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If I was gone would anyone notice?

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Last Updated: 06/04/2018 at 8:13pm
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Top Rated Answers
zimpyro
August 3rd, 2015 4:53am
Your friend can't sleep for weeks, haunted by the same depression, wondering what they could have done to help. Your parents haven't slept in weeks either, blaming themselves for your death. Your siblings lay restless, haunted by memories of you, searching for moments when they should have seen your pain, moments they could have stopped you from doing this. Think of all the loved ones who would blame themselves, wondering just what they could have done differently to save you.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2015 9:30am
No .....and I don't like anyone notice this .... I'm no one and I will be no one.....................
KuyaEthan
January 16th, 2018 4:03pm
Yes. You might think that you don't matter in this world. But because of you someone has a favorite mug to drink their tea out of that you bought them. Someone listens to the radio and it reminds them of you. The people you greet and met will probably wonder where have you been. Someone who has remembered your jokes would smile. The person who used to express themselves to you will remember the good times. The quotes you shared in social medias probably motivated, encouraged, and felt appreciation on those days. Never think you don't have an impact in this world. Because the day you were born, that's when a CHANGE happens. Even the slightest move you do, it makes a change. Don't let your negative thoughts blind you from the kindness you've provided to people who needed it.
Dinah
December 3rd, 2015 12:57am
The answer is yes. It always is. There was this homeless man by my work who seemed to have no friends or family whatsoever. I never talked to him because I'm shy but he always greeted me when I passed by and I liked him a lot. I thought he was nice. Then I think he died. Or maybe he moved away I don't know. But people working in the stores around started asking about him a lot. I realized that this man was ''alone'' but he wasn't really. People noticed. And people would notice for you too. We never know who we touch. Please take care :)
Anonymous
July 27th, 2015 3:38am
I've wondered that before as well. And, the answer is yes. When I struggle with thinking this way, I try to think of each person or animal, etc. that I interacted with in the last week. Would any of them have noticed if I hadn't been there? I can always come up with one person/animal....even if that's the neighborhood cat I bent down to pet real quick or the cashier I told to have a nice day.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2015 12:02am
I do not know you. I want to give you as honest an answer as possible, so I will simply quote one of the greatest leaders ever known. "It may not matter what you do, but it is very important that you do it anyway." -Gandhi. While you may think that you are worthless, and nothing you do actually matters, the effect it may have can be staggering. Never be afraid to go out there, and show the world who you are, even if you don't quite know yourself.
librabrandi89
May 8th, 2015 4:31am
More than you could ever know, love.
Anonymous
June 18th, 2015 3:21pm
Yes, If you left everyone would notice. You would be gone. They would feel bad for anything they had done. Everyone would miss you. Your parents would be destroyed. They may not show they love you but, trust me they do.
Aislinnn
April 12th, 2015 4:47pm
Yes. No matter what, people love you. I promise you've made a good impact in someone's life. Stay strong.
miraculousPiano89
May 20th, 2015 3:11am
Your ultimate goal in life is to find your purpose for living. You may have a hidden gift or talent that even you have not yet identified. Life is about exploration and adventure. Sometimes we fall and sometimes we soar. Every story is unique to the author who wrote it and if you were gone, you would be cheating a whole lot of people out of a really great life story.
scottwooten
July 7th, 2015 3:22pm
If someone you knew was gone, would you notice? You are important to someone and never forget that.
Anonymous
June 4th, 2018 8:13pm
If you were gone, people that love you and can't be without you would notice. And they would be mad at themselves for making you go.
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2016 6:43am
Yes. The world might still be the same. Everyone will continue their lives. But what will happen to the people who truly love you? They're going to miss you and wonder everyday what they could've done to help you. You have a great future ahead don't do something that is going to end it all.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2018 12:26am
Yes, so many people. Not only your family and friends, but your teachers, pets, leaders, even neighbors and store keepers. You are so much more loved and needed than you realize, so just stay strong. Hard times will pass, trust me.
KRN
December 14th, 2015 3:00pm
You're loved by someone you don't know. Of course you'd be notice. Don't be a reason of sadness. That would be selfishness
demonhunterkaz2y5
December 14th, 2015 10:10pm
Of course someone would! You may not always see the people around you that care, and that's what depression does to you. It blinds you (metaphorically, of course) from seeing the people that truly care. But even if you can't see it, there's always someone there who cares about you and would notice and be hurt deeply by your absence.
banjoshoe
September 11th, 2017 5:36am
Someone always notices。 You always matter to someone。 There is always someone who loves you and will be hurt if you disappeared。
Anonymous
April 3rd, 2015 9:13am
Yes! Sometimes we think things are going to last forever and nothing will ever be better, but things do get better and I bet there are tons of people that you don't even realize that would notice if you were gone.
Phoenix9
June 23rd, 2015 12:08am
I have felt this way often in my life; thinking about the outcome really depressed me sometimes. Doing things that make a difference, in the world, can contribute to a better sense of well-being and accomplishment.
charmingJxz29
November 17th, 2015 7:28pm
The answer is yes. Your friends and family would miss you very dearly. It could even cause them a hard time.
LoverOfHappiness
February 8th, 2016 6:52am
Yes. A simple resounding yes. It may seem like there will be no one who won't notice you were gone, but they do. They make take advantage of the fact that you are always easily accessible, but people around you need/ are aware of you. Live for you, because you know what you want. Living for others is a long shot with so many personalities floating about in this world, its difficult.
IsisWondeerland
June 3rd, 2015 3:42am
Of course ! There's always someone that cares about you. Maybe you can see it, but we are never completly isolated.
smilejade
July 13th, 2015 9:02pm
Of course they would notice, you may not think that you are important but you really are. Everyone would miss you, that really hit home for me when I was experiencing the same thoughts and my mum found out, I suddenly realised that if I was to disappear that people would actually miss me. So yes, I think people would notice if you were gone.
readerandwriter
September 8th, 2015 2:52pm
Your friends and family, believe it or not, would notice. They love you, even if they're not very good at showing it. And even if you have trouble believing that, I know that your pet (if you have one) would notice and would miss you terribly.
Anonymous
February 27th, 2017 9:57pm
Yes. You may not believe people would notice if you left, but they would. You don't see the impact you have on people. On anyway that's ever talked to you or knows you. It may seem like no one understands and you're unwanted but I assure you that's not true. You would be miss dearly by so many people. You have a place on this earth that's yours and no one else's, you'd live a missing space if you left that would be felt by everyone.
Lyricaldancer99
January 5th, 2016 1:11am
Lots of people would notice! If you need anyone to talk to talk to your parents,friends they all care about you.
sereneHoliday44
May 8th, 2017 4:43am
Yes people around you are certain to notice your absence. What makes you think people would not notice. To give you a small example one even misses one's physical possessions and we are talking about an entire living being who lives with them talks with them interacts with them, even if the interaction and relations may not be the best but they are there and one is bound to miss them.
lifeisBeautiful05
November 14th, 2017 6:20am
There are always a few people in our lives who really care for us but we don't notice it sometimes. And if you are gone... They would not just only notice but they'll be upset too.
Gentlewillow
July 27th, 2015 10:09pm
Your life leaves more traces than you can imagine. Even people you may have forgot about will notice. Even people who you hardly knew will notice. Your life is precious to so many, even when you can't see it.
optimisticScarf8891
November 16th, 2017 7:06pm
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