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What will people think if they see my scars?

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Last Updated: 02/07/2022 at 7:36pm
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March 1st, 2016 6:26pm
Some will think "poor girl", others will judge you and they will think "she is trying to get attention", others will just try to ignore them as if they cannot see them, they will prefer to focus on something else cause they do not know what to think or what to say. However, they will be people (maybe just two or three or even one) who will see your scars and they will ask nothing, they will say nothing, they will not judge you just give you a hug or let you know they are there for you if you want to talk about it, if you need someone. Do not be afraid to show your scars, you do not need to hide them or be ashamed, they are part of your story like wounds after a battle. It does not matter what people think, it matters that you can look at them and forgive yourself, and heal.
April 18th, 2015 9:55pm
That you've been through wars and battles, and you survived them. They'll think, "ah what a brave soilder": Then they'll wonder who was the idiot that hurt them.
May 9th, 2016 12:46am
In my experience some might be cruel or ignorant, but other's will know that those are just your battle scars. Listen to those that cheer you on, those people who recognize that you've had ups and downs in your life. Don't mind the people who speak without knowlege, and don't let them bring you down. Your scars are a sign that you survived.
December 3rd, 2018 11:23pm
It can be tough to have visible scars. I have them and it causes a lot of staring, which in the past, made me very uncomfortable. It feels like everyone knows what your scars are from and like they are judging you for them. However, they actually are not judging 85% of the time; they are simply curious. The human eye tends to dwell on abnormalities so people look at you the same as they would look at someone with a third eye. And while that may not seem comforting, it should be because your scars mean nothing to them and very rarely do they think twice about it. I've talked to people who have seen my scars and they noticed and looked, but didn't dwell on them at all. IN the same way, very few people are going to remember you or your scars five minutes after seeing them.
April 18th, 2015 7:29pm
They will see how beautiful and strong you are. How brave you are. Having scars only mean that you overcome something and that you are strong. Just an amazing human being.
August 1st, 2016 2:54pm
Different people react differently. Some people may react in a negative manner but do not let it get to you, lift your head up and ignore them. But many people may will express concern and might ask you why would you do that to yourself, if you are comfortable about talking to them about your scars go ahead, but if you're not comfortable, it is not necessary for you to tell them about it.
January 15th, 2015 12:44am
Everyone has a different way of looking at things depending on what they know and have experienced. I think the important thing is to not worry about what others may think. You've been through a lot and all that matters is that one day you are comfortable being you and with your scars because you are strong and you survived.
February 9th, 2015 2:30am
That's hard to say. Everyone may react differently, but any good person will look at them with non-judgmental eyes and think to themselves, "this person must have gone though/is going through a hard time" and empathize with you. They might wonder what has happened in your life that inflicted those scars.
May 7th, 2015 7:11am
It isn't the reaction you would think, the reactions are usually like "If you ever want to talk about it I am here".
December 14th, 2015 1:59pm
Look,We all know the stereotypes,your biggest fear might be that people would automatically assume that you're some attention seeker or need serious help,however in real life I've found that people,while they may judge a little,more often than not would just mind their own business..some occasionally do go like 'wow you must be strong to get through what you did,but that hardly qualifies for admiration...friends might get concerned and wonder why you never told them before..The truth is that it's how you carry yourself in a room full of people whilst you scars are visible is what really matters..It reflects on how you judge okay are you with your past or ongoing problems....and people tend to respect that..At least the mature ones..
February 1st, 2016 5:30am
When people see your scars, there will be a lot of different thoughts. Some people will think about it from a scientific viewpoint and will assume you are depressed. Your family and friends close to you will probably think that they are to blame for not helping you more. Some will be revolted... Some will be proud of you for getting through it... There will be a mixture of thoughts, but I'll be proud along with a large amount of the community, because you won the war
June 14th, 2016 6:15am
I have had this as well. It can be hard, because there are some cruel people in the world but some people will see it differently.
August 30th, 2016 4:39pm
I always wonder what people will think when they see my scars. If the people observing grew up with me, then they'd know that I grew up with siblings and we rough housed a lot or that I had a dog that always got too antsy and scratched people on accident, or even that I played sports and some of these scars had to be from that. While, yes, that is true, some of them are not from sports, my siblings, or my dog. Some of them are self-harm, but I think when people, strangers and acquaintances, notice the scars that litter my body, they understand that times have been tough and some people cope with their own vices. The scars tell the story of my past that I could never repeat for the fear of relapsing, and people would respect the privacy and intimacy of my scars.
October 25th, 2016 2:00am
Everyone has differents ways to react to scars, but you don't have to worry about that or explain yourself if you don't want to.
May 22nd, 2015 3:06pm
Some people with think of you as a freak or a bad person, and others wild understand how things are hard and become secretly more protective over you.
June 10th, 2015 5:36pm
There are people who would tell you that you're crazy and wouldn't care, others would get angry with you, and some of them would help you .. I have met these three types of person.
August 18th, 2015 10:43pm
It really depends on who the person is. Most people will try to help you. Everyone can have a different view on it
September 8th, 2015 6:16pm
Firstly, you don't need to worry about other peoples judgement! You have nothing to be ashamed of, and perhaps some may stare, but most people will be supportive and they are the only people you need in your life :)
December 1st, 2015 7:57am
Don't worry about what other people will think. Unfortunetely, many people often judge each other for no reason other than feeling better about themselves. Your scars are part of who you are and what you've been through. If some people can't understand that, then they don't deserve your friendship and you shouldn't care about what they think.
December 21st, 2015 1:54am
before i started, when i saw them on someone else. I was never mad or disappointed, i always thought what more could I have done to stop them.
March 21st, 2016 3:58pm
That I had battled through hell and stood up in front of them. If they don't like it, I wont mind them cause they are the people who will not understand me
June 23rd, 2016 5:57am
Shame and guilt are a big part of why people who cut start cutting in the first place. I think it's important to take a step back (It can be hard!) and see the scars from the perspective of someone who has never dealt with the same issues you have. Medical conditions, abuse, and accidents are *all* valid reasons why someone's body might have scars, or even certain patterns of scars. People tend to be curious about things they don't understand, rather than passing judgement. It might feel awkward for you, but it's possible they've never even considered the idea that you hurt yourself. Recognizing this is part of letting go of the guilt and shame, I think. If they're curious enough to ask about it, they're expressing interest in your story. They want to know more about you, and they're telling you that it's safe to share a little bit more. If they look, but don't ask, they're probably not thinking anything worse than you *already* thing. Your past can be part of your story, but it doesn't have to be part of your current burden.
December 5th, 2017 4:37pm
I dont know what they will think exactly. But i know i don't want people to think i want everyone to see them. Like im using my scars for attention. I do everything i can to cover them up, no matter how hot the day... they are a reminder of past hate and self loathing and i want them to be forgotten about... or taken away and removed or miraculously healed...
August 6th, 2018 11:07pm
scars are beautiful because they show that you are a fighter and that you've won the battles your fighting so people's opinions usually are positive but if they are not then they are not very nice people or they simply dont understand.
February 4th, 2020 11:37am
It is none of your affairs what Will people think if they see your scars. It is just their opinion on what they see but not what you are in reality. They don't see entire your story, they just see scars and judge you for them, but it isn't your duty that you worry about their opinions, about what they think if they see them. Let's go of what they think and be your true yourself. If they can be healed it is awesome and let's work on it. If they can't be healed, just accept them and let's go of everyone's opinion on them. They make you unique. You are unique and worthy person anyways.
February 7th, 2022 7:36pm
Usually, most people are so focused on themselves and their own worries that they might not even notice your scars. If people do notice, they might not say anything at all because they are being polite or are unsure what to say. Others might feel brave enough to ask and it's up to you if you want to talk about them or not, but it's your body and your business and you don't have to talk to anyone about it if you don't want to.