How do I tell my boyfriend I want to have a baby?
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If you really want one, then the only way to tell him is simply to say it to him. But if you do want a baby, you need to know the repercussions of having one. Having a child will drastically change your life and your body and if you are not ready for one, you and your partner may end up suffering for it.
tell him casually but wait until you have a stable income and foundation and are older don't rush (:
Having a baby is a a big responsibility and will create changes in a relationship. So it is important that you sit down with your partner and discuss the responsibilities and the changes that might take place to make the process easier if you guys decide to do so.
Anonymous
February 12th, 2016 6:03pm
Tell him you feel ready and ask him if he feels ready if he is that's great if he's not don't smother him give him time to take it all in
You should talk to him one on one and tell him how you're feeling, tell him you want a baby & tell him how you feel about havin a baby
First of all make sure it is the right time to have a baby. It is a big responsibility and you need to ask yourself some questions. Next find the right moment, ask him when you can talk with him. Simply tell him how you feel.
Anonymous
February 18th, 2016 4:55am
i dont want to blurt out saying i want a baby to my boyfriend it would be awkward so insted if i see a woman and her child i would simply say things like when i have my baby i want my baby have matching outfit etc continuously, then right there it would give him ideas and clues that i was a baby
Anonymous
February 19th, 2016 4:02pm
You and your boyfriend need to have a conversation about your goals in life and see if they are in sync with each other. Although you may be ready for a baby, he might not be. So you have to start off by finding out what he wants. If he says he does want children one day then you can ask him about trying to conceive.
If your ready to have a baby I think that you should definitely just tell your partner to see if they are on the same page.
Anonymous
February 25th, 2016 11:04am
Hi, if you have confidence with him, you can tell. you can go low first, with answers like ''would you like to have a family?'', or something like that. you need to know if he sees in a future with you.
Just tell him how you feel,. Calm and relaxed, don't be nervous and just tell him that you think you are ready to make a family but also respect his opinion as his as this is a big life changing experience
Anonymous
February 26th, 2016 9:04am
Ask him what he thinks about it and just say you would want to have one, if he reacts badly oh well, he may get over it and want one later. It depends on how old he is or if he does want to settle down, or even if he likes kids
You have to know if the situation and relationship is at the point of having children. If you feel it is, chances are he has thought about it too. Just ask him.
Just be honest and talk about
I would just be honest and open. I would ask my boyfriend what his views are on having a baby at this current time, and to let him know that you have been thinking about it for a while.
I think the best way is by dropping subtle hints at first and if he doesn't catch on, just tell him. A healthy relationship should be based on good communication.
You just tell him you thinking of it so what is his opinion,but will be best to have a baby after marring him
Being in an open, loving relationship is all about honesty. Sit him down and speak to him directly about what you want. Communication is key so don't be shy to let him know how you feel.
Anonymous
March 11th, 2016 5:12am
I think that you should sit down with him and have a discussion about it. I know that it will be hard, but I know you can do it!
I say, that you should talk to him about it and try understanding how he feels about it. You know, like id he is not ready for a baby; try understanding why and try to reassure him and have your baby when you both feel that it is the right time for a child. You can't force a child upon someone even if you are both in love and want to have kids, does not mean that you are both physically or emotionally ready for children.
How old are you.....? Think about your future before. And just talk to your boyfriend. If you guys have a good relationship then you should be able to take about anything with each other
Anonymous
March 17th, 2016 6:22am
talk to him directly try to make him understand... discussion always bring people closer try to be calm and always listen first then react.. have a nice day
You bring it up slowly, subtly and casual in conversations to see if he'd like to have a baby. If he doesn't, you cannot force him and you should respect his decision until in the future he changes his mind. If he doesn't, that's okay too!
Anonymous
March 20th, 2016 4:57pm
Well, talking always helps. Find out if he wants children at the moment or not. Be honest.A healthy relationship is based on honesty and communication.
If you are in a committed, secure relationship, then it shouldn't be a difficult subject. If not wait.
Anonymous
March 24th, 2016 9:52pm
You should feel comfortable to tell him to face to face. If do not feel this is possible you can tell him through a personal letter or note and sit with him as he reads what you have to say
Talk to him and be honest with him. Honesty is the best policy and if you want something you must let it be known.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2016 6:51am
Tell him straight, if you are ready to have a baby then your relationship should be stable, no beating around the bush with this one.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2016 4:12am
Tell him in the RIGHT moment, and make sure to tell him little by little, dont rush it much. Try to discuss it calmly and try to come to terms
Broach the subject in an honest manner, and be forward and open about your desire. Dancing about the subject at hand will only make it seem like you haven't thought it through or like it's a spur of the moment decision.
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