not have learned anything to make the new relationship more successful than the last relationship.
Jesselistens2294
March 21st, 2021 10:07pm
I think that rebound relationships are not the greatest of ideas, I feel that instead of jumping straight into a relationship as a ''rebound'' that instead you should try just taking time to heal and process the breakup that was prior, you have to take time to heal because if you dont, there is a good chance that you could hurt or get hurt during this ''rebound relationship.'' Sometimes rebounds may even help us feel good about ourselves however it in my experience always ends with if not both people getting hurt then usually at least one person out of the two involved ends up hurting or feeling used, When going through a breakup I have learned the best way to heal from it is to process it and take some time to reflect on it and see what could have been different and then i take what i have learned and use it to try and improve myself when i am ready to enter a new relationship but i do usually give myself a few months before even looking.
Steve847
March 28th, 2021 12:44pm
While this may be a rather uncharitable way to look at things, it’s hard to deny that this accepted, received view of ‘rebound relationships’ can come with various risks. The biggest risk is that the new relationship is simply being used as a way of avoiding emotions and feelings bound up in the previous one - that, by finding a new partner quickly, the person in question is trying to avoid the pain of breaking up and the sensation of uncertainty that can follow. The problem here is that these feelings often have a way of working themselves out anyway - and that can create instability in any new relationship. Another risk can come from the way in which rebound partners tend to be chosen. While the popular perception of rebound relationships is that the person in question chooses a new partner at random, the actual pattern can be more problematic. It’s not uncommon for them to choose a partner who is very, very similar (either physically or personality-wise) to their previous one - or someone who is totally opposite.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2021 9:11pm
When it comes to a rebound relationship some of them do work, some of them don't. It's honestly different for each person. For example, my rebound relationship helped me so much from all the pain I was feeling and it actually lead me to stay in a relationship with my now fiancé. We didn't except for it to happen but it did. Unfortunately that wasn't the case for some of the other people I know. They have tried to have a rebound relationship but they were too emotionally attached to their ex partner that they weren't able to forget about the pain from their past relationship.
Anonymous
April 2nd, 2021 10:44am
Personally i dont think they do because majority of the time you are trying to fill that gap from someone else and you havent healed from that experience. You taking that hurt and empty feelings that a past relationship gave you and trying to offload it into a new one 'rebound'. Sometimes this can result in making you feeling even worse because you havent received that closure and sense of healing in the other relationship and you trying to seek it in someone else. First try and seek in within yourself before you enter a new relationship and ensure you are in a good mindset
likeamelody114
April 7th, 2021 4:58pm
There is a stigma created around the word rebound, connecting it to a negative connotation that someone is moving on too quickly to be an insert where there was once comfort by another. With that being said, rebound relationships can work out, but in my personal experience it has proved healthy for my mental and emotional well being to be able to heal before getting involved with another individual too quickly. It's not to say that there is a specified amount of time, however it helped me to focus on myself for at least a month to allow my wounds to heal and for me to focus on my needs and desires and loving myself in order for me to know what it is I want from another. Loving yourself and knowing what you want from someone allows for a healthier relationship.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2021 6:00pm
Relationships are best when they are imbued with meaning. If you are simply thinking of something as a rebound it is belittling it to a point of utility in your life. After leaving an important relationship I think it is best to reflect on what has passed. Sometimes sitting with yourself and the feelings that surround the end of something is an important and vital aspect of growth. When we reflect on the past it gives us the opportunity to plan for the future in a meaningful way. When we rush into the next thing without properly processing we run the risk of not giving ourselves time to heal.
Anonymous
April 18th, 2021 6:06pm
Of course! The concept of a rebound relationship is that you run out and fall for someone new right away without really getting to know them very well. Ending the last relationship caused emotional need in you so you were so desperate, you jumped into a new one without looking where you were going. There could be other reasons to jump into a new relationship quickly besides leaving an old one. There could be some other changes in your life, graduating from college, moving to a new area, getting a promotion and a big bump in income, retiring and having a lot more free time, taking on a new attitude in life. When you jump into a new relationship quickly without really taking the time to get to know them, there is going to be an increased chance that the person isn't really right for you.
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2021 9:50am
It really depends on each individual and their circumstances. Usually rebound relationships don't work out well because there are still some strong feelings towards a previous partner. Some relationships end emotionally long before they end officially. One person may still be feeling love for their ex, whilst some may be genuinely ready to move on and start a fresh. Either way, it's always best to be open and honest about what you are seeking from potential future partners. Some rebound relationships can work and actually help in healing previous relationship wounds. Some, however, will probably need more time to process a previous break-up. They may feel lonely and be looking for a new intimate partner to fill the space their ex left behind.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2021 3:04am
Sometimes they can work if they’re putting the effort into the relationship. And there are certain standards for if and why they do work. If they put in effort. If they really like eachother and if they liked eachother during the past relationship. But they have to have all of these three in order to work together. Sometimes yes they can work but it isn’t typically likely but if you’re putting effort into any relationship they should work it doesn’t matter if they’re rebound relationships or if they are not rebound relationships. Every single one needs work and effort.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2021 8:53am
It really depends on the circumstances of the new relationship. It's not necessarily true that every rebound relationship would fail. If the intention of a hurting person is to move on and distract oneself from the breakup then it may not be healthy. Each person may require a different amount of time to process their break up. For some this may take days or weeks, others may take months or years. It depends on the length and seriousness of the previous relationship too. Often a rebound relationship may not work-out but it really depends on the intentions and nature of both people in the rebound relationship.
Berry1234
September 26th, 2021 5:21am
Rebound relationships often don't work because you're trying to fill the void you feel from your past relationship by being with another person though you still may be emotionally attached to the previous person. Taking the time to be alone to reflect on your previous relationship is important before entering another relationship because it ensures you are in the new relationship for the right reasons, not just because you want to feel the way you did with the person you were with prior and you're trying to get over the way you felt. Therefore, rebound relationships often don't work because you tend to make rash decisions when you're emotional and have just come out of a relationship with someone, so entering a relationship with someone else, that is, a rebound relationship, is likely not to work.
Anonymous
November 21st, 2021 6:28am
Never is a big word, but in general, rebound relationships do not work out long term. A rebound relationship stems from the loss of a relationship, and a need for temporary emotional and sexual attention. This attention is often times used to make the individual feel better temporarily, as well as to produce feelings of jealousy in the ex. If the goal of a relationship is to produce jealousy, and a relationship is rushed in order to have a rebound, then it is not a stable and genuine connection. Rebounds are simply temporary placeholders for avoiding working through the pain or trauma of grieving the loss of a relationship. These relationships are often not equal in emotional investment, and rarely work out in the end.
Anonymous
December 2nd, 2021 9:15am
Breakups can bring in sense of hopelessness, anxiety, low self esteem and sadness. Taking time for oneself before moving into relationships is often viewed as the right way however some people seek comfort in another romantic partner as a way to speed up the process of healing. Approaching a rebound relationship with caution is always good, it has it's own pros and cons. The pros would be - boosted self confidence, hope for future, help in healing. The cons could be looking for diversion, distraction, ignoring the unresolved conflict, getting into a loop of toxic relationships in search of familiarity. Rebounds can be fun and therapeutic in balance and possibly window to next stable romantic relationship.
HeartyAlly
December 11th, 2021 9:53pm
Personally, I would say that they don't because of the unprocessed feelings left from the previous relationship. It creates distraction instead of facing what happened and this prolongs the healing process. Rebound relationships may just make things a lot messier emotionally for both people involved. You may bring your unprocessed emotions and coping into the relationship and the person you are rebounding with may be taking the relationship very seriously. This can complicate things and cause hurt. It is important to think of that person's feelings too and the impact of your actions. The hardest thing is to face our emotions but that is exactly what we need to do at the end of a relationship.