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How do I tell my boyfriend I want to have a baby?

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Last Updated: 04/10/2018 at 2:24pm
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Top Rated Answers
February 10th, 2016 2:04am
Having a baby is a a big responsibility and will create changes in a relationship. So it is important that you sit down with your partner and discuss the responsibilities and the changes that might take place to make the process easier if you guys decide to do so.
February 12th, 2016 6:03pm
Tell him you feel ready and ask him if he feels ready if he is that's great if he's not don't smother him give him time to take it all in
February 14th, 2016 2:06am
You should talk to him one on one and tell him how you're feeling, tell him you want a baby & tell him how you feel about havin a baby
February 17th, 2016 3:15pm
First of all make sure it is the right time to have a baby. It is a big responsibility and you need to ask yourself some questions. Next find the right moment, ask him when you can talk with him. Simply tell him how you feel.
February 18th, 2016 4:55am
i dont want to blurt out saying i want a baby to my boyfriend it would be awkward so insted if i see a woman and her child i would simply say things like when i have my baby i want my baby have matching outfit etc continuously, then right there it would give him ideas and clues that i was a baby
February 19th, 2016 4:02pm
You and your boyfriend need to have a conversation about your goals in life and see if they are in sync with each other. Although you may be ready for a baby, he might not be. So you have to start off by finding out what he wants. If he says he does want children one day then you can ask him about trying to conceive.
February 25th, 2016 9:43am
If your ready to have a baby I think that you should definitely just tell your partner to see if they are on the same page.
February 25th, 2016 11:04am
Hi, if you have confidence with him, you can tell. you can go low first, with answers like ''would you like to have a family?'', or something like that. you need to know if he sees in a future with you.
February 25th, 2016 6:15pm
Just tell him how you feel,. Calm and relaxed, don't be nervous and just tell him that you think you are ready to make a family but also respect his opinion as his as this is a big life changing experience
February 26th, 2016 9:04am
Ask him what he thinks about it and just say you would want to have one, if he reacts badly oh well, he may get over it and want one later. It depends on how old he is or if he does want to settle down, or even if he likes kids
February 27th, 2016 9:03am
You have to know if the situation and relationship is at the point of having children. If you feel it is, chances are he has thought about it too. Just ask him.
February 29th, 2016 6:49am
Just be honest and talk about
March 2nd, 2016 7:30pm
I would just be honest and open. I would ask my boyfriend what his views are on having a baby at this current time, and to let him know that you have been thinking about it for a while.
March 4th, 2016 9:04pm
I think the best way is by dropping subtle hints at first and if he doesn't catch on, just tell him. A healthy relationship should be based on good communication.
March 5th, 2016 10:54am
You just tell him you thinking of it so what is his opinion,but will be best to have a baby after marring him
March 5th, 2016 2:44pm
Being in an open, loving relationship is all about honesty. Sit him down and speak to him directly about what you want. Communication is key so don't be shy to let him know how you feel.
March 11th, 2016 5:12am
I think that you should sit down with him and have a discussion about it. I know that it will be hard, but I know you can do it!
March 11th, 2016 5:39pm
Just go and tell him. Men like simple, straight up stuffs so yeah, he'll be happier if you just break the news to him.
March 13th, 2016 3:00pm
I say, that you should talk to him about it and try understanding how he feels about it. You know, like id he is not ready for a baby; try understanding why and try to reassure him and have your baby when you both feel that it is the right time for a child. You can't force a child upon someone even if you are both in love and want to have kids, does not mean that you are both physically or emotionally ready for children.
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March 16th, 2016 4:00pm
How old are you.....? Think about your future before. And just talk to your boyfriend. If you guys have a good relationship then you should be able to take about anything with each other
March 17th, 2016 6:22am
talk to him directly try to make him understand... discussion always bring people closer try to be calm and always listen first then react.. have a nice day
March 17th, 2016 11:09pm
You bring it up slowly, subtly and casual in conversations to see if he'd like to have a baby. If he doesn't, you cannot force him and you should respect his decision until in the future he changes his mind. If he doesn't, that's okay too!
March 20th, 2016 4:57pm
Well, talking always helps. Find out if he wants children at the moment or not. Be honest.A healthy relationship is based on honesty and communication.
March 24th, 2016 4:34am
If you are in a committed, secure relationship, then it shouldn't be a difficult subject. If not wait.
March 24th, 2016 9:52pm
You should feel comfortable to tell him to face to face. If do not feel this is possible you can tell him through a personal letter or note and sit with him as he reads what you have to say
March 25th, 2016 1:19am
Talk to him and be honest with him. Honesty is the best policy and if you want something you must let it be known.
March 26th, 2016 6:51am
Tell him straight, if you are ready to have a baby then your relationship should be stable, no beating around the bush with this one.
March 30th, 2016 4:12am
Tell him in the RIGHT moment, and make sure to tell him little by little, dont rush it much. Try to discuss it calmly and try to come to terms
March 30th, 2016 2:19pm
Broach the subject in an honest manner, and be forward and open about your desire. Dancing about the subject at hand will only make it seem like you haven't thought it through or like it's a spur of the moment decision.
March 30th, 2016 3:46pm
Ask him in a subtle manner, maybe he feels the same way and is in the same position - too shy to speak about it.