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How can I overcome anxiety if I can't talk to a therapist or my own doctor?

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Last Updated: 06/10/2022 at 1:54am
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Anonymous
February 12th, 2022 8:17pm
You do not always need a doctor or therapist to overcome anxiety, it is a feature of what makes us human, and when not chronic, it can be worked through alone. You can overcome anxiety by identifying when you feel this way/the cause of the anxiety (e.g., when talking to people, or in a shop), identifying what about this makes you anxious then taking the steps to identify how to work through this. Another extremely beneficial way to tackle anxiety is mindfulness, such as breathing techniques; this can serve as a very powerful tool in relaxing when the mind becomes overwhelmed with anxiety.
allnaturalSky4753
February 20th, 2022 2:43am
You will have to look at self-help books, or books about overcoming anxiety, or self help coaching programs. There are millions of websites of resources, and thousands of books on amazon books, there is kindle unlimited and ou can search workbooks, or anxiety, or a panic and phobia workbook, or ptsd workbook if your anxiety is ptsd related. There should be those books for dummies yellow books, it might be called anxiety for dummies, or depression for dummies. There are checklists, and forms you can complete to try to help yourself. It can help to join 7cups support groups or talk to a trained listener and help in a collaborative process which is teamwork to come up with a realistic goal that you have to reduce your anxiety level so you can have less anxiety. You will want to focus on what things you will be able to do with more ease once you have reduced your anxiety. Let your listener know so you can work in a team to achieve some of your goals in a listener focused session.
Yoursafe101
March 11th, 2022 2:37am
From my own experience, self help books really helped me, doing your own research to help better yourself, there’s honestly so many books out there talking about other people’s experiences with anxiety and many coping mechanisms and tips on how to overcome it. YouTube is also another great help, as there’s many professionals who enjoy educating and spreading awareness about anxiety on YouTube. Reaching out to people, family, friends people who make you feel safe and who you really can trust, definitely opening up and talking to people is so much better than locking it all in and suffering alone, it’s not weak to reach out for help. Journal everytime you feel anxious, sometimes such a simple thing makes a big difference. You learn so much about yourself, you can slowly but surely comprehend yourself better and know your trigger points etc.
EternalSpring823
March 19th, 2022 4:44pm
Everyone feels anxious when being vulnerable. Talking to a friend can be the first step. We don't want to be judged or to made to feel less than. Having a therapist or doctor can really open up a lot of new chances for you to heal. It takes a lot of trust to really open up and let the professionals do what they do. Sometimes we end up with the wrong fit for a therapist or doctor and that's okay. The thing to know there is that you can almost always change your doctor or therapist. You need to find what works for you. If talking to an anonymous person is a step for you, then do what you need to in order to work past the anxiety. It's worth the work. You can do this.
CosmicMiracle
April 10th, 2022 1:19am
I believe that everything we feel is energy-based so I deal with my anxiety (as early as I can) by releasing said energies. I have certain activities for each level of anxiety (as I have several in varying degrees). The first one is to work out. Keeping the body moving and working on your physical health, usually comes with pain since we all aren't that used to so much movement since the start of all these global pandemic, but it comes with a certain and healthy level of self-appreciation and pride once you're done with it. Next is listening to music. I especially love epic music. For starters, you can try these three songs: Reborn by Really Slow Motion Aether by Peter Roe Wings of Destiny by Phil Rey They don't have lyrics, but the music is powerful. I let it fill me. It ignites emotions that I keep hidden because I don't know how to process them yet. I listen to it while watching sunsets or stargazing. Tears fall, but those tears make me feel a tiny bit better. The last one is saved for the most difficult anxiety attacks. Music and conversations. Through some heavy introspection, I realized that my anxiety is mostly because I cannot communicate with people I care about in the way I want. My narcissistic mom and dad who should've separated decades ago; my former lovers; the man I love but can't have; my nephews; my closest circle of friends (all male, I'm a girl with no female friends) who don't understand anxiety. My anxiety is triggered because of so many unsaid words and unexpressed emotions. So, what I do is listen to epic music on loop, sit on my bed, close my eyes, and then imagine one of them in front of me. And then I talk. I talk as if they are there listening. I talk as if they are there, understanding what I'm saying and finally seeing the daughter/friend/aunt/lover that I want to be for them. Speaking your thoughts and feelings out loud helps immensely because you'll realize you don't need them to reply; you just need to let it out of you. I hope this helps :)
creativeRiver5556
May 28th, 2022 4:49pm
Hi, you can start small instead of flushing yourself to fully in such a situation. Let me cover therapy in this post: 1. You can opt for a virtual meeting with your therapist. 2. if videos are a big no-no, go for telephone calls. 3. Usually your therapist will be accommodating if you express your concern after scheduling an appointment (online). 4. Plus therapy will then work towards your managing your anxiety (keep this goal in your mind when you want to recoil from such a situation. For a doctor's appointment, 1. Consider taking someone with you during your initial visits. 2. If the first option is not feasible, write down your issues on a piece of paper. When I am anxious, I usually prepare a script in my head, rehearse it so that even if the situation provokes me, I have a ready response that I do not have to think of on the spot. (this may not apply at all times).
Anonymous
June 10th, 2022 1:54am
Everytime I see I have anxiety and can't talk with any specialist immediately, I used to write it down. Just write every single thing that come across my mind down, don't care about if it make sense or not or punctuation, grammar... it doesn't matter, just write all things down. Other thing I may do is walking, have a troll, take time for myself, or simply, make a tea and enjoy it. Do whatever I can, calm myself down and try to thing about anxiety later. Or, I can try to list what is make me feel good at that time, what can lift me up then see what is in that list I can do right now.