Why can love not just be simple?

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Anonymous
February 26th, 2015 2:00pm
because, we complicate it by expecting so many things. we ignore small gestures and wait for heavy talks. we try changing for someone else so much we forget who we are and that makes you someone different and you start thinking differently.
newbeginnings3
March 14th, 2015 3:39am
Love is a test of strength, care, true feelings of love, and endurance. Nothing's honestly simple in life if you really think about it. However, if you really love a person, you'll do anything for them and never give up on them. Good luck!
FeatherIce25
April 3rd, 2015 12:21am
love is different for everyone. I feel expecrations makes love complex. stop expecting start accepting
AlwaysBeYou
June 29th, 2015 11:42pm
Because it is in our nature to feel as if we have mastered a certain skill or technique, and soon as this has happened we move on to the next thing. With love, there is no mastering love. It is a continued emotion/action we must put effort into for the remainder of our lives. Sometimes it's not always sunshine and rainbows, sometimes love is the tolerance, the struggle, but its the never giving up part that shines because you know and they know that your love is worth it.
Anonymous
July 14th, 2015 10:32am
Love, can not be simple because... As human beings.. With each passing generation... Our perspectives, mentally and understanding of love changes because it's Far too often influenced by social media, technological advancement and not to forget upbringing. It gets complicated because we don't talk anymore.. We text.. We don't solve problems anymore, we quit and move on to the next one.. We don't have healthy arguments anymore, we cheat. All the small little gestures of love like for example, writing hand written letters have begun to seem somewhat absurd. Love gets even more complicated when you're not able to find a connection with another person.. But try to make it work anyway for all the wrong reasons... So I guess, the only way to uncomplicate LOVE, is to do a little introspection of ourselves and our thoughts.
Brittneym101
July 19th, 2015 6:11am
Love is supposed to be pure, but unfortunately most people take advantage of it and take it for granted. Life is full of surprises. I think we all as humans believe that love should be simple. Some people set standards whether it be love in a friendship, love in a relationship or love for your family. You set such high one's that you usually end up getting let down. I am a person that doesn't set standards. I get to know people without judging them. If I love you, I love you for you and nothing else. Some people have been hurt a lot in their lives and they just don't know how to love someone because of it. Love is a lovely thing to have and/or give, but it's just not made for everyone even though it should be.
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2015 9:05pm
Love is a lot like life. If you want something, you have to work for it. Sometimes it will work out and sometimes it won't. But don't give up!
Anonymous
June 30th, 2015 6:14pm
Love is a way of life, you have to find the right person who will care for you, it will take a while but you will find them.
Ky23
August 10th, 2015 8:02pm
Nobody knows the answer to this! :P Love may not be simple, but I think that's what can make it so great. You just have to hold on and see where it takes you.
Tantry
August 10th, 2015 10:59pm
Love is actually very simple.We make it complicated. We induce a lot of possessiveness into love giving no space to our partner's feelings.
Will22
November 7th, 2017 9:01am
Love is a unique aspect of being human that differentiates us from almost every other living thing on earth. Love should be complicated because it is so precious. In order to find the 'one,' love must remain difficult so one can weed out everyone except the 'one.'
spectacularBeauty75
March 5th, 2015 7:23pm
Because if it was simple it would not be as fulfilling and exciting when we do meet the right one for us.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2015 7:39am
actually, everything is pretty deceiving. life is simple. love is simple. we always have a choice. you know why it seems to be so difficult? because we ourselves, make it difficult for us. and we really can't blame ourselves for our complicated emotions. we make it difficult but we can't blame ourselves because there are enough complications with the human brain and yet there are still way more obstacles beyond our control. which then again leads us back to choices. but when you make a choice it's nearly impossible that you don't lose something because you chose the other option.
SenpaiXD
April 20th, 2015 10:51am
If it were simple, then it wouldn't be special for each and everyone of us.
Anonymous
May 17th, 2015 2:51pm
No pain, no gain. Is love worth it to you? Love can be complicated or it can simple, depending on who the subject at hand is.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2015 11:00pm
If it was simple, then it will never be worth it!
Anonymous
August 18th, 2015 6:51am
Love is simple to do but complex to understand. Most simple thing about love is that you what to be with the person of your interest and be happy by making them happy. But what makes it complex is the ways in which you approach this target of yours. Because love is a journey of mixed and a lot of emotions such as care , concern, being happy or sad, sometimes irritated some times overwhelmed and even sometimes insecure and jealous. Therefore one has to manage all these emotions and carry one with the simple motive ... to make them happy and be happy and stay together. That is why love is a simple to do but hard to manage and understand.
Anonymous
August 24th, 2015 7:31pm
because some people look for love for the wrong reasons if you look for love for all the right reasons it wont be hard
eleanor0610
September 5th, 2015 9:41pm
Because love isn't enough. You can love someone infinitely, but if there's no trust or you can't spend enough time together, you're just going to be miserable.
cheerupsunshine
September 29th, 2015 2:14am
Love isn't just something you feel. It's many things put together into a feeling. There's hardships, there's dedication, there's tears, there's happiness, there's regret, there's compassion, there's adoration.. You hold on and you let go to so many things because of it. Love can't be simple because it's so many things put together into an emotion. That's what makes it beautiful.
beautifulheart100
December 15th, 2015 1:14pm
Life is complicated that's way the most simple things on it been that completed.. for several reasons maybe.. misunderstanding or over thinking of what is going on
Maaike
December 30th, 2015 6:37pm
I think that if love was easy, it would not be so amazing. A big part of our live we look for the person who perfectly fits us. If we would find that person just as easy as we would find a pair of shoes, how boring would that be? It wouldn't be very exciting... Does he/she love me? does he/she not? Do I even truly love him/her? If you haven't found the right one yet, all of this might seem like so much work, and so much stress... But in the end, I truly believe that you will look back and see that you have a relationship where you have worked on so hard, maybe even fought for, together. Does that not seem a beautiful thing?
caringIceCream67
January 5th, 2016 10:55am
Love is simple I belive, when we expect love to be something more than what it is, it becomes complicated. Let love be a emotion, feel free to express , dont be so demanding to the feeling of love,.
Greatlistener87
April 5th, 2016 8:56am
If it was simple it would be boring. When its something that you really want you would want to work hard to get it so that you know that it is worth it.
awesomePurple24
May 16th, 2016 5:04pm
Love is a beautiful thing. Like many things love has its ups and downs. If love was simple then you would not feel the thrill of love (or the greater side of love). The thing that makes "love" love is the thrill, the excitement, and also the sadness, or the loss.
Rogue1234
June 13th, 2016 10:33pm
Becaue love is a very deep emotion that can fix or break everything and there is nothing simple about that.
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2016 5:33am
Love is simple. Unconditional love is simple. Love without expectation. No expectation no dissapointment
GoldenMan10
August 16th, 2016 10:36pm
Because it's the base of everything alive, we shouldn't expect such a major thing to be simple, should we?
Anonymous
September 26th, 2016 4:04am
Love isn't supposed to be simple. It's supposed to be a roller coaster, to keep you on your toes, to keep you interested and in love. .
Anonymous
July 9th, 2018 1:55pm
Love is a complex thing. Humans are complex beings so love cannot be simple. Humans are selfish by nature