Why does breaking up hurt so much?
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Breaking up hurts so much for some of us because we have open hearts in a relationship, which leaves us vulnerable. However, if we have closed hearts, then we are not able to love to the fullest. So, if you have a broken heart, at least you know that you loved to the fullest. "It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all."
because it feels like loosing a part of our life. We know that a person who was present in our life, will no longer be.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 7:24am
Breakups hearts because we are moving on and leaving someone we have been with for a long time this is a big change in our life
Addiction. When we fall in love, we emotionally invest in our partner. So when that person don't care about our valuable feelings it hurts. We get used to that person and at that time we think about that person only and we want him or her only. So that's why breaking up hurt so much. But we should move on and think that there's definitely someone waiting for you in future who will value your feelings.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 7:53am
I think its because of how used to you've gotten with one another. Everything you've been through together; how you've picked up some of their habits. You confided with them for awhile so it hurts to let go
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 6:51pm
Breaking up with someone hurts so much because you're used to them, sometimes you don't miss them but you miss being in that relationship and how it made you feel.
when you have dated some one for a while you will get kinda attach to him or her and develop some sort of feelings. Healing yourself externally might be easier but healing yourself internally that will take a lot of time and strength.
The reason it hurts is because a part of you, your life, feels to go missing. That person played a big part in your life, and when they're gone it may feel like nothing can fill that again. To some, it never will, but that doesn't mean you have to try and replace something that is irreplaceable.
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 7:29pm
Whilst you are in a relationship you form a bond , you get to know the other person , you form positive memories together that then remind you of the other person while your are no longer together , it's hard to let go of the bond
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 6:13am
When you date someone, they become a part of you. No matter what, though, you are your own person and you will recover from anything that life swings at you.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 1:34pm
I think breaking up hurts because you went through a lot with that person and because of the memories you had with them you miss having these memories again and everybody goes through this. and this is just what I know :)
Breaking up hurts because you invest time and energy and love into another person. When a relationship ends, you feel pain. As time goes on the pain begins to heal.
The reasons can be different from one relationship to another, but mainly because you've invested your time, and your feelings into this person, and it is hurtful to see it come to an end. It can help to remember that you won"t be the same person afterwards, you'll be stronger, and wiser, and also, think that this person wasn"t meant to last in your life for longer, and it must be for a reason.
Breaking up hurts so much because you see yourself having a life with your partner, you spend time with them
You are losing a person who you had a strong connection with. You are losing a person in your life, who played a big role. It is much like grieving a death.
you are losing someone who has been an important part in your personal life and someone who may understand you a lot
Break ups hurt because you had an emotional bond with that person, and when it was broken you feel like a part of you was severed. But you eventually get over it.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 4:07am
When you are in a relationship with someone and have acquired feelings for them then it can be difficult to let go of that person. Losing someone you care for is honestly one of the hardest things you can encounter in life. Breaking up happens and it is challenging to deal with. Life is never easy and its challenges can be even harder to take on. After the break up, try to value the good times you had with that person and learn from the experience.
because you are leaving someone that you love and you know that he/she doesn't have feeling for you anymore so you feel worthless and never good enough for anyone and you start analyzing things and wondering why this person that you loved so much and gave him so much doesn't loves you anymore
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 6:40pm
I don't know but i do know that they happen for a reason, everything happens for a reason. Your breakup is just a small piece in the puzzle of your life and without it you wouldn't be able to see the whole pretty picture when your finished.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 8:32pm
Because you're human. You're expected to love. And when you lose something to love, it's gonna hurt. You only know you love something when it's gone!
It hurts so much because your losing a person who you thought would always be there , who you cared about and loved is now gone and that hurts .
It simply hurts. You can feel it in your stomach, in your heart, it effects your whole being. But dont be afraid. Love is endless. There is unlimited love. Dont avoid love because you are afraid of breaking up.
Because it is a tremendous loss. A relationship is a very valuable connection. When you're in a relationship with someone, you spend a lot of time with them and get to know them super well. Breaking up means that you lose this connection. That is very painful.
Breaking up hurts because there was an emotional connection between both people. Despite who left who, there is always the pain of loss, even more so the memories associated with that person. It hurts because there is also the fear of never finding another person like them, and the prospect of being alone. In the end, each breakup although it doesn't seem so, gives you a better sense of clarity on how to improve yourself, your quality of life and either reconcile or move on.
Because you loved him/her. And you thought that they felt the same way. You put so much time and effort into that person. And it sucks because you can't get that back.
It hurts because
1) Feeling: i am losing out on love.
2) Fear : what if i never found love again.
3) Insecurity: will he/she be happy without me?
4) Guilt: what could i have done differently?
5) Expectation: will he/she remember me and regret this breakup later on?
6) Pain: all the dreams which i have seen with him/her will never be true.
7) Dilemma: am i right in breaking up?
When in a relationship, the people involved share these unique feelings and the two individuals become dependent on each other for that great feeling. As time passes by, you get used to incorporating them in your life. Breaking up after accepting someone hurts because that special connection that you had with one person has ended. You become to feel lonely and need to feel that mutual feeling again. That's why, with time, the hurting goes away. You start to realize you don't need this person to function. When in a relationship, your brain acts the same way it would if you were addicted to a drug- chemically.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 11:45pm
Because you shared your life with this person and he/she knows all of your fears and all your likes and dislikes you trusted this person with your life and got used to being around them so it hurts when all of a sudden you don't share a thing with this person
Anonymous
January 1st, 2016 7:53am
Because we love to some with Heart not from mind. Heart is for love and mind for strategy. if you want love, you need to take this risk.
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