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How do I stop thinking about all the dark thoughts and become happier?

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Last Updated: 01/30/2018 at 9:54pm
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February 2nd, 2015 12:05am
It is normal for dark thoughts to enter your mind and to take over everything and it can be difficult, depending on your emotional reaction to these thoughts, to completely avoid them. Dependent on the thought, try to think more rationally about it, weigh it up against your past properly, because you may be missing some of the positives that counteract how you are thinking. If you wish to talk about it more with someone, feel free to send me a message.
February 19th, 2015 4:21am
Positivity is a life-long exercise, and it's an active effort. You really have to make the active decision to think happier thoughts, and toss out the bad. Don't expect things to change over night, but keep working at it. With time, you can learn to stop thinking about all the "dark thoughts," and find happiness and peace in your life.
January 26th, 2015 6:38am
One of the best ways to start feeling happier is to keep a gratitude journal. Every day, write down three things in your life you're thankful for, even if they're simple things, like "I love how comfortable my pajamas are." Once you start training your mind to think positively, it really makes a difference, even if it seems silly at first.
October 16th, 2015 3:11am
By allowing yourself to accept those dark thoughts and twist them into something that you will not fear.
December 29th, 2015 10:38pm
Get all the dark thoughts out there so they don't seem so big and scary in the light of day. Keep taking my antidepressants, keep working with my therapist, keep on developing the skill to make my ability to think positive thoughts as plentiful as my habit of thinking negative thoughts. I've already had so many years to practice thinking negative thoughts. It's time to practice thinking positive thoughts.
December 13th, 2016 6:49pm
Dark thoughts can be scary and overwhelming but it's all about how we look at them. I consider willpower and choice to be our #1 skills, we can decide what to focus on and how to feel and it is that way if we can convince outselves of it. I'd try to focus away from the thoughts, work at pushing away all the bad thoughts one by one and try to see a sort of sunshine or happiness inside you. Fight against the dark thought and stand tall on a pillar or life per say. How you want to feel can be how you feel, you just have to decide to fight the dark thoughts.
May 17th, 2015 10:02am
Everyone experiences the dark thoughts in life. It seems difficult t overcome them. However, it isn't impossible. You just need to have faith in yourself. Find reasons to be happy like your family, friends, work and things you are passionate about. Focusing on positive fades away the negative in you.
February 1st, 2016 7:13am
I was 16 when i had major depression and all i could think was how much of a disappointment i was to my family and how much of a loser i was. Even though i had suicidal thoughts and my parents did find out they weren't yet ready to accept that i was depressed because maybe a part of them knew that they were the reason. And i don't know if they did this to actually help me but it did. They enrolled me into a boarding school and i think that was the best thing that happened to me. i struggled at the beginning but being surrounded by so much genuine positive energy helped me a lot! I confined my problems to my friends and they didn't judge me and were ready to help me get through it. What helped me stop my dark thoughts and become happier was a change of environment and surrounding myself with people who had positive vibes and those who will not judge you.
June 14th, 2016 4:43pm
I know it is really hard to do that. For me, i usually try to distract my thoughts to something happier. I will try to remember the reason i live,,and things like that.. for me , it's my dad :'). I have been through a lot with him , and i glad i spent every moment, breathing , trying my beat to make him proud .
September 20th, 2016 9:35am
What make you happy? What activities do you do that you enjoy? fishing, biking, hiking, exercise, maybe playing pool, puppies? With these thoughts in mind that you enjoy and make you happy. Focus on those. I don't believe there's any correct way to live this life. I believe we have to be true to our heart, be nice to people and spread as much love and happiness as we can as people want to feel happy. I'll leave this in closing with a motto of mine, "Live life in the moment and view each moment simply as a moment a point in time. In this moment we have a choice on what we're going to be and how we're going to react accordingly and be the person we want to truly be.”
April 18th, 2017 4:01am
It can be very challenging to stop thinking about the dark thoughts you're having, and I applaud you for wanting to take steps to becoming happier. You can try and come up with a list of pleasant activities that you can try when you're ruminating and having all those dark thoughts. Apart from that, another way to go about this is to confront these thoughts. Try writing down all the dark thoughts you're having on a sheet of paper. Rate how much you believe in them on a 10- point scale, then evaluate each of them. Write down the evidence for and against those beliefs, and then rate it again, on the same scale you used earlier. All the best!
May 8th, 2017 4:57am
You may need to talk to a psychiatrist. If you feel really depressed, they may be able to prescribe you meds that can help. No matter what happens though, just remember that you make your own happiness, so if your feeling bad, try your best to go and have fun. Don't dwell on things that make you upset, it won't benefit you at all.
May 3rd, 2015 3:49pm
I remember the small things that make me happy. Like the smell of an old book, or walking barefoot through grass in the early morning. Soon the small things seem like my world and slowly feel better. A smile slowly lifts and I am able to think more clearly.
May 8th, 2015 12:50pm
Do what makes you feel happy. When every time I feel bad, I go to the gym to work on my muscle. This will make me focus on gaining muscles more than thinking about bad things.
May 22nd, 2015 12:14am
I force myself to think and say positive things. Every day tell yourself that you are beautiful, strong, capable and happy. Even if you don't believe it straight away.
June 30th, 2015 7:48am
Negative thinking is definitely one of the biggest problems a lot of us suffer from. Ironically, the more you try to rationalize it, the more you tend to only think about it and in turn become more negative. It’s a crazy, vicious cycle. That’s why I think it’s good to simply listen, absorb and be inspired by what the world can offer you. That’s how you’d be blessed with different insights all together.
July 6th, 2015 6:52pm
Write down 3 good things that happened yesterday or within the last week and dwell on them. Write about them. Just like you would about something depressing.
September 14th, 2015 11:21pm
Find a healthy distraction or an outlet that you can turn to when you're thinking bad thoughts. In therapy, I learned to make a box full of everything that makes me happy! (I had quite a bit of chocolate in there)
September 22nd, 2015 9:24am
by STOPPING. Find something to do. Something that will take your mind off yourself. Perhaps volunteer or offer to sweep an elderly persons front path, go swimming or walking and ensure you say hello to people you pass even if they do not respond. Get your mind busy on another subject
November 17th, 2015 6:17am
use distractions, find a hobby focus on what makes you happy. and if your mind brings you somewhere dark try to think about other things.
January 2nd, 2016 1:00pm
Because you are not doing anything so your brain gets bored and starts to have negative self talks, so do something that distracts you and makes you happy to stop your brain from thinking negative thoughts
January 12th, 2016 1:48pm
By doing activities. Exercise, cook some delicious meals, go out, experience the world, share your problems.
April 18th, 2016 2:25am
Dont ever be alone..find a supportive friend.or just talk to god about it..try to focus on what made you happy
May 31st, 2016 5:04pm
First of all do what you love. Doing what you love will make you happier.Stop thinking that everything is getting worse. Think something positive,think someone you love.
December 16th, 2016 4:35pm
Practise meditation- This exercise helps you to relax and focus on the moment. There are many apps on the appstore for meditation that can guide you during the exercise. Good luck and all the best.
January 30th, 2018 9:54pm
There is no miracle solution to that. Your mind has to think of something: if you feel bad and don't give it anything to be occupied with, it will inevitably fill with dark thoughts. Try finding an activity that captivates you, try to achieve a small mundane goal like "Go for a walk tomorrow". The activity will occupy your mind, while the success of completing the activity will raise your morale!