What do I do if my ex keeps contacting me?
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Ignore it. Don't get yourself in that situation, and is she/he keeps on contacting you, then block them.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 10:49pm
block him/her, tell your parents, call police if he/she threatens you. if he continues change your phone number or get a whole new phone
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 8:36am
If you don't want your ex to keep contacting you then I would block them or let them know that you don't care for them in that way anymore.cpersonally before I block them I would let them know that I wasn't interested any longer.
If your ex keeps contacting you I would have a talk with him otherwise consider maybe blocking him or ignoring him.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 6:40pm
If you dont want him to, tell him directly that he/she needs to stop. If your ex doesnt listen, block him from your phone and social medias.
it's OK to keep contact but please remember that you must restrict yourself in the conversation. Remember, your ex is part of your past and you must take a step for your life goals and dreams
Cut them off and let them know you are simply done with them. If they did you wrong they need to know that.
Block them on all social media, change your number. If they find a way to contact you don't reply, it just feeds the fire. If you ignore them, they will get sick of it and stop trying.
If you really want to move on and don't need for any patch-up then u should stop all the communication from your ex.
If you have come to the decision where you do not want that particular person in your life under any circumstance, it can be helpful to establish a 'no contact" strategy. Make sure they can"t send you messages, and if that isn"t possible, then don"t open those messages, and certainly don"t answer, even though it may seem harmless it will fuel a very unhealthy vicious circle .
Are you comfortable with your ex contacting you? If no then make your ex understand that you are not comfortable with that so he or she stops
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 8:54pm
If you are comfortable in talking to him/her , then go ahead answer his/her call. But if you are not then politely ask them to contact you again .
Anonymous
December 29th, 2015 2:24pm
All depend on the reason of breaking up. We just didn't match to each other, so we still keep in touch. He is much better friend than boyfriend. With another one, I just ignore his messages
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 6:31am
If you are bothered by your ex contacting you then I suggest that you do speak up about it, if he does not stop then contact police.
You can politely tell him to back off, but if he keeps bothering you over the internet or maybe even physically following you, then you should consider contacting authorities. But remember, it's not your fault.
if it's bothering you and it's torturing you by not help you moving on .. simply stop talking to him cause it will leave you stuck not being able to stop having feelings for him
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 6:26pm
Block them on all of your social media, block their messages. If you are in a situate where you have to see them every day like at a workplace or school then do your best to avoid them.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 8:18pm
Try to make him stop. If it doesn't work, talk to his/her friends to make him stop, or just try to ignore him. I think that helps when you ignore people. But if things get bad, talk to an adult about the situation.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 9:38pm
If I was in this situation, the first thing I would do is try to forcefully tell them that you do not want to be contacted and ask for them to stop. If this doesn't work, maybe try to block their account or number to prevent contact. Ultimately, if you feel threatened or unsafe I would seek out help from an authority figure who would have more information about steps you can take.
Well it depends what he says and how he treats you if you two left because something back then don't respond
if it's fine with you then go ahead and talk. He may want to be friend but if it makes you feel uncomfortable, be honest and tell him you aren't feeling fine.
If you're uncomfortable with your ex's contacting you, be honest and blunt. Set boundaries straight. Remember that your relationship had finished and you don't owe anybody anything.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 5:26pm
You tell him to please stop contacting me if you feel uncomfortable you tell a friend or your parents
I find that the easiest thing to do is to tell them to respect your decision to move on and then block them. Only is that's what you want though. If you still want a connection with this person then tell them that you would only like to be friends.
Tell him/her that you no longer want to speak to them. If they continue to contact you and attempt conversation, inform them and then block them (if totally necessary)
Anonymous
January 1st, 2016 8:01am
Just make him understand that you have moved on in your life and you are happy in your life. Even that if your ex contact you, then ignore that person.
Anonymous
January 1st, 2016 7:16pm
Tell him it's unhealthy for him/her to do so, since it refrains both of you from moving on. If he/she won't stop, stop answering.
Tell someone. Anyone who could help you or knows both of you. Your parent, their parent, teachers, friends and anyone who will listen that can help. Some situations like that can turn violent and as long as someone knows about it then that can make a huge difference.
Mute notifications or block their calls and texts. If you don't want to talk to them, don't respond. If it persists, I would contact them and ask them to stop reaching out to you.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 3:34am
You should let him know that you no longer want to hear from them. Block numbers and social media if needed. Notify family,friends, and anyone else relevant that you do not want to speak to your ex in the case that your ex tries to contact you through them.
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