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Is it okay to avoid situations that make me anxious, or is that giving up to it?

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Is it okay to avoid situations that make me anxious, or is that giving up to it?
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July 8th, 2018 5:42pm
I think the situation should drive whether you participate in them or not. If the situation causes high anxiety I would avoid it, if possible. If the situation causes a low level of anxiety, I would test the water to work on overcoming the problem. If you try that it would not be giving up on it but working on overcoming it.
July 8th, 2018 6:31pm
It's different "avoiding", than just simply "giving up". It is perfectly okay. And why I say that, is because you are taking care of yourself. You are recognizing situations that could potentially cause a great deal of emotions; stress. I've found exposure therapy beneficial to me. Sure, it's very draining and emotionally challenging, but it's been worth it. Here's an example: I feared death. It's not good to want to die, but it's also not very healthy to ignore the thought of death. So after some time, I am neutral with the feeling of death. I've been near it. I've been far from it. I know better of what to expect, now. I acknowledge that death is a part of life.
July 12th, 2018 5:11am
You can definitely avoid situations that cause you anxiety because it will make you more comfortable.
July 14th, 2018 12:43pm
If you know for sure a situation will make you anxious, I feel that it is better to avoid the situation, rather than trying to go through normally and breaking down.
July 18th, 2018 11:35pm
Sometimes it is a good idea to avoid a situation that causes extreme anxiety until you can learn to cope better with it. By taking small steps it'll be easier to manage until you are able to cope effectively
July 19th, 2018 3:24pm
That's okay but you should search for help and start being okay with this situation step by step
July 19th, 2018 9:15pm
It really depends on the situation. But I think that you shouldn't let anxiety take over you. If you want to do something then go for it! I hope I helped.
July 27th, 2018 6:47pm
No it's perfectly ok to skip those situations if you are not yet ready to deal with them. However you should start to try to become more comfortable with them
July 28th, 2018 2:40am
You should try your hardest to overcome your anxiety. If this seems impossible, you can avoid the situation and try again at a later date. Anxiety often makes things that seem very simple to people with no anxiety, very complicated for people that have it. It can be very hard to overcome your anxiety and may take a lot of time, but eventually it will begin to get easier. You must give yourself time and become okay with doing certain tasks.
July 28th, 2018 2:05pm
I think it's best to try and dig into the core of the issue, the causes and experiences that make you feel more anxious. Identifying them and fighting them and learning to make them make you feel less anxious, progressively you'll start feeling like you are building a greater tolerance to not letting your anxiety get the better of you. You can choose to avoid them only if your anxiety is making you experience really bad anxiety attacks. Also I'd recommend self-disciplining to overcome and occupy your brain with a productive or beneficial activity using methods like meditation or exercising when you feel like your anxiety is affecting you so much. Self-disciplining really works well for an anxious mind :)
July 29th, 2018 11:32pm
It's totally okay to avoid those situations! Some people can claim that facing your fears is the way to get over them, but subjecting yourself to stressful situations to the point of possibly causing you harm doesn't sound like a very good solution either, right? Your well being is important and a priority!
August 3rd, 2018 5:10pm
anxiety and giving up are tWo different things. recognizing what makes you anxious and taking steps to avoid it can be seen as a proactive step, as opposed to retroactive (or giving up)
August 4th, 2018 4:53pm
I guess it depends on how severe it is, but it's probably not good to avoid it even though that's the automatic thought when proposed with a situation that effects you that way. You dont have to stop avoiding situations that you aren't comfortable with, but you should gradually go over time to get more comfortable, and before you know it it won't be as scary❤
August 8th, 2018 10:26am
It depends. Sometimes, avoiding situations may only worsen it. However, it may be better to give yourself some time to think about the issue again and make a sensible decision. So, what I want to say is don't avoid situations that make you anxious and please do not give up. You will always be having to run away from them. They will one day get to you when all that running exhausts you. Face it, you're much stronger than you think.
August 8th, 2018 7:49pm
It is okay to listen to your emotions, if you're feeling anxious and you feel being in those situations will make it worse then it is okay to not put yourself in those situations. It isn't giving up, your mental health is far more important than proving a point. When you feel ready you can start to get out of your comfort zone and try those situations but until then do what feels right. Be kind to yourself.
August 11th, 2018 4:49am
I personally feel peace is important to me and it's above everything. So I tend to avoid situations that make me anxious. It's NOT giving up it's more of protecting yourself.
August 11th, 2018 8:48am
I think if the situations can make you grow as a person then you have to face it but if it means to deal with something that is not worth it then you should just avoid it. Facing things that makes us anxious can make us grow and learn more about how should we deal with ourselves to overcome the anxiety
August 11th, 2018 9:58pm
The best way to think of it, is like this. You are on a long desolate journey, it is the end of the world. You have a wound that is still trying to heal. You have picked up an infection from bathing in dirty water, thinking that the water will clean the wound, whether it is dirty or not. You feel that you have no option but to bathe in the dirty water, as it is the only type of water that appears to be available to you. Even if a helpful stranger offered you one bottle of clean water, you may even choose the dirty water over the clean type incase you got to used to what you consider to be 'luxuries', and think that the dirty water will make you tougher, and closer to your 'true self.' The reality is avoiding the dirt in the first place is probably required in order for you to heal and grow much stronger, before you expect your body to heal the wound on it's own accord. We all need help from time to time to heal, and so does your body. You must help your body to help you, because your body is going to be the only friend left on that long lonely road when the going gets tough. Think about that for that for a second. Look after each other. Take a little break.
August 12th, 2018 8:36am
It depends if it's situations that you would like to do. By avoiding the situation, your anxiety will get worse.
August 12th, 2018 6:17pm
That is not giving in to anxiety. Some people need more time than others. Do small tasks. When you complete small tasks, it will make you feel like you've accomplished something big. These are big accomplishments. Eventually you will get better and better the more steps you take and you will feel so good about yourself.
August 24th, 2018 3:50pm
Situations arise and which can cause us to feel anxious and uneasy at the prospect of going. However when we bite the bullet and give it a go it can often turn out to be a brilliant experience and one that we are glad to have tried. However this can be daunting and it is important to understand why you feel like this, is there something at the event which makes you feel anxious, are you struggling with a social anxiety condition? The list goes on. However in order to overcome our fears often we need to be brave and have the courage to step outside our comfort zone and just do it!
August 26th, 2018 2:40am
Its alright to give in every now and then and allow yourself time to rest and reflect positively on the commitments that you did uphold. But avoidance at the end of the day is the main reinforcer of anxiety, as it is through avoiding the situation that we reinforce our negative projections and ruminations about what would've happened if we went, or about our ability/lack of ability to go, because then we cannot disprove it. Therefore, I encourage you to go and do the thing, even if just for a little while; to be mindful, reflective and kind to yourself when you do occasionally give into avoidance, so that it can be an opportunity to bounce back after.
September 4th, 2018 5:07pm
Whilst avoiding situations provides short term relief, it will make you more anxious in the long run. If you go - to school, for example - then the next day, or the night before, when you're worried about going you can think 'I did it yesterday, so I can do it today too'. Sadly the opposite is also true: 'I couldn't do it yesterday so I can't do it today'. The more you build something up in your head like this the harder finally facing your fears will be. I have anxiety about germs. Recently I've started drinking out of cups at restaurants again (I used to bring my own waterbottle or just not drink). After a long time of 'I can't do it', finally doing it was very hard. But every time it gets easier. Exposure is a kind of therapy. Best of luck :)
September 7th, 2018 6:46am
I think it is OK to avoid certain situations when your anxiety is particularly high. But don't get into a habit of it or these situations will make your anxiety worse should they arise again. I know it can be hard facing some situations when you are feeling like this but once the situation you felt anxious about is over, you realise it wasn't actually that bad. Focus on that feeling as much as possible and hopefully soon you could start to feel that way before the anxiety hits and feel more relaxed about things. I find meditation helps a lot when it comes to anxiety, I try to do at least 30 mins once a day
October 3rd, 2018 7:05am
I think that you really need to analyze the situation your in because there's both unhealthy and healthy anxiety. I think that your anxiety is triggered by things such as answering the phone or talking to new people that your missing out on a whole other side of life because your anxiety is restricting you. On the other hand if your anxiety is triggered by something such as seeing/talking to the person who has assaulted you in the past or visiting a place that has traumatic memories attatched, I'd say it would be acceptable to avoid the situation. In the end, amxiety is a naturally occuring human emotion, and i think it's up to the individually to decide whether we this anxiety is a hindrance to our quality of life
October 7th, 2018 1:01am
At some times, it is perfectly okay to avoid situations that make you anxious. Some days, you really can’t handle the stress of them. Other days, however, you can overpower the anxiety and pull through it, and do the thing that would normally give you anxiety. You may realize that it isn’t so bad, and you may be able to help yourself with your anxiety better, because doing that gives you an opportunity to overpower your anxiety, and learn who really has the power in the relationship between you and your anxiety. The answer? The person who has the power can always be you.
October 10th, 2018 5:54pm
As someone who has struggled with anxiety disorder since middle school, I work hard every day to not let the illness control my life or rob me of amazing experiences. This is the case for many people with anxiety — medication, therapy, and the support of loved ones can help, but the disorder will often be part of our lives for good. As a result, worry and irrational fears are constant companions to us. It's extremely important to not avoid every situation that makes us anxious — doing so can actually make the illness worse, and it means we'll miss out on great opportunities. However, it's important to not push ourselves to the breaking point — and there are certain situations people with anxiety should consider avoiding if possible. It's self-care to remove yourself from toxic situations that cause you unnecessary anxiety. So, while you shouldn't shy away from an exciting job opportunity, move, or relationship because you're absolutely convinced you'll fail, it's 100 percent OK to recognize that a specific unhealthy situation is activating your anxiety and doing absolutely nothing to enrich your life.
October 24th, 2018 4:12pm
Well I would tell you to not avoid those kind of situations. It is hard very hard in fact when you’re anxious but facing it is the only way you can get rid of the fear. You can do this. Next time talk yourself to go through that situation and once it’s over you’ll realize it wasn’t all that hard. You can start small. You can try ordering food or asking a stranger for directions or making a new friend. It may seem awkward and embarrassing but don’t worry, people will only be happy to help you out if you ask them politely enough. Take care. You can do this❤️
October 28th, 2018 4:46am
No, I believe you should learn to overcome your fears and to not let anxiety control who you want to be, never let a feeling get in the way of you want to be. If you need the extra help, get some! We all need help sometimes. No one should have to stop being themselves! It’s not right to keep yourself hidden away from the world all because of anxiety but I will tell you that it always okay to stay away from things that make you feel uncomfortable or trigger your anxiety if it makes you feel unsafe don’t do it but if it’s scary and your afraid to go rock climbing, go ahead and do it it’ll be a great experience.
October 28th, 2018 5:50pm
There has to be a balance between doing things that are outside of your comfort zone and things that are going to make you anxious. It can be a good thing and a good coping mechanism to put yourself in situations that might make you a little anxious but take it slowly. You can work up to bigger situations when you feel more comfortable with it. Trying to do too much too quickly can hurt more than it helps. You don't have to let your anxiety control your life and actions but forcing yourself to do more than you're ready for isn't what's going to help you work through your anxiety.