Why do I feel that I am rejected or neglected by people?
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Last Updated: 03/04/2022 at 7:29pm
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Your differences in beliefs and behavior might give you the feeling of rejection. We cannot avoid this feeling but we should learn how to get up and do not let it feel you down for so long that it affects how you socialize with others.
A lot of the times we place such a heavy emphasis in our minds about social relationships, and if one does not work out we feel that the onus was on us, and that we were neglected or rejected by someone. Sometimes we just need to take a step back, and try and push emotions aside, to really assess a situation.
Anonymous
September 13th, 2017 7:58pm
Have you actually been rejected or neglected before? Is it possible that you expect it so you read things into what people say and do that might not really be there?
Anonymous
September 21st, 2017 6:21pm
Rejection and neglect are hard feelings to deal with. Believe me, I understand. It's hard to give a detailed answer when I know so little about your situation however. I don't know if you are being actively rejected or simply feeling that you are. I don't intend to invalidate your feelings by saying that. Have you been actively trying to get closer to people only to be told "no", or are you not putting yourself out there in the first place? Do you radiate an open, welcoming vibe (through smiling, etc.)? Or do you look more closed off (head down, arms/legs crossed, staring at your phone, having headphones on)? If you look more closed off then I can see why people may not want to approach you, because they assume that you don't want to talk. Again this is just generic advice, I need to know more about your situation.
Anonymous
October 14th, 2017 2:34pm
I think sometimes people feel that way because they have fear of rejection. By fearing something, you may feel as if you can never overcome problems. By keeping your head high on your shoulders and a little confidence can go a long way and grab people's attention.
As an extrovert I process my thoughts out loud so the experiences or the feelings of being rejected or neglected is everyday experiences. U feel these feelings based on the words I heard like ignore her she is like that you don't need to waste u time responding to her. She does not mind. The fact that u boss comes into the room and ignores u talked to your other colleagues. The fact that u observe how people gives more respect to u colleague than u. The fact that people seek u colleagues opinion even thought u 2 shares the same title. The fact that u colleague can send u around in a wild Chase to find something that is not true or to do her errands and u being could not say no and many more.
You could feel this way for a variety of reasons. Lack of self-confidence, difficulty feeling comfortable or accepted in social situations. But sometimes we are neglected by others, and that's difficult, but we can always choose not to neglect ourselves and our own mental well-being.
If you feel that you are being neglected maybe you should have an open conversation with that person and tell them how you feel. It is ok to express and talk about your feelings.
You may need to improve your own self-worth or confidence.
It could just be mood swings, It's a totally normal thing to expirience in life, Once these pass you won't feel like everyone dislikes you.
You're feeling insecure and probably not so confident about yourself. IT's common to feel that when you're insecure about yourself.
Anonymous
March 7th, 2018 11:49am
This is just in your head, you accept yourself, love yourself thats it. You dont need anyone to accept you, you are your own hero.
Regardless of who we are, we all deal with these issues from time to time. Therefore, it is essential that you and I make a decision about how we are going to react when something occurs that makes us feel unwanted, abandoned, or rejected. Personally, I have always turned to photography or art of some sort.
Maybe you need to socialize more with them or you might just like being lonely Also you need to tell people how you feel insideâ¤ï¸
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 1:37pm
Interacting with individuals can be difficult. Although you can not control how others feel, it can be upsetting when individuals don't respond in a way you feel you want them to.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 4:00pm
It may be because you could suffer with low self-esteem or confidence. Often when we feel low in ourselves it can make us feel like those around us are abandoning us but it is often not the case.
You may have been rejected or neglected in the past. The best way to learn that this won't always be the case is to make new friendships.
Anonymous
May 20th, 2018 1:22pm
It is totally normal to feel that way. In life we often try to see ourselves out of the eyes of others but those interpretations are often biased. This means depending on your situation you evaluate what others are thinging in a wrong light.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2018 12:29am
depression can be a factor in all of this... try to remain confident and happy. attempt to talk things out with people if you feel this way
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2018 4:29pm
You may feel as if you are rejected and or neglected by people if you have a frequency to push people away when they attempt to get close. By this I mean if you have been reached out to and you have pushed them away for what ever the reason, they may not think you need to be reached out too again. Hopefully this answered the question, even just a little bit. Take care
Sometimes it’s hard to not. It’s how you look at yourself. If you see yourself as a reject that’s how you’re going to feel about ther people.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2018 1:53am
Sometimes people around us have a hard time seeing the good in our hearts and our real reason for being their.
Useually if we are ourselves in a bad mood and can't stop from hurting those around us. Those people would feel like they're under attack so to speak. This causes them to think poorly of us. If people think poorly of us based on initial contact it can be hard to show them you mean well.
Anxiety, and depression can really affect us. It can make us paranoid that we think something is happening based just on Gut feelings.
To all people who feel this way i wish i could say this. You are loved by many people. Everyone has struggles we go through and their will always be someone out their who knows what your going through.
Anonymous
July 26th, 2018 7:57am
That may be a sign of Anxiety or Depression, try and ask psychologist about it or a someone that can help you.
it does not mean you are failed that you fail to meet people's expectations, just trust yourself and be as yourself
Anonymous
August 11th, 2018 4:58pm
i go through the same thing. And what my wife told be changed my view, she said on some level we all judge people for the better or worse, its wrong but it cant be helped. it comes down to what you give them to judge. To me it sounded like i had to change in order to be accepted which wasn't going to happen but it made me see that i'm not the problem the people who judge are the problem. And that's what lead me to the idea of a random act of kindess, show a little kindess and if they seem to turn their nose up at you then its one less person you need to concern yourself with
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 2:59pm
Because the fact is I'm always the second choice for everyone, if not the last choice. And I feel like my insecurities don't occur bc of nothing
Anonymous
August 16th, 2018 5:27pm
It is easy to feel rejected or neglected by people, especially if you don't have a constant daily support system around you or, most commonly, the people around you are not particularly vocal about how they feel about you.
When feeling things like "no one cares about me", it's important to remember all the kind things your friends, family or even strangers have done for or to you. People often fail to say what they mean, especially what other people mean to them. That's why it's important to look at actions rather than the words that come out of their mouth.
Like today when that friend offered you some of their food, or when your mother insists on giving you a hug every day, or that stranger you see on the bus who always gives you a smile.
Remember those things, for actions speak louder than words.
Anonymous
October 6th, 2018 10:14am
Maybe because you might have a negative thought pattern I have a negative thought pattern and it sucks but if you go and get help or speak to someone you can change that thought pattern and not feel neglected or rejected I've feel that on the daily and it feels so bad I've tried therapy but it doesn't work my thoughts are too bad to be fixed. And the thoughts of being lonely have gotten so bad that I started harming myself nearly everyday I didn't have anyone to talk to so I isolated myself from everyone all day
I feel that I am rejected or neglected by people first and foremost based on my sad feelings about myself. Whether I can accept that I am the reason is not always believable to myself..but is so true. Honesty with oneself. Denial. Feeling Rejected can come from jealousy, isolation, fear, anxiety, depression. Neglect can be confused with rejection when you feel depressed, sad, no self love, jealousy, feelings of self loathing, worried thoughts, being isolated and/or lonely. Other people’s insecurities reflected on to you make us feel rejected and neglected. Sometimes they don’t realize how they hurt us..because of they’re own sadness, depression and fears.
feeling rejected or neglected by people is difficult because you may not understand why but everyone feels that way at one time or another. as kids we feel that way until we meet new people and that is the same as adults. either people like us or they do not but they could like some traits about us and lothe other traits. in relationships when you are around the same person they have more time to get to know you and learn why you act a certain way. but when you meet new people in a group setting, the people only know a fragment of who you are. are you judging other people negativley and therefore you think people are judging you the same way?
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