I can't get over my ex boyfriend. What should I do?

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organticMango15
February 17th, 2016 8:17am
It sounds cliche, but time. Time is the best healer, and also the only healer. You can't force yourself over someone, the only thing you can do is keep yourself busy and distracted to keep you as happy as possible, and eventually you will find that you think about him less and less. Eventually you will meet somebody else, somebody who is perfect for you, and you will realise why the other relationship failed, so that you could find him - the one.
caringShiny86
February 6th, 2016 3:24am
Block him on all social media and avoid him in every way possible ,trust me this works.stop going to places y'all used to hang out at.delete all conversations and pictures y'all had.
smilingRainbow93
January 31st, 2016 6:46am
Breakups can be really tough. It can get you into real depression and can even indulge you in self hate and make you suicidal. But remember always that you once had a life (wonderful) even before a relationship and there are certain things in life that you don't have control over. So rather than fighting with yourself in the process of getting over your boyfriend, it is perhaps the best to understand that missing your ex is normal, really. But that shouldn't stop you from moving ahead in life and looking for more beautiful things that pass by you everyday which are now going unnoticed. If it was meant to be, it would have happened anyway. Try to appreciate yourself and see what wonders does it really bring to your life.
Vixiana
February 17th, 2016 11:57pm
Don't let yourself forget all of the reasons why the relationship didn't work. After a breakup we start missing people, forgeting the bad and remembering only the good. There is a reason why you are not together anymore. Also, it's very important to keep yourself busy, do the things you like, surrownd yourself with friends and family and connect with people, learn new things, pamper yourself. Life can be fun and beautiful, we can try our best to make it :)
Anonymous
March 13th, 2016 6:13am
Its not unusual, after all you used to be close together and feel bout each other, so its better talking to him and say what you feel, maybe he feels the same and you can still be together :)
HereToHelpAsBestAsPossible
April 9th, 2016 1:39pm
Relationships take time to build, but when they end, they also take time to disappear from your heart. Take that time to reflect and gain a better understanding of your situation.
wonderfulFriend50
August 29th, 2017 4:05pm
Letting go can be hard to do. But everything in life always come and gone, and we pass it through. Why do you think you cant get over your ex. I am sure you can. Move on your life and start doing things before you met him, or continue trying things you never done. Make yourself busy with something more exciting, something new, something fresh.
Em7
November 20th, 2017 5:13pm
take each day as it comes you will have good days and bad days but remember why you broke up remember why you were unhappy and keep moving forward make sure no contact and delete social medias you dont need to be seeing what they are doing its going to make it so much harder than needs be
Nali98
January 23rd, 2016 3:43am
Know that you're a strong, beautiful person and ANYONE, would be greatly blessed to have you. Know that it is his loss, and take this time to love yourself, dicover yourself, and explore the world as an independent individual with no boundaries. Slau, dear, SLAY 😙
Anonymous
January 31st, 2016 10:08am
keep in mind that you and your ex has nothing to do anymore. ask yourself do you still love them, do they even worth your love? life has to go on, if you do still love them and you think they worth of your love, go contact them, dont let your love got away. if they do not worth your love, dont let this bother you, you need to move on
joyfulCandy52
February 18th, 2016 4:32am
Breakups can be hard. Take this time to take care of yourself. It may seem like you can't get over your ex, but with time and lots of support you will get there. Everyday write a few things you like about yourself and say them out loud to yourself. This will help build your self-esteem. Remember that this will take time and you can use all of the support you can get.
SparksOfLight
February 19th, 2016 12:03am
Remember that it's okay to feel this way. Also remember that your worth is not dependent on whether you are in a relationship. You should practice self care: do things which make you feel good, especially things you would have been unable to do while in a relationship. Even if it feels strange, celebrate being single.
ElleFriend
March 12th, 2016 10:16am
Get icecream watch Netflix and smile!! Don't ever cry over a boy it's definitely not with it! Keep smiling guys :)
Jerome28
March 15th, 2016 3:47pm
Believe it or not, you're getting over him right now. No matter what you do, no matter where you go, some part of you is getting over him. Time heals. In time, you'll look back and you'll be over him. Make sure and realize it; even if you didn't want to get over him, some part of you will definitely get over him. The pain we live with a one of our best teachers, at least in some ways. It's a beautiful thing to love someone, even if things don't work out. You still love him, and that's beautiful. You want the very best for him - even if that means a breakup. That proves that you really love him, that you're not just concerned about your own happiness. Nope. You want him to be happy, even without you. More than that though, take very good care of yourself. Do the things that you love to do. Move forward. Take that course. Study that subject. Learn that instrument. Go to the concert, the movie, the play. Be with friends. Develop and self-actualize.
Alyssaaaaa
January 15th, 2016 6:22pm
Getting over an ex boyfriend takes time. You should dwell on him and the breakup less and focus on yourself more! Reconnect with an old hobby, discover a new one, read books, catch up with friends, pamper yourself up, write... Reconnect with yourself!
Kanemawhite
January 20th, 2016 11:00am
A breakup can signify a new beginning. Therefore, cleaning and organizing your personal space will leave you feeling refreshed and prepared for the new things to come. A mess can be overwhelming and depressing, and will just add to your stress level.[2] Keeping busy with tidying your space doesn't require a lot of brain power, but it does require just enough focus to keep you from recycling pain.
Anonymous
March 9th, 2016 4:46pm
Break ups are tough. Different people deal with them differently. It might involve a lot of crying, or even depression. The most important thing whilst going through a break up, I think, is to remember you are a person and as such worthy of respect. Respect yourself, and try not to do anything you will regret later. And if you do, it is not the end of the world either, it will help you grow as a person, and that is all that matters.
CurrySoup12
September 27th, 2016 9:04pm
Revisit your memories of him and see if you still see a future with him? If not, then it is time to move on.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 11:25pm
it may take time to let go but know that the memories will never fade but eventually we move on in time
Mollyamber101
January 20th, 2016 7:53am
i had this probem. you have to just get over him. he is an ex for a reason. try to forget and forgive
truefrend
January 21st, 2016 9:30am
Don't hate him ,don't ever isolate ur self always mingle in people avoid love related topics or conversations which could trigger what your are trying to overcome do what you are good at like any of your hobby.
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 1:07pm
I can see you are struggling to get over your boyfriend. it is normal because you had something special. I wish you can identify how you feeling and make sure the good decision is taken wisely by you alone.
Kuvira14
January 23rd, 2016 12:49am
Begin caring for myself instead and avoid doing things that remind me of him and try coping the best I can
SpiceWithATouchOfNice
January 23rd, 2016 7:54pm
Sit back, and breathe. Think of the fond memories between you two and then stop. Just think of it as a closed chapter in a book.
HazelEyes2
January 27th, 2016 12:51am
It is important to grieve the loss of the relationship and to feel and release the pain that resulted from the broken relationship. This takes time. Forgiving any hurts is another helpful piece of advice. This is not easy but you may slowly start to realize that UNforgiveness hurts you more than the other party. It may take a while to get over a relationship but even if you can see a little progress over time, I am sure that will encourage you. I have heard that grief doesn't present itself in a neat package. Sometimes it is two steps forward and three back. Time also helps but I don't necessarily think time all by itself is the answer. I hope this helps and/or encourages someone.
endlesslyinlove13
January 28th, 2016 2:11am
Take a good look into what the relationship has left you have as a lesson, each lesson is one step closer to making you happy. Reflect upon why the relationship ended, and see if you need to grow on your self. Take time try new activities that make you think other things besides your boyfriend. In the the maturity will come to you, and you will see what is the best path for you.
Shadow16
January 28th, 2016 11:48pm
Try to hang out with your friends as much as possible. Make time for the things you love, try not to think about him, just distract yourself.
Anonymous
January 29th, 2016 5:57am
Think of why it's over the first place. Feelings are temporary, sometimes we need to let our mind take lead to show us the right path. I think you'd know the answer yourself.
listener31
January 30th, 2016 3:25am
focus on something else. find a new hobby that can distract you from the breakup.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2016 7:49am
If you can't get over your ex boyfriend, from experience, the best thing to do is to look for new things to do. Find something that can keep your mind off of it or something that makes you feel better about yourself. You can start small. Try to improve yourself. Know that life keeps going and you need to make yourself happy.