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Is polyamory wrong even when everyone involved is happy and consent is given?

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May 15th, 2015 12:06am
If everyone involved is happy and consent is given, no type of relationship is wrong. Perhaps it can be considered taboo by the majority of people, but that doesn't mean it's wrong. Just make sure to be safe and have good communication with your partner/partners.
June 18th, 2015 2:21am
When we start defining what's wrong or right based on feelings, it sets a precedent for incest, and other unnatural relationships between individuals.
December 21st, 2015 11:00pm
No polyamory is not wrong if it done with consent. really it is only the western cultures that see this as wrong. I am in a beautiful relationship with my soul mate who also happens to be married. Everyone is aware of this relationship and they understand that the deep love we have for each other is helping us to grow and become awakened. Would anyone want to stop a person from achieving awareness ? Of course if partners are not aware hen that is a different matter as that is an affair where a lot of people can and will get hurt.
January 14th, 2015 7:04pm
The notion that something is wrong just because it's again your beliefs, or even the law in your country is fundamentally flawed. Polyamory is the norm in many cultures, and has been for centuries. Just because something isn't socially acceptable in one society doesn't mean it can't be in another. The human race is rich in its variety, which is something that should be celebrated. And as a part of this race, we should be open-minded towards others that might be different, because we expect the same from them.
May 3rd, 2015 5:09pm
Nope! No relationship is the same. Everyone has their own boundaries of what they are and are not comfortable with and as long as everyone is on the same page, those boundaries are perfectly okay! Some people only feel comfortable in exclusively monogamous relationships, and that's okay! Those people should have relationships with people who feel similarly, so that they are able to get the most out of their relationship. Likewise, if you feel happiest when you have multiple partners, you should allow yourself to experience that by being with partners who are also happiest and most comfortable in a polyamorous relationship. You're not doing anything wrong at all!
May 20th, 2015 7:10am
Polyamory may not be for everyone, but some people enjoy this. The key word that you have given is consent. If each party involved is happy and agrees to the relationship, then there is no harm being done.
May 28th, 2015 6:03pm
It's not wrong unless you're unhappy with it. If everyone involved has made a choice, happily and consensual with it, there should be no problem.
June 17th, 2015 4:29pm
I believe that if everyone is happy and consent it given you are not breaking any laws and that polyamory is not wrong
July 7th, 2015 5:24pm
No, of course not! Nobody is hurt and everyone is happy, and as nobody is forced, its not even illegal.
July 13th, 2015 3:39pm
Polyamory is perfectly acceptable as long as everyone involved is happy and their emotions are acknowledged. Consent is key, so as long as you have that everything is good.
July 14th, 2015 9:28pm
No it's not. If you're doing something where everyone is feeling good and you're not harming anyone else, it's not wrong at all. Whatever makes you happy.
July 30th, 2015 9:44am
From whom perspective are you worried it would be wrong? If everyone involved is responsible on their actions and the consequences of what they are doing, if everyone is happy and allows each and every individual a chance and the possibility of feeling like they belong, who can say anything else? Thinking in right/wrong depending on what someone else who isn't involved thinks, you may not ever live the way you want. So do what makes you happy regardles of what someone else thinks.
September 8th, 2015 4:42am
It depends on by what standard we choose to judge "right" and "wrong". Some have standards which dictate the morality of such things based on religious traditions or other cultural orientations. From a purely pragmatic standpoint, if everyone has consented to an alternative type of relationship (even if they are not necessarily "happy"), then whether it is "right" or "wrong" in the eyes of a third party is irrelevant.
November 23rd, 2015 3:30am
No polyamory is not wrong at all as long as all the parties involved are aware and respected. Love is love.
June 6th, 2016 1:12pm
You don't actually know if everyone is truly happy and confident with consent. It's hard to manage a relationship between only two people. It is even harder to imagine a relationship with strong bonds between more than two partners just because everyone has his own principles and opinion.
August 16th, 2016 9:25am
If everyone is happy and the consent is given then it should be fine. Make sure that the party that is married to many also can effort to handle and take care of all partners and kids as well.
September 4th, 2016 10:54am
It depends upon (say) Mr./Ms.X and all the partners he/she is involved with. We speak about open relationships and open marriages nowadays. If all the parties to the relationship are aware of the fact that multiple partners are involved and they all agree to it and are okay with it - then who is anybody to judge Mr./Ms. X? The acceptance of polygamy by the partners is important however, they should be made aware of it before getting involved. And then, you are good to go - as long as you are not hurting someone else's emotions and feelings.
September 6th, 2016 8:59am
I think that is a personal question that has to be decided by all those involved. That said, there are many things to consider when entering into a polyamorous relationship. Trust and open communication among all involved are very important. Also, remember that happiness and consent can fluctuate throughout a relationship and can change depending on how comfortable each partner feels about the arrangement as time progresses.
November 7th, 2016 10:47am
Polyamory is not wrong for People are Free to do everything they want if they don't restrict anothers happiness or well-being.
July 17th, 2017 5:39pm
Up for debate. Some people think it's wrong, others think it's the only right way. But who cares about whether people think it's wrong? If all people are happy and gave consent, there is no reason why anyone should listen to other people's morals. If the people in a polyamory relationship feel that it's right, then it's right, regardless of what people think.
September 18th, 2018 3:00pm
That is a personal decision between you and your partner(s). There's no law stating how you have to form relationships, so directly the answer to your question is no, but indirectly this is a question of your own morals, and those of the ones involved in your particular situation. If you feel in your gut something is not right, try to talk about it before reacting to it, but at the end of the day always trust your gut. We are all unique, and have unique interests and needs. Experimentation can lead to discovering a new way of life, or to discovering something doesn't work for you.
July 29th, 2019 10:36am
Some people and religions may frown upon it but if everyone involved is happy and consent is given then i don't see it as wrong. People have their opinions and anyone who has a polyamorous relationship should just let the haters hate and live their life how they want to live it. A good way to live life happily is to not care what others think of your choices unless someone is looking out for your safety. If something makes you happy and its safe for everyone involved then it can't really be considered wrong. Just do you.
November 19th, 2019 8:37pm
From my personal standpoint: no. The only people who can deem something to be wrong or right, are the people involved in that relationship. The way adult individuals go about their relationships (given that no one is being harmed in any way) is only up to the adults in that relationship and no one else. If everyone involved is an adult, not coerced or doing anything that could harm themselves or others, and happy, there is absolutely nothing wrong with a polyamory. I believe that relationships and love can come in many different forms and shapes, just like we do :-).
January 27th, 2020 2:59pm
It is absolutely your own choice to determine! If polyamory is right for you, and those you're involved with, don't be held back by someone else's opinions. There are many paths to enriching and rewarding relationships. Remember just because it may not work for some people it doesn't make it "wrong" for others. You have the right to choose what is "right" for you and your partners hopefully can do the same...without being judged by others. We all have preferences and should have the ability to explore and enjoy based on what makes us happy and satisfied...not limited by the opinions of others!