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Is it okay to avoid situations that make me anxious, or is that giving up to it?

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Is it okay to avoid situations that make me anxious, or is that giving up to it?
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Anonymous
February 23rd, 2018 6:52pm
I think that it depends on how important the thing you're avoiding is to living your life. For example, if you're avoiding taking trains and that's the most convenient and cheapest way to get to work, your avoidance may pose a problem for you. But if you're anxious about bungee jumping (to use an extreme example), that's something you could completely avoid without your life being impaired.
Anonymous
February 24th, 2018 2:26am
I think it's always important to consider your own well being first and foremost. If the situation makes you feel completely out of your comfort zone and you can see it affects your emotions, physical body and day then yes, it's a good idea to choose an alternative that you feel makes you genuinely relaxed instead but I wouldn't recommend doing nothing at all instead :)
Sintix
March 1st, 2018 4:58pm
It's totally okay. The biggest thing is, if you want to overcome that fear eventually; you have to submerge yourself into it repeatedly. Sometimes, it isn't as bad as we thought. Now, if the situation harms you or anyone else in any way, definitely don't do it.
FromDrewWithLove
March 4th, 2018 4:40am
It's totally okay, in moderation. Avoiding those situations can sometimes be the best thing you can do for your mental health. It's not always healthy to constantly throw yourself into those situations just to try and conquer the anxiety all the time. It's not giving up at all if you decide to avoid it, in moderation. Yes, every once in a while, it's a good idea to go and try to learn how to cope in those situations. But sometimes, it's better to just avoid it and not go through that stress. So yes, it is okay to avoid the situations, in moderation. Adding unnecessary stress to your life (too much anyway) is usually more detrimental to your health anyway.
ChairmanMeowListens
March 12th, 2018 7:09pm
Personally I take this is a controlled moderation. I push myself to deal with situations sometimes because I won't let this control my life. In doing so Iv found over time I have become much more functional and resilient. Yet also I have days where I know my biology is on that critical edge and taking time to care for myself and remove myself from that sort of stimuli is more appropriate. I think there is a difference between understanding your situation and responsible self care, and taking a reactionary out of control approach to dealing with anxiety. Understanding and taking care of yourself and gently pushing your limits when you are in the condition to tolerate it is being proactive and not giving up or in to it.
MrHedgehog
March 15th, 2018 2:08am
Avoiding situations that make you anxious is nothing to feel bad about. It is important to get to know your personal limits and to act on them accordingly. However, going through situations that make you anxious isn't always a bad idea. In fact, going through such situations could actually lead to you coming out stronger and more confident compared to when you went into it. Just be wary to not overdo it and bite off more than you can chew.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2018 5:42pm
It is okay to avoid a subject if you feel uncomfortable or anxious speaking with someone about them. Eventually, if you feel comfortable, then you can communicate about it in your conversation.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 10:12am
In the beginning it is good to stay away from stressful events, situations and people. However as we understand more the source of the problem and we rise our defense energy field by deep breathing, relaxation, meditation, healthy food, doing sports, it is good to test us in different situations we was vulnerable before. That verifies our personal life growth.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2018 4:55pm
I know facin it is gonna be too damn hard but avoiding it in the long run won't be a solution because you can't run away from it forever so try to encounter it.... Your fears will start vanishing away slowly and as the time passes you will notice that you no longer feel anxious in those situations like you used to... Facing it is the only way to reduce getting anxious..... Hope it helps you... All the best
Anonymous
April 1st, 2018 12:53am
This depends on your personal view. It is okay to avoid situations that make you anxious, however, it is also important to face these fears. You could try facing a few fears every now and then, avoiding situations that make you extremely anxious until you are ready.
Anonymous
April 7th, 2018 5:54pm
Better to avoid such situations or if you are in one, fight it out and ensure your mental health is not affected.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2018 5:40am
This avoidance should not remain something permanent. It should be something that is avoided until you have found a good way to cope with the anxiety that is causing the situation to give you anxiety.
aListeningEarReady2Hear
April 8th, 2018 6:11am
It's ok to do that sometimes, but it's not the best decision.... You should just go at the sititution at a way your less anxious ....maybe if you invite someone to join you....so your not going alone. Just do some thinking before each sititution and go into it with what seems less anxious to you.
gentleParkruth
April 9th, 2018 5:50pm
I don't think it's considered "giving up" you're simply protecting yourself and eliminating what triggers them. It takes self-awareness to able to figure that out. I use the very same method to deal with my severe anxiety, and it had helped me tremendously.
PileOfDirtyLaundry
April 11th, 2018 7:07pm
I believe its okay to avoid distressing situations. Until you know how, and until you learn how to make progress, do not face situations which trigger/fire up your anxiety. Take it one step at a time. If it stresses you, dont stress yourself. If you can deal with it and handle it, then it cant possibly make you anxious and you win the game :)
LilGolfish
April 12th, 2018 11:06am
Its definitely ok to avoid situations where you are not comfortable. That isn't giving up, that's called self defense and you are taking care of yourself.
Itisbailey
April 13th, 2018 7:36pm
It depends on the situation I believe. If it is something that can be avoided, then yes. If not, I believe positive coping mechanisms are very important. Avoiding may be the best option, but a few coping mechanisms can go a long way. This can even be deep breathing or journaling.
QueerChristianTeen2004
April 18th, 2018 1:12pm
Sometimes. You shouldn't always stay away from anxious situations, but sometimes you need to. Particularly if you don't HAVE to be in that situation.
courageousIris14
April 18th, 2018 3:26pm
Try and relax... Focus... Ask yourself what’s causing you to feel anxious... Looking into yourself and working out issues can be extremely helpful... Also, discussing these issues can be extremely therapeutic to one’s well being...
Anonymous
April 21st, 2018 4:01pm
It is okay on occasion to be avoiding situations. However, long term it may be an issue that can impact your life
sillyseraph002
April 27th, 2018 10:02pm
it is entirely okay to avoid situations that make you feel anxious. anxiety is a natural reaction to situations which could possibly be threatening in nature. having excess anxiety and always being on edge is not very healthy for your mind or your body. with that said, there do exist situations that it is not healthy, productive, or sometimes even possible to avoid. in those circumstances, you may find it helpful to seek the guidance of a professional who can help you lower your anxiety response in the face of those situations
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2018 7:48pm
Its totally normal to avoid these situations, and you do not need to feel guilty. However, if you can, challenging your fears would be beneficial
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2018 7:05am
No that is perfectly fine, if something is making you anxious and upset then it may not be worth it. Just make sure that you are happy
RayofSunshine25
May 3rd, 2018 3:45pm
It is okay to avoid situations that make you anxious. You don't want to force yourself into anything you don't want to do. However, it may sometimes help to take little steps to push your comfort zone, but make sure you come first.
MorganConstance
May 4th, 2018 12:18pm
It's okay to avoid particular situations especially if they make you uncomfortable but not all of the time. Do it slowly, maybe introduce yourself to certain situations, expose yourself to them and do your best to cope even for a while. Slowly, it can help build your confidence and make situations that made you anxious in the past more manageable.
SummerGrace95
May 4th, 2018 9:11pm
It is perfectly ok and great to avoid situations that make you anxious because then you are learning what your triggers are and protecting yourself from feeling negative. Excellent self-help strategy!
lime9226
May 11th, 2018 3:59pm
It's not giving up! Always try to avoid situations (That you can afford to miss!) If you don't feel like going out with your friends just say no!
Anonymous
May 13th, 2018 11:43am
Its totally okay to try to avoid them, you should do whatever makes you feel good and comfy, dont feel bad for that. Of course trying to get out of your comfort zone can be a good thing, just try not to push yourself too much and take your time when you need it! Have a great day.
Letsfeelbetteragain
May 16th, 2018 1:42am
Yes, it is okay to avoid things that make me anxious, be it a certain person or to a certain object that reminds me of unpleasant events. However, the way to conquer our fears, the best way is still to face it. The worst that could happen will be the things that happened.
QuirkyGirlSparks
May 18th, 2018 2:12am
You can't avoid the reality of life. You have to face it head on, so do things to try to make life more comfortable.