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If your memories of your ex are painful, I would delete the photos. If not, and you feel emotionally attached to them - then keep them. They could help you to move on. However, if you get a new partner you must expect some hurt feelings and suspicions if they stumble across these photos. It all depends on what stage you are at.
That's what I did, it helped me a huge amount, by doing that I didn't have anything physical that would remind me of them, it helped me get over them a lot quicker.
Honestly I would. They always say don't dwell on the past because it makes for a not so bright future. Although you my miss them you will always have memories. So the pictures are of no use. Keep your head up. The faster you move on the better you will be.
If you are NOT friends then yes. If you two are still talking to each other, then I don't you need to.
If that will make you happier , don't hesitate. Do it! But if you feel that this is not the right thing to do - don't! :)
Its upto you if you want to keep some memories of him and your relationship you may keep the pictures but if you want to forget everything then you may delete them. Its upto you.
It truly depends on the extent of the relationship, as well as how it ended.
If the relationship had meaningful impact on your life and you can look and reflect on the photos fondly, then keep a few.
If the relationship ended in fire and one sided, or if you feel you have no closure, I would personally delete them all. They would be a negative reminder and prevent your wounds from healing.
When making decisions at the end of a relationship, choose your actions based on what will help you heal and move on--how can you embrace the experience and grow without preventing yourself from moving on in your endeavors--that's what matters.
Sometimes memories need to be let go and some don't. Was your ex very rude and forceful, or was he a sweet guy?
Anonymous
December 17th, 2015 4:29am
Deleting pictures of your ex-partner is a good process of moving on but do it when you are ready to move on and forgive.
I would not do this. I would delete some of the pictures, but keep some of the pictures which remind me of the good times we had. My ex was part of my life, and I like (even when we broke up), like to remember the times.
If those pictures are triggering you into sadness, regret, depression, anxiety or any other kind of negative feelings or thought then you should delete them immediately.
That depends. Will it help you to move on? My suggestion is to keep it still, in an enclosed folder, perhaps. End of the day, you guys took the pictures together because you enjoyed each other's company, it may bring a fond memory when you've moved on :)
if you are okay,then you can!!else,its not required unless you care about them in coming days.for safer side,delete is the best option.
Anonymous
December 18th, 2015 7:49pm
yes,you should. Keeping them keeps triggering memories in you. Especially if the circumstances involved in your break up are not so cute or you broke up based on betrayal of trust.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 4:20am
I think that is a personal choice. What makes you want to get rid of the pictures of the good times that you had with them?
I don't think so. They're all memories and make you part of who you are. No matter how nasty the breakup I swear there will have been good times you may one day like to look back on.
If the pictures make it much harder for you to move on, then it might be time to delete some. But if you had such great memories that are just too hard to forget about, then it may be okay to leave some of them. :) Pictures are just their to remind us of the beautiful memories that we've made. They are there to let us see the people we've spent the moment with and just to see the beautiful things we've created and instilled in our minds.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 4:03pm
Probably not because he/she is a part of your life. If it hurts too much to see them at the moment though, you can always put them in a special place and reopen it only when you're ready.
Definitely. Just delete all of them and start your new beginning without he/she. That will be helpful.
Anonymous
December 19th, 2015 10:34pm
Of course you should, not just because the pictures remind you of him/her, but because you don't deserve the pain of seeing him/her again.
Yes you should . You don't need negativity in your life . :) You should erase all your past memories so as to make a new start .
In my experience it helped me to make closure that the relationship had ended, so if you are ready to and believe it could be beneficial in helping to move on you may wish to consider it
after my 7 year relationship ended, i put all our albums and photos in a box, which i hid in storage. it helped me move on when i (slowly) got rid of things that reminded me of us. years later (around 5 years or so) when i was moving to another apartment, and was completely over him, i was able to find that box and open it without pain.
i'm just saying that 7 years was pretty long and those 7 years weren't just about the two of us, it was about people we met, places we've been and experiences that were as much mine as it was ours.
rest assured, you will move on!! :) drop the photos in a hard disk, store it somewhere you'd likely never open in a long time :D
will it make you feel different in any way and what in your opinion will happen next. how you think it will reflect on you emotionally.
It depends. If your relationship wasn't too great, it might help you forget about him/her. However, if you had a nice relationship, you might want to save them for memories in case because otherwise you might regret it in the future. Everyone's different, so do what you think will help you the most.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 11:46pm
If these pictures upset you it would be a valid thing to do. Don't hold onto bad things in your life.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 3:55am
I believe it is a good idea to get rid of any memories of past relationships including pictures and anything else because otherwise it could lead to serious depressed moments or anxiety attacks/panic attacks.
It's all just up to you. If you don't want to think about him or if you had a really bad break-up, then it probably would be a good thing to do. But if ypur ex is at the same time your friend - or at least was, those photos can hold a lot of beautiful memories. In my opinion, I think you should not delete it. Just don't look at it until you're ready. :)
I don´t think that will be a good idea, they were part of your life, why pretend that part didn't happen? But if you're truly trying to move forward and remembering those moments is holding you back thet do it, otherwise temptation in reliving those past feelings will truly hold you back.
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 8:42am
Honestly I did when I broke up with my boyfriend but that was after I decided to move on with my life. It may take some time to fully be able to do that.
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