What do I say to people that ask about my scars without making them uncomfortable?

Just tell them it helped you get through a tough time. You don’t really need to explain yourself if you don’t want to.

A person's scars are never an easy thing to talk about. Be it from an accident or self-inflicted yet there are times people would notice them and ask you about it. At this point, it is completely your decision as to how you wanna deal with the conversation. Either you can be direct with them and tell them what happened (only if you are comfortable with that) or you can simply tell them it happened due to something in the past, which you don't like to talk about anymore and move on from the conversation. If you do decide to tell people about your scars, be open and comfortable with them, only share as many details as you are okay with. Remember they are your scars and your past, you decide who gets to know about them!

If you feel they would feel comfortable, tell them the story. If you feel it would make them feel uncomfortable, you can just tell them a general truth, like "Oh, it's nothing. I got it when I was a kid."

For me personally, whenever asked about my scars, I call them battle scars or my victory scars. I don't quit go into detail but more so just mention that I had a rough time but I came out of it stronger and I'm a fighter and these are the scars that I endured during the tough battle. People have normally just accepted it and told me to talk to them if I ever feel that way again. I have gotten negative responses, but mainly from jerks so I cut them out from my life completely. I hope this helps :)

I choose to tell people that my body is a book. And everything on my body, is a different chapter or story. When it comes to talking directly about self harm scars, I like to explain that they are ones my mental problems can't show on their own. On a side note I changed my self harm habit to tattoos and piercings because I felt they were a more artistic way of being able to express my mental health issues! Unfortunately, not everyone gets it. Despite all the awareness some still believe we should be locked up and rats to be tested on or at least kept away from society. But explain it in a way that makes you feel comfortable. Not everyone else!

Sometimes there is no way to do this, however if they ask they may realise they might feel uncomfortable but want to know because they are curious or want to know more about you. The only thing I could suggest is the phrasing and maybe not going into too much detail if you feel uncomfortable.

It is up to you to decide how much information you want to share with others, especially something as personal as this. You get to decide when to share. Telling the other person you decline to answer the question is also valid and should be respected. You should not feel pressured in any way to provide an answer simply because someone is asking. Your feelings are just as important as the next person's so be sure you are comfortable before worrying about whether they are comfortable with your answer. Does this make sense to you? What are your thoughts?

One of the best things to do would be to tell them the truth. But tell them in a way that you feel is sutible. Something like a simple and basic way without going into too many details unless they ask for more than what you have told them. Make sure they understand what you are saying and answer as many questions about it as you can. If they understand it better, they may feel more comfortable around hearing about them. Especially so when it’s somwthinf they understand because you’ve explained it to them in a way they understood.

I assume that you talk about scars caused by self-harm. I think you will have to consider who the person is in your life and how much you trust this person based on past experience. You don't have to share the same answer with everyone and you don't have to make yourself vulnerable to everyone. If it's someone you don't know well or don't trust completely you might just say something like "it's something sad that happened to me and I don't like to talk about it". If it's someone you've known longer and trust more I would try something to test the water first. First just give them a little information and see how they react to that. Again, your past experience with them will be a good indicator of what you can share safely. You might start by saying something like "how well do you understand depression/anxiety" or whatever else you are struggling with in addition to your self-harm. If they react well, tell them a little more. If they react badly, just say you don't like to talk about it. You might be surprised to find that some people (even if they are few) will really be understanding and would want to support you. With that again, go slowly and tell only a little at a time. For example, if ever you need to share more graphic details with them, save that for much much later when they've already proven themselves to you. But you don't have to share anything you don't want to. It's up to you. You are in control of what you share.

Being asked about scars can be an uncomfortable and, oftentimes inappropriate situation. Sometimes people ask out of natural curiosity, other times it may be loved ones who are concerned and want to make sure you are okay. Those who ask difficult questions, often expect difficult answers. It may be helpful to analyse this and stop to think about why somebody is asking you such a personal question and what their intentions are. It is also important to note that you do not have to share anything you are not comfortable with, and it's okay to say 'Hey, I'm not wanting to talk about that'. Your body is your business. In any case, you are entitled to be as honest and to share as little or as much as you like.

I have a scar myself, I have had it since I was very young from a surgery that I needed. I was never particularly uncomfortable with it, but sometimes people would stare or talk about it. I found that when I spoke about it and what it came from with them, and they could see that I was not uncomfortable, it made them feel a little more comfortable too. They would ask questions and even share their own scars, some physical, some emotional with me. Sometimes just opening up an honest dialogue can make an uncomfortable situation more comfortable for everyone.

First I would like to say that having scars doesn’t make you less or more of a person than someone else. It’s easy to overthink it when it’s likely something you see most days. When someone asks about your scars in a serious manner it’s okay to tell them what your comfortable saying. For instance if it’s a friend that knows some background or would like to, you can say that these are from self harm. I had been/am going through a hard time. If it’s someone who isn’t a friend or someone you really don’t want to talk to about these kinds of things, be polite and tell them that. It’s okay to take a stand on either side of the line!

based on my personal experience I always tell people the truth. I tell them that I have experienced a lot of difficulties in my life and I have found a way to overcome them. I also tell them that I am on the road to self harm recovery and that I am actively seeking better coping strategies to better my life. I tell them that I am not ashamed of my scars or burns. that they are a part of my life journey and prove how strong I am and how much I fight to stay alive. I am a warrior.

When people point, stare at or ask about your self harm scars it’s incredibly scary and daunting to have to explain where they came from. The best way to respond is to simply say “I was dealing with a lot of things in the past but I am better now”. This way it prevents the person from feeling uncomfortable as they can simply acknowledge that you are okay at this present time, and it prevents you making other excuses which are clearly not the truth. Despite all of this, it is completely up to you to respond to their questions about your scars - it’s your body and it’s more important for YOU to not be made uncomfortable by their stares or questions. Stay safe :)

Tell them that it's okay that they asked, and that you've been through a rough patch before. If you're comfortable enough, briefly let them know why (depression, anxiety, OCD, eating disorder) but it's okay if you don't want to share that. It can be uncomfortable to talk about your mental health, and it's just as okay to tell them that it was a long time ago and you don't want to talk about it. If they seem understanding, it can be a good opportunity to ask them if they've ever had mental health issues, and turn it into a discussion rather than a confrontation.

You don't always have to explain to people, Especially fi you think they won't understand. You can simply reply, "I don't want to talk about it". However, someimes this can make people even more curious. You could say, "I was going through a hard time and this was the way I tried to cope with it. I'm doing better now." Or you could take the humorous approach and say, "I was fighting off dragons!" It might give people a hint that you don't feel comfortable talking about it. If you believe the person may understand, you can explain to them why you harmed yourself.

Well, to begin, they wouldn't be asking you about it if they're uncomfortable. If someone asks you about your scars, tell them the story of how you get them, how you survived, and how your scars are proof that you're a strong person. That those scars mark the lessons you've learned throughout your life. Don't be ashamed of those scars. Be proud that you've overcome the darkest hours of your life and that you're healed. By doing that, you would become an inspiration for them. A living monument of how mankind can conquer the hardest challenges that the world can give him.

It really depends on how comfortable you are with the person. I have experience with people asking about self-harm scars. If you feel comfortable, or want to do so, you could tell them the truth. You could also tell them that you "went through a rough time". You are also under NO obligation to answer the person. You don't owe them anything. Scars are none of their business, unless you decide that you want to answer. It can be helpful to think up a few 'excuses' for when strangers or acquaintances ask about scars. This could be saying that your scars are stretch marks, or you have an aggressive pet. You are not obligated to give an excuse. You can stay silent. You can tell the truth every time. If the person asking you is a child, then an excuse may be best, as the truth may scare them, and not answering can just lead them to want an answer more. Whatever you decide, self-harm scars are NEVER something that people should shame you for. Scars show how strong you are, for still being here, and fighting your tough times. If anyone decides to judge you for having self-harm scars, then please don't listen to them. They don't undertstand how beautiful you are, and how courageous you must be for showing your scars, which can be terrifying to do. Stick with people who love you for who you are.

You can tell people, that you have been through some tough times in life and that you have come out stronger on the other side. Some have a tendency to shy away, when it comes to hearing about other people's hardship, but if you make a point out of telling them that you are better and that you are strong, then people will most likely feel more comfortable about it - I'm not sure this is true for everyone of course, but I've seen good responses to this before. I think it does a big difference to make it short and concise, and not oversharing too much.

Tell them honestly why you don't want it to discuss or share. Think about your good first, it would eventually be good for others as well. Those who care would understand and those who don't, you don't need to worry either. Example, usually its because you are not comfortable to discuss about it so tell them truth that you are not comfortable. Truth is truth even if its bitter. Scratching the scars only wound it more. You don't need to show it to every person. The ones who really care and understand would find it without being told and would try to heal it and not scratch it.

Tell them the truth to why you have those scars, that's what i do and most times, people will support you after they've found out. if you get asked by a little child like i sometimes do just say you hurt yourself in an accident, they won't understand until they grow up so it's best you don't tell children the truth (you shouldn't or they'll probably tell their parents and that would cause a lot of trouble for you if their parents knew you, they wouldn't want their child knowing about self harm at the age of 5 or something) best case scenario: don't say anything, shrug.

Say that you've had some trouble in the past but now everything is under control And tell them not to worry because you've already won this battle

You can say that they were a way of coping when you were going through a particularly hard time, and that looking at them is a reminder of how far you’ve come since then

you can say that you where going through a hard time and now you are doing better and that they where a part of you life that you struggled with

I know how hard this is by experience, and especially if they are not healed yet. If they are scars always remember to say "i'm stronger now" or "i have learned how to cope now". You can always say, "i was going through a really rough time and i was not sure how to cope, but i'm better now". If that's the case, you are not lying to them and you are saying something that's beneficial to the both of you. Side note, scars show your strength!!

Say, “These are my battle scars, it shows that I went through hell, and made it back alive.”

The ideal is for you to feel comfortable in yourself to either be open and honest that you've overcome some hurdles and trauma in your life, or tell them it's not something you wish to discuss, but thank you for asking. Either way, you don't have to make yourself feel uncomfortable and pressured to tell someone if you're not sure - especially if you're not sure you can trust them. If you're confident in the way you deal with this question, then they're less likely to feel uncomfortable.

Try to be honest about it, and let them know to say when they are becoming uncomfortable. Calm your breathing and everything will be fine

eh this scars its my signature like kratos or avatar its me scars are me i am the scar thats all :D.

When someone asks about your scars, it can be extremely uncomfortable and overwhelming. Although lying might not be a good option, if you fear going into self harm may make someone uncomfortable, you can give shot simple answers, such as "it's a long story" or "that was a long time ago" and then direct the subject to another topic. People will usually not press if you are direct, but if they continue the topic, it might be best for you to end the conversation and walk away. Your mental health is always the top priority. It is best to do whatever will cause the least anxiety and stress.