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How long does it take to get over a break up?

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Last Updated: 02/16/2021 at 4:46am
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March 15th, 2015 9:38am
It just depends on how you really felt about the other individual. There is no particular time to get over a break up or to get over someone in general, you have to be willing to get over it on your own. You can't do it because someone tells you to, you can't force yourself to do it, it has to happen on it's on. Break ups can take you months, weeks, days, even years to get over and everybody is different you're not just going to do it by snapping your fingers. Take your time, and let it run it's course on it's own.
June 5th, 2015 1:20am
There is no set time. It depends on how you think. A great help is to remember that ex's are ex's for a reason. We often go back to the ones we were with because we remember the good over the bad by choice. We want to remember the good times to believe that there's still hope when in reality, there more than likely isn't. You need to put yourself first; think about what you want from life, from a life long partner and from yourself.
June 17th, 2015 4:15am
I believe it takes several months to get over a break up, around three to five. The pain seems to last a long time but once one gets over it, he or she can feel free and happy again and live life they want to.
April 11th, 2015 2:34am
Take as much time as you need. Life will go on and get better. I know right now it may not seem like it but I can promise you that in 10 years all this little stuff will be so small that you won't even remember it and it won't even matter!
June 12th, 2015 2:05pm
There is no particular time. It´s different for everyone, but a big factor on how fast you recover from a break-up is also on how you handle it, it depends on your mind-set. If you focus on nuturing yourself and moving forward with your life and transforming it into a lesson, than that will speed things up.
July 20th, 2015 1:40am
Break-ups are really tough and everybody takes their own amount of time to get past it. Some people take a few days and other people take a few months, or even years. Just listen to your heart and focus on healing. :)
January 24th, 2015 1:53am
Getting over a break up takes time and the time it takes can be different for everyone. I think the key to getting over a break up is not to get discouraged. The right person will show up before you know it!
July 21st, 2015 9:21am
There's no set amount of time. We all grieve and mourn the relationship differently, and that's ok.
September 15th, 2015 12:58pm
sometimes a minute, and sometimes a life time... it all depends on the person, the level of affection, new love and many other things
September 18th, 2015 3:15pm
It's different for everyone. Some people, it takes only a few weeks. Some people, it takes a month or two. Some people, it may even take up to a year. It really depends, like if it was a healthy relationship or if the two individuals broke it off in a healthy manner. If the answer was no to both of these things, then it may take longer to get over the breakup.
February 20th, 2017 2:24am
It depends on the person really. Some people are more emotionally attached compared to other people. Everyone has their own amount of time they need to get over a break up. It even varies in the person. You may get over one person in a couple of days, but it may take you a couple of months to get over another person. Both these instances are healthy and ok, as long as you realize that the most important person to you is yourself, and you should look after yourself instead of going after someone that doesn't want you. :)
August 7th, 2017 2:52am
It depends on how long you've been together for. I know people who have taken at least 3 months to get over the other person. It could even take up to a year.
January 24th, 2015 12:49pm
Its different for everyone, it depends on how much you were in love, and how easy you can let go of someone, it takes time and tears. but you will be better in the end. :)
February 19th, 2015 5:28pm
This is something that is impossible to quantify. Every person is different, so everyone gets over breakups differently and at different speeds, too.
March 13th, 2015 5:11am
Every person's experience and time of healing is different. I understand that this can be extremely hard, but try to focus on other things in your life right now. Also, pick up many fun activities! Just focus on other things, think positively, try your best not to think about the relationship, and take your time to fully heal. Good luck!
May 2nd, 2015 6:30am
As soon as you realize that you were with a junkie person, who didn't care about you and broke up with you when you needed his/her support ...
May 8th, 2015 4:06am
some memories are always with us, we need to learn to move them and that's forever or a few moments.
June 30th, 2015 6:48am
Only YOU can decide how long because no one can force you to feel anything about anyone, good or bad
August 31st, 2015 5:13pm
Getting over a break up is not usually affiliated with a specific period, but depends on different aspects of how strong was that relationship and the ability for this person to overcome this experience. It could be a week or month or year - it is all about how strong we are in controlling our life and overcome past experiences.
September 17th, 2015 8:01pm
The amount of time to nurse a broken heart is different for everyone. Once you've accepted the break up as a reality, it could be a matter of hours, or a matter of years. It all depends on your mindset about the break up, about life, and about yourself.
January 4th, 2016 11:45pm
It's hard to give a definite number to this. You form an emotional connection to someone that ends suddenly. I'd say one day per week you were together, or two months per year. However, no matter how much time really passes, you'll always remember them and have faint reminders. It's normal if, even after you've moved past, you still look back on your memories together fondly.
January 18th, 2016 10:39pm
There is no specific given time. Everyone has their own healing process, as well as the duration it takes to get over it. It's not a rush to see who can get over something quickly. Just makes sure that if you decide to move on and start a new relationship that you are 100% ready for it.
November 15th, 2016 1:39am
Every person is different. It can also depend on the length of a relationship or if it was healthy or abusive or if children are involved. It is a grieving process and there is no one way to grieve. My spouse and I split after two kids, ten years and abuse. That's been almost 5 years now (3 years of that my kids and I were in domestic violence counseling and divorce counseling) and although I have moved on and dealt with all it, I still have no desire to try another relationship as of yet. I learned a lot and I am more particular about who I let in our life.
February 6th, 2017 9:05am
There is no one answer to that question. Depends on several factors. Length and level of commitment from both sides. Cause of the breakup, etc. Best to not put a time limit and go at your own pace, with support....
June 20th, 2017 12:49am
It takes as long as it takes. Breakups are a hard part of life and can take from a couple days to years. It takes however long it takes. There is no number of days it takes to define healing.
July 4th, 2017 1:02pm
It depends honestly. Some people aren't deeply in love and get over it in a day. For me, I still am saddened by knowing my loved one doesn't love me after a month.
August 15th, 2017 11:18am
It depends how deep in a relationship you are in. Short relationship is usually take days to weeks while long term takes months to sometimes a few years. It is also depending how much you love the person and how deeply in pain you are in. Any circumstance, after a break up; It gives you another chance to focus on yourself and reflecting everything that makes yourself happy without the dependence of anyone or anything.
April 20th, 2020 3:41pm
There is no estimated time to get over. Break Up is a grief process, you have to understand the steps to reckoning your feelings and act to move on. The first step is denial, you can logical understand the end, but at the same time not believe. Second step is anger. It´s normal to feel anger for the person responsible to end the relationship, but it´s very important to not take any harmful actions, to other persons and yourself. Third is bargain, you may want to contact your ex, thinking about changing and do something to react the relationship. Fourth step is depression, after understand that the relation is over depression often occurs. If the symptoms is too harsh, seek for professional help may be necessary. 5 step is acceptance it´s the final stage and when you reach this you will be over the break up. The time necessary for this is individual, but the steps are generally the same.
April 20th, 2020 4:42pm
Unfortunately, there isn't a definite answer to that question. How long it takes to get over a break up can vary depending on many different things. Everyone is different. For some people, it's relatively easy to brush off a breakup and they don't have a hard time moving on. For others, it can take a really long time because losing someone that close to you is really devastating and takes a toll on someone. Some people are in the middle. As well as that, how we chose to cope with the break up can affect how long it takes for us to get over it. It really just varies and there's no way to tell how long it will take.
June 2nd, 2020 8:40pm
It honestly depends on how you cope with it. It can be hard given that most of the world is in isolation, so you can't be with people in person who can help you through it. If you can, actually reach out to friends and relatives who can talk to you. Decide if you want to be distracted or if you want to have a heart to heart about what you're going through. You don't always have to want to talk about it to get through it. Sometimes you need some time to just think about anything else, and that's okay. :)