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What's the difference between bullying and teasing?

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Anonymous
December 7th, 2017 3:12am
Bullying is constant and it hurts others. Teasing happens more to friends and they know you don't mean what you say or do. Bullying is when someone is hurt by your actions and words even if you don't know they are hurt because of you.
Deevs22
November 30th, 2017 2:36pm
Teasing is a social exchange that can be friendly, neutral or negative. Done in the right spirit, it can actually be positive. When kids tease each other about clothes, musical tastes or behavior, it helps them learn to deal with constructive criticism. It’s part of how they relate.Verbal bullying is different from teasing. It’s not done as a way to relate, or to make friends. Just the opposite. The goal is to embarrass the victim and make the bully look better. It may start out as negative teasing. But when it’s done repeatedly with the intent of being hurtful or threatening, it becomes bullying.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2017 5:45am
Bullying is a everyday thing that causes distress, teasing is a once in a while that might make you a little uncomfortable.
Anonymous
November 18th, 2017 1:59pm
Teasing is having a joke and both participants knowing so, bullying is mental abuse, the other person upsetting you by being mean about you or something close to you, physical bullying is simply harassment and against the law
shiningBlossom50
November 16th, 2017 4:23am
Teasing is like joking but you are doing so playfully. While, bullying is having knowledge if it.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2017 1:42am
Bullying is meant to hurt. Verbal bullying is different from teasing. ... But when it's done repeatedly with the intent of being hurtful or threatening, it becomes bullying. Verbal bullying includes calling a victim names, taunting and sexual harassment. Teasing is just having fun and laughing with each other not at each other.
sweetsagittarius01
June 28th, 2017 12:06am
teasing usually is when someone isnt TRYING to make you feel bad, its just a joke. bullying is TRYING to hurt you.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2015 7:12pm
Teasing is harmless, playful comments which don't have much effect. Whilst bullying is where it all gets out of hand and can lead to worse things like physical abuse.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2017 9:59pm
Bullying is being mean and hurt someone's feelings teasing is bothering or just a special way to joke...
Baileybug
August 29th, 2016 9:18pm
Bullying- 1.use superior strength or influence to intimidate (someone), typically to force him or her to do what one wants Teasing-.make fun of or attempt to provoke (a person or animal) in a playful way
WildflowerHeather
June 3rd, 2020 2:04pm
Teasing is something usually meant as a harmless joke meant to annoy you at most, while bullying is meant to cause direct or indirect harm. Teasing becomes bullying if it is continuous, especially if you have told them to stop. There’s also types of teasing that cross the line into bullying, such as teasing about race, class, sexual orientation, etc, unless you have given your friends special permission that it’s ok. Anything you are not ok with after you have told the person to stop is bullying because they have clearly broken your boundaries. If bullying does not stop, please find someone you trust to help you!
ItsRenee
September 16th, 2020 7:10am
Teasing is usually more playful, such as your friends joking about your new crush. Teasing isn’t meant to make you feel bad. That isn’t to say that it can’t make you uncomfortable. Bullying has the intent of hurting you with words or actions, like when someone insults you, inflicts pain on you, or makes you feel shameful on purpose. The difference between bullying and teasing comes down to intent. Are the people doing these actions trying to hurt you on purpose, or are they trying to have fun with you? Sometimes its hard to differentiate, but I hope this helps.
Anonymous
March 4th, 2018 5:12am
Teasing is like a joke type like April fool's day everyone isn't teasing to be mean but to have fun, bullying is like spreading rumors about another person, locating a targets address,physically imitated a persons posture, hurting them physically or verbally like if they don't do something they wanted they end putting you into more risks or cyberbullying sending mean comments through internet.
SolidusYen1993
February 25th, 2018 6:49am
I'd say bullying in itself is considerably more serious but teasing someone is not necessarily a good thing either. Bullying implies that ones actions affect the victim to a very negative degree could escalate. Whereas teasing can be playful, friendly and the sort. But it can still have it's own effects on someone so it's certainly good to be a little sensitive towards one another's emotions and really spread the love.
eliijaxes
February 7th, 2018 1:08am
Teasing isn't meant to be truly mean, and if you get upset then the person should stop. It's meant to be a light joke over maybe something that happened that was really funny to you but you're also embarrassed about. But like I said, it isn't meant to hurt your feelings. That's what bullying is, however. When people bully, they are intentionally trying to upset you or be truly mean, and don't care how it makes you feel.
JeshuaMorbus
February 1st, 2018 6:26pm
That's a good question, because the bullies excuses themselves as teasers. The thing is, if you don't feel strong enough to judge one thing or another, seek help, talk with someone who could understand what you are suffering. Then, force in numbers. No one can solve everything alone and, sometimes, pointing out the bully is hard enough.
zuberiimamu
January 31st, 2018 3:32pm
I think that it depends on the intent behind the individual who is indulging in such act. Somebody who is bullying somebody has intentions to hurt them while somebody who is teasing somebody usually has good intent.
ChrisHickman22
January 19th, 2018 3:31am
Teasing and bullying can be used separately or together, depending on the situation. Generally, teasing is used between friends or people who get along well, and involves one person playfully making fun of the other. In this case, teasing and bullying are two different things. Bullying is intended to harm another person, teasing is not. At other times though, teasing is used maliciously to badly make fun of another person. In this case, teasing would be a form of bullying.
KimtheNaturalist
January 18th, 2018 4:58pm
In essence, there is no difference between the two. The only difference is the way that the person being teased/bullied is the way that they are interpreting the event.
lovetoff09
January 18th, 2018 4:48pm
Bullying is an ongoing occurrence of unpleasant behaviour towards a person or people. Bullying has many forms, online, verbal, physical and mental. Teasing someone is doing/saying something in a joking manor that only happens once and isn't meant to be hurtful.
Reonda
January 13th, 2018 2:40am
Teasing is trying to irritate someone for fun but bullying is having intimidation over a weak person.
marianaschled
November 15th, 2017 2:15pm
Bullying is when an individual or a group of individuals repeatedly tease or insult someone with the intention of hurting them. There can be physical, emotional, and even cyber bullying! In the case of bullying, it's always one person hurting the other person, instead of two people hurting each other. In the other hand, teasing can be a simple fight between two or more people. Sometimes it can be done as a joke, but it isn't meant to truly hurt someone. For example, you might tease your sister, but you shouldn't bully her. I hope this helped! If you need anything, feel free to message me and I can listen!
df060601
June 6th, 2015 2:41pm
Bullying is like when someone is hurting you physically ~ and teasing is when someone is just hurting you but mostly from the inside :)
Alexisheretohelpyou2
September 14th, 2016 8:29pm
If someone is teasing someone, it shouldn't be anything serious. Like when a friend messes up and their friend says "way to go, you mess up everything!" And then they both laugh. That's playful, fun, teasing. If someone is bullyed, the person being bullied won't laugh, and the stuff they're told is mean, and unnecessary. It hurts the person, and only the bully laughs. The thing is, even with teasing, it can hurt the people you tease. This is why I suggest that you don't tease or bully anyone... It's to hurtful.
cristiana33
December 31st, 2015 2:23pm
Teasing has a purpose of making you laugh and have fun together with someone. Bullying is a repeated action towards someone that is obviously hurt by what is being done/said to him.
Anonymous
January 26th, 2016 7:07pm
Teasing is something you can simply laugh off. Bullying is something that will makes you anxious to go out, to simply live your life.
Anonymous
October 2nd, 2016 5:12am
Teasing would still be considered bullying if it's harmful, unless the person being teased is truly laughing along as well.
OxtailNightmare
November 2nd, 2016 12:17pm
Bullying is a constant abuse, physically and mentally with malicious intent. Teasing is playful, poking fun of someone/at a situation with humorous intent while also not intending a negative or harmful impact to the person being teased.
kaoticserenity1016
September 18th, 2016 4:34am
Teasing is generally semi-kind and accepted on both sides of the conversation. Bullying is harmful to a person, whether it be physical, mental, and/or emotional. Bullying is not welcome or wanted on both sides of the conversation.
Anonymous
March 21st, 2016 6:11pm
Well, 8 think first you need to understand what is positive teasing. Positive teasing: When the teasing is happening between two people with a strong relationship When it is said in a "joking" tone rather than "aggressive" tone And when the person being teased doesn't look distressed. Although teasing can become bullying when the person being teased is hurt. When the teasing is repetitive When the person teasing the child means to hurt them. And when there is unequal power imbalance. As in the person teasing is more popular than the person being teased.