How to talk to your boyfriend about marriage?

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GuardianLoveAngel
May 27th, 2016 5:47pm
It depends on a few factors, 1. if you are just starting the relationship, maybe try watching a movie about marriage together, then it won't feel completely random when you ask about it. 2. if you have been together for a long time and he hasn't said anything, YOU need to bring something up. Times are changing and women are doing things only men did a long time ago, marriage is no different. If you love the man, talk to him about it.
fantasticButton57
May 22nd, 2016 8:54pm
Explain politely that you would like to move on a little with your life and show the commitment for one another and to be able to show your love
InspirationalWatermelon52
May 29th, 2016 8:01pm
Ask him where he sees himself in the future and tell him you see you two together. Say that eventually you d like to get married and ask what he thinks of marriage. If you are on a relationship you shouldn't be scared to do it, as you need to know where the relationship is going and you don't want to compromise with someone that doesn't want the same things.
anotherfrenchtoastmafiaa
May 20th, 2016 7:04am
Think about it yourself first. Are you ready for that huge commitment? Then evaluate your relationship. How long has it been since you've been together? Are you both beyond comfortable with each other to get into a marriage? Is imagining yourself in a marriage with him quite flawless? Think, answer more questions like these. Maybe then, if your mind is clearer, you will know how to talk to him about it since it's a pretty big deal. Also, consider his views or opinions of marriage before talking to him. He must've talked about it earlier in a casual conversation. Good luck!
moonchild29
May 31st, 2016 3:02pm
Ask him how do you imagine the two of you in the future. Talk about the needs and desires (regarding the relationship) and the dreams. You can also mention that you'd like to get married someday.
TeenWolf
June 1st, 2016 8:55pm
Well for a start he is your boyfriend so he should be supportive. However just look for the right moment of time and sit down with him and tell him you need to talk. Once you have that phase over with just telling him your true feelings
Yukiikun
June 16th, 2016 4:23pm
if he is your boyfriend and you are sure he is the one you wat to continue your life with, then you tow have a deep good connection and you understanch each other.. So you will only have to show him your interest in marriage instead of relationships, talk with him nicely about how wonderful would be your lives after marriage, and try to build some dreams, make him too loke forward to propose to you, and he will the sooner he will be able to.. and girls, you can do it, you all have their hearts key♡!
healingSnowflake51
June 12th, 2016 10:32am
You may want to talk to him when he's in a good mood and obviously not using language which could imply you are forcing him to propose. Maybe talk about your desires for a future life and ask for his opinion as well in order to engage him into the conversation.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2016 9:58pm
Talking to your partner about marriage can be a huge deal for anyone at any age when they feel they found someone they can see a future with. I believe the best way to talk about it is to not be afraid to sit down together and tell them what you want in your future and ask them what they see in their future as well. Tell them you see yourself getting married. If they agree as well then ask them what they look for in marriage and don't be afraid to tell them you can see a future with them such as getting married.
allnaturalUnicorns70
June 24th, 2016 1:32pm
Why beat around the bush when you can just beat through the bush? Marriage includes lots of thorny conversations, and if your relationship hasn't progressed to the point where you can have them, you probably aren't ready to wed to this fellow.
bubblytobot
July 6th, 2016 6:58am
It depends how long has you been dating. But if you're curious, just sit them down and start off with this, "This is something that's really important to me and I want to talk about it. So I appreciate it if you could listen and tell me your thoughts about it. I want to talk about marriage." Also don't give out ultimatum. Don't pressure him.
calmingSoul69
May 18th, 2016 4:43pm
i will make dinner first and then sit him down and talk to him about marry and how will he feeling be marriage to that person that he love and care about
Greatlistener87
May 20th, 2016 7:08am
Well you just have to seat him down and tell him honestly what you feel about it and what are your plans for it. As well as what you expect from it.
hopefulParadise62
May 20th, 2016 4:34pm
You should approach the subject carefully if he is anxious or not fond of the idea, you should try and ease it into a conversation. Once you start the conversation hopefully it will come more naturally, and maybe not as awkward.
freshStrawberry61
May 25th, 2016 8:49pm
If would say to him we have been dating for _____ and tell him you want to take next step in your relationship-
Anonymous
May 28th, 2016 11:26am
Start with people's needs and then ask him about his needs and goals when your turn comes you say yours
caterina9999
June 2nd, 2016 6:23pm
Try bringing it casually up with him, see how he reacts. Ask him something along the lines of "Do you plan on getting married someday/How do you feel about marriage" and see how he responds.
gracefulMelody72
June 3rd, 2016 2:54pm
Ask him if he and his family ready for their relationship and he is happy or not or whether he want you both of us to be together
crispHeart62
June 3rd, 2016 6:51pm
First of all a girl should know whether he is mentally and financially ready to get marry than ask him directly and with love that will he marry her?
LoveAll425
June 8th, 2016 5:59am
sit your boyfriend down and talk to him about how he feels about marriage and what you guys could be in the future!
Anonymous
June 10th, 2016 12:08pm
1) Tell him the deadline for him to propose to you. 2) Go shopping together and allow him to pick out whatever he wants. You should then say as he's picked what he wants, you want to go jewelry shopping with him. Then go to a shop that sells wedding rings and start a discussion like that. 3) Ask him when he'd like to marry you/if you're wasting your time and if he wants to marry you ask him when he'd like to.
MorganDrinks7CupsOfTea
June 11th, 2016 3:52am
Start off slow,gradually get to a point where you think it would be a good time to pop in that cheeky suggestion ;)
Anonymous
June 11th, 2016 11:49am
Be discret don't directly say you want to get married try to talk to him about the future your future and why you see them together one day
Anonymous
June 15th, 2016 1:06am
Treat him to something nice like sex or a nice dinner then be like I think I would to... and don't forget to mention all the great memories.
contentedForest51
June 18th, 2016 12:26am
I personally think this differs from one person to another and depends a lot on their cultural background. The partner has to be aware of all the possible differences.
Anonymous
June 23rd, 2016 6:36am
If getting right to the point freaks you out a bit, then try to start a more general conversation on the topic. If you have a friend who got recently engaged, by the way, don't be afraid to casually bring it up — talk about how old they are, how long they were together before getting engaged. You may be able to at least gauge their interest in marriage or their general feelings about marriage. This is a wise move if you think your boyfriend or girlfriend might have some negative feelings about marriage and you want to avoid an awkward, direct conversation.
Anonymous
June 29th, 2016 2:45am
Let him know how far you all have made it in life and how challenging it has been and that you believe that finally he is the one. Let him know that you're happy with him and you plan to spend the rest of your life with him
PurpleGoddess
June 30th, 2016 4:28pm
You have to just let him know that at some point in your life you see yourself married with children, and if he does not want to be married you can ask why but if marriage is something important to you then you will have to let him go and move on.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2016 7:30am
Bake a ring cake and propose in style!! If you want it, go for it!! You won't know if that's what he wants unless someone takes that first step so why don't you do it?
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2016 12:49pm
You can introduce the topic of marriage through discussion of where you and your significant other think your relationship may heading in the future. You may mention the word "marriage" but if you feel as through that may sound too harsh, you can subtly drop hints about your intentions of settling down in the future. You may also ask them what they think of the idea and how the feel about wanting to settle down.