How can I talk to people normally?

Nobody is perfect. Everyone is struggling on some level. When you shift your focus what they will think about you or stop fearing judgements, instead you just try to be kind to others. You reach a maturity level where you can't only talk to people normally but handle people around you quite well than an average person. Try to be kind to people around you and don't give them the liberty to impact your mood and state of mind. Once you stop fearing people. Everything is going to feel easy. Note: It is my personal view so to be treated like a general view, not professional advice.

It is difficult to conceptualize what is "normal", but I know how you can talk to people "freely": by letting go of the need to be "normal" or to seem socially desirable. These two concerns, which I'm sure you have, are the only things that are holding you back in your communication with other people. We constantly think about how others will evaluate us and that is poisoning our life. Although, the matter of fact is - there will always be people who wont like you no matter how hard you try; and second fact - there will always be people who will like you for who you are, even if you're not trying. Perhaps I went a little off the topic, but I really hope that this answers your question anyways, becuase in most cases, the root cause of people not being able to talk freely to others is the concern of whether they will appear socially desirable or not. It is a need that many never let fully go of, but you don't need to let it go fully. Your life will get so much easier if you manage to let go of just half of it.

Take a deep breath. Smile. Ask questions - relevant questions to the conversation. Make amusing comments about shared experiences you're having at that moment or have had together in the past. Don't be afraid to be yourself - share details about yourself and your life, keeping the amount of detail a little more limited when you don't know someone that well, and more plentiful when you know them well. And always keep in mind that nothing is personal. People may say things that sound like they are directed at you, but 9 times out of 10 they are projecting their own lived experience at you, and anything they say is coming from a lifetime of interactions with others and themselves, rather than it being about you in that specific moment. This will help you navigate taking offence or feeling embarrassed more easily.

I love this question, because it allows space to challenge the term, "normally." Normal is ultimately relative. What might be normal for me is probably not normal for you, and this is okay. This is really cool, because it allows us to define the term for ourselves in a way that works the best for us. Not only does the term "normal" vary per person, but it can also vary per group; for instance, what is normal for my friends and I is definitely not considered normal in other situations. It is okay to change it up. Find what feels comfortable and authentic for you. The world is our oyster!

Many people struggle with the ability to talk to others in a way that feels casual and ordinary. Social anxiety, autism, attention deficits, low self esteem, confidence issues, or imposter syndrome can all sometimes feel like they are getting in the way of what is considered "normal" social interaction. It's important to realize, however, that there is no real standard for "normal". "Normal" is just a word people use for "expected" and what is normal for one person may be unusual for another. If you feel you are not able to talk to people in a way you would consider "normal", perhaps it would help to find people who share common ground with you, so that you could practice feeling comfortable in conversation. You can also research facial expressions and social cues to familiarize yourself with social norms and conversational conventions. You can even practice small talk with close and supportive friends or family who understand your struggle. If you do not have anyone to practice with, you can practice in a mirror or rehearse using online videos of casual conversation. These are all coping mechanisms people use for helping themselves to get along in society when talking to others does not come naturally to them.

talking to people normally does not require much effort , you can initiate a conversation , talk about how you feel , talk about your day , share your memories, feel free to talk about anything , dont be judgemental , use proper usage of words, talk about things you like , your hobbies , talk about anything you want , just have a normal conversation , see that your interests are in line with the the interest of the other person. its nice to talk to people and share your views with a person and tell them your opinion.

The best way to learn is to practice. It helps to have common interests and hobbies to discuss, so clubs and events (like music shows, book clubs, sewing circles, movie nights, etc.) are all great ways to connect to others over a set activity and build more intimate relationships from there. Although everyone makes mistakes, practice brings people closer to perfect and also teaches you how to recover from mistakes, apologize, mend fences, set boundaries, and trust yourself in conversations. You can try setting daily goals, like meeting 5 new people in a week, or try online chatrooms which may be easier than navigating body language in conversation. Whatever works for you!

For me, i have many friends, some are for just chatting and some for deeper discussions. From my past experience, some friends are not suitable to share emotional experiences and make me feel worse when i share with them. I choose who to share and talk about things that concerns me according to their capabilities. Talking about usual stuff is the easiest, does not require a specific moment or situations. But to talk to friends about emotional stuff requires a little preparation such as if they are in a hurry, at work place etc. It is also i am ready to share my trouble to someone.

Be yourself! There are many people with the same interest, try talking about something you are passionate about. This will interest the person and a great conversation can be sparked. You can also start by saying a simple greeting, and the person can lead the conversation that may interest you. It will be ok, a lot of people are friendly once you get to talk to them. Maybe try complimenting somebody on their shoes or their jewelry and this can be an amazing conversation starter. Remember just be yourself, take a deep breath, and go for it. Hope this helped :)

I think "normally" is a relative term. In my eyes, talking to people "normally" is talking to them how you naturally would--in your own, unique, beautiful way. Don't think so much about how you *should* talk; instead, be yourself and connect with them on that level where emotions are raw and pure, without logic and with human feeling. I find that when I overthink what you're "supposed to" say, I find that I have nothing to say, but when I just go over and start chatting without expectations, just trying to be friendly and happy to talk to that person, there is plenty to talk about.

The first thing I would ask here is - What is normal? A lot of people have this idea regarding normal but what really is normal? I don't think any of us would be able to fit in that bracket! The media and other people make us believe we have to all be the same to "fit in" which is not true. The way you speak to people will be normal, this is normal for you and the type of person that you are. You need to have some confidence in yourself to then be able to feel good about speaking to other people.

Talking to other people is intimidating at first, but gets easier. As someone who has social anxiety, this is especially intimidating. I have found that starting a conversation with a compliment automatically improves the overall tone of a conversation and increases the chances of the conversation flowing naturally. Step two: Ask the other person open-ended positive questions about themselves, maybe a career choice, or why they moved to a certain place. It helps you learn a lot about them and is the "discovery" part of any conversation. Plus, if you have anything in common feel free to open up to them as well! Good Luck:)

Relax and be yourself. Talking come naturally when we allow ourselves to be naturally ourselves. I know it can be super hard to be ourselves when we are trying to be the best we can be for others. However, often being genuine is what is going to help people the most. We all want someone who genuinely wants to listen and talk to us through our problems. Likely, if you are here to help, you are the type of person who genuinely wants to listen and help people through their problems. So, shake off the nerves and allow yourself to tap into who you truly are. The normality will come naturally.

You will have to define what do you mean by normally. Or at least what normally means for people you normally want to communicate with. In my opinion there's no normal way that people communicate. There are so many types people can talk, but I have found no one talk "normally". Nevertheless, to answer your question, find the purpose of your need to talk to people normally. Is it work, to make friends, or whatever it is. Secondly, practice as much as possible, talk to as many people as possible. There's literally no other way. If you run out of common phrases to use then by all means do your research and collate a bunch of phrases for you to use. And just do your thing. See what's talking to people, normally like for you. Best of luck!

When I was much younger, I felt I had this problem. I couldn't start a conversation, or maintain it. I tried to copy "cool people", and I felt like I was a fake. Then I chose to "talk" with writing, actually I was better than talking, and still I am. Writing helps. But then I got to know the deeper layer of my problem. I couldn't communicate with myself clearly. So I start writing my personal reflections on things happening within me. I came to know that I was trying hard to gain people validation that I forgot I need to validate myself first. Then I know whether some conversation is worth it or not. So I don't try so hard anymore. I just choose which talk will help me or others. Aside from that, I wouldn't sweat too much.

asking about someone's day and just listening as a start is always good. Once you have built a rapport with the person, you will find the conversation will flow normally. Showing a genuine interest in what people are talking about and finding common interests will help. Although, finding someone with differing interests makes for a learning experience and can help the conversation flow by asking questions and sharing your thoughts. It takes time. The first couple of conversations can be stunted and will take work and effort. Just like here on 7-cups. listening is a great start