Why do I always think my husband is cheating on me?
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Anonymous
September 21st, 2016 4:25pm
Maybe because you don't trust him or you had a previous bad experience or maybe you are just right!
Anonymous
September 24th, 2016 4:47pm
In some cases, it can be that you love him so much, that everything he does will make you seem supicious of him.
Anonymous
October 5th, 2016 3:22pm
It sounds like you are feeling anxious about your husband. There will be a reason for this. Talk to him about this and try to tackle the things that make you feel this way.
Because you love him. A person is always scared of losing someone whome he/she loves,cares and misses the most. You are scared that he may leave you and go away leaving you alone behind and this is why your brain directs itself to the thought of being cheated so that you hold upon him always.
Anonymous
October 23rd, 2016 12:59am
Has your husband ever done anything to make you not trust him? Has someone else you've been close to? Just keep in mind to only judge him by his actions, not by the actions of others.
I have some idea about it.
First: It came from childhood.Probably you have experience because of your dad. The years in our family very important.This is the first place where we can learn about social life.
If you haven't any bad experience about your husband, then try to analyze your relationship with your parents.
Second: we are different with different habit. What is normal for me, can be strange for other one. Not enough is just to live with someone.we have to understand them. We live in lot of life style. Some people prefer to spend more time with family, and some with family. Find out, learn more about your partner life style
Anonymous
October 28th, 2016 12:49am
Probably doing something that question his ability to do things he's away a bottle he is more on his cellular
Maybe he gave you a reason to think that, this could be a reason why you always think that, remember to not stay paranoid and think of all the possibilites.
Anonymous
December 10th, 2016 5:39pm
There are many answers to this seemingly age old question. Right now my brain can only come up with two plausible responses. A: He actually is involved in a extra-marrital affair. Or B: You are self-concious and take that out on your relationship with your husband. If you are not confident in yourself, and in your marriage, I'm sure that could cause unwarrented parinoia.
it could be you are insecure or your husband is not transparent with his actions.if he has cheated before its fear that he is doing it again but if he hasn't done it then probably insecurity.its not always that a woman' intuition is right.its better to look on the positive or ask him to be clear with things you are not understanding.usually when you start to feel that something is happening you get all the ideas & reasons to see it as if its actually happening
Anonymous
February 1st, 2017 8:11am
Our insecurities makes us think that others are not going to valuate us as they should. Is understandable to think that if you feel insecure. You should try to relax and see if this was the problem before contemplating other posibilities.
Maybe you think your husband is cheating on you, because he is acting suspicious. There are many ways to tell when someone is cheating on you. I will be honest, you could be jealous, that is a common reason why people are suspicious. Have you ever felt like you were jealous, or like your husband hasn't spent enough time with you?
Has he cheated in the past or do you have evidence that he has been? Have you cheated in the past? Try and think about why you have trust issues and if it's a joint issue with you and your husband perhaps try and work through them together.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2017 2:06pm
Because you do not trust him. If he cheated on you before it's understandable and it is not real love. If he didn't then maybe you don't love him enough and you are looking for a reason to leave him. Relationships are also about trust.
Have you had any experiences with cheating or distrust in your past? Sometimes, even though our current partner has never given us a reason to be concerned, we can't help put project past feelings and experiences onto them. Have you disused these feelings with your partner?
Anonymous
April 13th, 2017 5:41am
You may think that your husband is always cheating in you because you feel insecure, or because he might have suspicious behavior. You also might feel like he deserves better than you, so you might always think that he is cheating on you because he deserves better than you.
Anonymous
April 14th, 2017 12:26am
You may feel insecure about yourself. You may feel not enough for him. You may try your best but he can't see your success and you know it. Just, don't go hard on yourself. Accept that you are a wonderful person and your husband can't cheat on you because you mean to him so much.
Anonymous
May 17th, 2017 4:30pm
In relationships it's not uncommon for some people to feel insecure because they loce their partner and fear loneliness. You may not be doing anything wrong, or your partner but fear is an unavoidable concept. They best thing you can do is trust your partner and talk to them. Communication is key.
Sometimes when you are not feeling very confident these kinds of feelings can arise. If this is the case, do some things on your own to make yourself feel better, like getting a pedicure. If self confidence is not the problem, is it because your husband has a job that keeps him away from home a lot? Talk with him and let him know what you are feeling.
insecurities, sometimes being in a past relationship can make you tarnish new relationships. it could be simple things that make you think that, he doesn't do things he use to do and he also may just seem distance... communication is key
Because maybe you have trust issues with him or because of other previous relationships that made you think that way.
Well this depends. If he has given you a reason to not trust him then our first thought is always to assume someone will do something they have before again. Best to talk to your husband explain your insecurities and get a better understanding of eachother.
Sometimes there's this sense of anxiety in the air by my previous experiences I have been honest and asked them straight out because they do not have enough time to bluff or lie .
Anxiety and being paranoid can trigger this. If a husband is to work late shifts or be out with his friends late and he is later than a time he given to you can trigger paranoia and anxiety to rise. It can cause alarm bells and make you believe things that are not necessarily true. I'd sit down and talk and then you may get reassurance
It could be a number of reasons. Has he given you reason not to trust him the past? Do you feel like he loves you? Do you feel anxious about other things that you don't know the answer to?
If you feel like you don't trust him or trust that he loves you, I would try talking to him about why and what you can do together to strengthen your trust and bond.
If you think it's more anxiety than anything else, I would try explaining that to him and then perhaps working with a listener or therapist to mitigate it.
Anonymous
November 8th, 2017 1:35am
you could be experiencing paranoia, it could also be a lack of trust in the relationship which you can help with communication
Anonymous
November 9th, 2017 5:30pm
You either have as a personal characteristic not being able to trust people due to past experiences or simply your personality or He shows lack of interest or attention in your relationship (It could still ba problem with him and not cheating)
Anonymous
December 10th, 2017 12:36am
It was proved psychologically that if you like you are being cheated on then it is a true feeling, but someone it’s not, if he is either too distant or too close then it might be a sign of cheating or he might become so protective over the phone in an unusual way.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2017 4:26am
I don't think he is I just think he conversates with females and flirts with them on his phone while at work or not around me
I understand people can be very protective, but you have to let people out of their shells. A husband should be open to their wife and tell them everything, not keeping everything open to your wife could result in bad things in the future. Tell him and discuss it at one point. And if he actually is cheating, he does not deserve you.
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