What do I do if my ex keeps contacting me?
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Try the no contact rule which means politely tell them to leave you alone (unless you want to talk with them).
Tell them that it is over and that they should try and move on. If they still won't leave you alone, block them.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2015 12:10am
block him/ her on every form of social media as well as your phone or mobile device. seek support from the police if need be
I recommend blocking them on any platform they are contacting you on and if its possible, report them. Most of all, remember it'll all be okay!
Firstly if you do not want your ex contacting you. Be firm. Let them know without being nasty or personal that things just will not work out between the both of you. Its over and no going back. If they keep calling you can always change your phone number so they get the message loud and clear that you mean't what you said. If the person really persists like coming to your home and or place or work continually this is called stalking and is a police matter.
There are two things you can do about it. One is that you tell your ex clearly that he/she needn't conact you anymore . Two , avoid the calls .
deberias tener cuidado avisar a tus familiares para que esten al tanto o podes llamar a la policia .
If it is causing you stress, trauma, sadness or any negative feeling, then you must ask them to stop. If you have asked and they have not complied, you must find a way to block them from contacting you. If there is no way, then I suggest trying to ignore them or changing your number if that doesn't work. If it becomes threatening, don't hesitate to contact the police.
If your ex keeps on contacting you, I would change numbers, block him, or even tell him to move on. If y'all broke up, it was because of a reason. Time to move on.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2015 7:26am
It depends upon why they are contacting you, whether it's because they want to talk to you as a friend or if they want to get back together with you. If they want to be friends then there shouldn't be an issue with talking with them from time to time and being there for them, if it's not too difficult. However if they do want to get back together with you but you don't feel the same way anymore, tell them.
If you have moved on with your life it would be wise to discontinue all personal communication with your ex. However if you are still single and see where you still have feeling for the person then you must evalute your feelings as well as the reason you broke up then decide whether to start over or break free.
If your ex continues to contact you, and the contact is unwanted, there are a couple of things you could possibly do. In my experience, politely telling them stop contacting you will allow them to understand that their attempt at talking to you can be painful. Sometimes, even leaving the message to the side for a while before you are ready to talk to them, will give you a bit more time to come to terms wit your feelings. Sometimes not saying anything is more powerful than any words we can write down.
Clarify things out. Talk about it to your close friends.keep your self productive not busy. Follow your hobbies
If you don't want to talk, start off with making the message clear and if they don't get it... Say Adios! Block that boy/girl/other!
Do you honestly feel like talking to that person? How does it make you feel? If it negatively impacts you I personally would ignore them because my well being is important to me.
If you want to maintain the friendship tell them. But you also need to tell them if you dont. Communication is key. Just be polite about it.
Anonymous
July 22nd, 2015 6:00pm
If he is abusive.. go to the police or tell someone you care about like a parent or a friend. I would say to ignore it, turn off your phone, or get a new number! Whatever you do I suggest do not contact him back. That will just create more problems. I hope I've helped, I know what your going through I was dealing with the same issue last week. Stay strong and remember the best is yet to come.😊
Politely try to get away! If it gets worse tell someone trusted like an adult! Exes are often an issue for many so try to aproach in a safe manner!
Tell him goodbye, block his number from calling and texting. block him on whatsapp and block him on instagram and social networking websites and tell him to leave me alone.
You simply tell them that you do not want to speak to them anymore and they need to respect your boundaries
You need to tell him to stay away, that you don't want to hear from him. Unfollow him on social medias, if necessary block him, the same with your phone
WELL thats a hard one for one thing tellll then to stop if theyy keep doing it you might need to get some legal actions on your side for help because your ex might be cravy or just loves you to much
Sometimes relationships can be saved and sometimes they can't. If you and your ex are still respectful towards each other, I don't see why you shouldn't stay in contact sometimes. But if your ex continues to contact you and you don't want them to, I think it's important to ask yourself: What message am I sending to make them think I want to continue communicating with them. It's important that we set boundaries with the people in our lives.
If this continual contact becomes harassment you can file complaint orders or speak to an authoritative member of society for help. Loved ones should most probably also be informed, you shouldn't go this alone. However make sure it is clear between your Ex and you that you are not okay with this contact.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2015 9:20am
calmly and politely ask your ex to stop contacting you. Then block his contacts or just simply ignore his attempts.
Anonymous
July 28th, 2015 7:03pm
Kindly ask them to stop. There is a reason why you broke up. Make it very clear that you won't put up with it.
Anonymous
July 29th, 2015 11:37pm
Tell him/her you have no desire to be in contact anymore, then block him/her if him/her don't stop.
Anonymous
July 30th, 2015 9:08am
I would ask them to stop contacting me if they are being not friendly or respectful. Now if they are being nice and respectful listen to what they have to say.
Change your number, block your ex's number or pick up and ask them to stop calling you. If they continue to do it report them to the police.
Depends, do u want him to contact you? If not then tell him to stop if it leeps up call police and block him on any social media and change numbers or watever the issue.
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