How can I forget about the bad memories of my past?

Find new things to be excited about. Make time to care for yourself and love yourself, be stronger than who you were last time.

Look at the bigger picture as such as your future step outside of the box and say who am I where do I see myself in five years do I see myself still holding onto these memories that I do not want to or do I see myself at a venturing out in the world forgetting about my past but remembering that I am here to live my best life and I’m going to do it just believe in yourself, and believe you can do whatever it is you set your mind to. Because if you will it it will be yours

I believe some ways you could possibly forget the memories of your past could be to focus on the future and keep a positive mind about the present.

In my experience forgetting is often not possible. Accepting that what happened in the past is only in the past and doesn't have to control our present is what needs to happen. We can learn from our past but it doesn't have to control it.

Ohh the struggle. Don't we all wish to forget something from our past? We cannot. The closest we can ever get to forgetting them is to accept them as a part of ourselves. It made us into the persons that we are right now. You can start by chaning your thinking into a more positive! Per example, losing my old dog made me love my new dog 2x more, appreciate him more - i can clearly see how much he likes the love i have for him. It makes us both happy.

Sometimes there is no easy way to forget or even forgive. But try your best to not only do focus on positivity, but focus on the moment and your bright future.

You can't forget it the more you try to forget it. Instead of trying to forget, it's better to accept it with the way it is. Than wasting time thinking about it, what about making a new happy memories? A new page, a new chapter of your life. It must be thrilling and better. Imagine all of your favorite people, ask them to play together. Beach sounds fun, oe just have a small talk at the cafe. Netflix and chill? Movie marathon? Cuddle in blanket? Do it. Do whatever you want. Do what makes you to be happy. If you want to have some times alone, how about watching your davorite movie at the cinema alone? It's just you. Cry whenever you want, laugh out loud whenever you want. Its your life. And only you can decide which memories worth your time and which aren't

Fill them with good memories that you have that’s what I have done all my life and it really helps even hanging out with friends or family. When I was younger that’s what I would do to get all the bad thoughts out of my head. I even safe pictures or cards my family wrote or took so that I can remember that they do care and love me. When dealing with thoughts at first it’s hard to get rid of them but once when u bro g them in with good thoughts u no longer have the urge to remember those bad thoughts that’s what helped me through my depression and anxiety

Think about the future and what you want it to be and make it that. That is what I have learnt to do as I have not had the better pass myself. I know it is hard but you have to focus on a dream that will help you be strong and talk to your friends an family if you want as they want to see you happy. If that don't work then u can always talk to a listener in 7 cups so you have many options and I hope this helped you and goo luck in the future

Learning to forgive what happens and try to focus on the present which is the one that matters now because what you are doing now is the things that will affect your future. Also asking for help from someone close to you which will help to face things not alone and you will get support from them when you feel low or that the memories are too painful to forget or to move on because sometimes we are not that strong to do it by ourselves because sometimes we still feel pain for what happened on that moment.

I think that this is something that happens over time. Give yourself time, and you will see that at some point you will realise that you have forgotten quite a few of the bad things that have happened to you, and if you cannot forget them, you can realise that they don't define you, and your life now can be better than that, because you make your life, and if you want it to be good, you can make it good. And the past won't matter anymore. It will just be the parts of the story that could inspire others who might be going through what you went through back then, and they will be able to say: "He turned out alright." (My little secret -- now not so much of a secret anymore :P -- is that I try to imagine my life as a movie. Bad incidents might even be an asset to the story of my life! For example, if you've seen the movie "One Chance," you see Paul Potts bullied in his childhood. His bad past, though, made a really inspiring story.) The past is gone. What you have in your hands to make something of NOW, is the present.

Memories are something we hold onto. Sometimes they are good ones or bad . They are not something that will disappear but our attitude towards them can help . The more we relive them and think about them can have a positive or negative impact. We must remember that a memory had passed and we cannot change it . Making a list of all the good memories maybe helpful and a distraction when the memories you Want to forget arise. Just remember no matter who you are we all have bad memories to deal with so your not alone. Even talking to someone about them can be beneficial and if you want to remain anonymous, seven cups is the perfect place to do that as there is always a listener 24/7 available .

Memories are not something you forget. You should stop waning to forget about them and start trying to know how to live with them. For example, let's say you have experienced trauma of some sort. You can't forget about it. You literally can't. But you can find a way to deal with how that makes you feel. Like a coping mechanism of some sort. Forgetting is not the solution nor is it something you can do, but you can always overcome it by 'getting over it'. Like, by letting yourself know that it did happen and that it was real, but that now you're okay and you are past that.

You can‘t forget them... but you can accept and understand them! It will be a hard time, but with help of your therapist/family you will get trough it, and you won‘t think so often of it. Forgetting is almost impossible, but what is possible is you to cope with the situation and understand: this is my past and I can‘t change it... it was bad but I am strong now, let me go into my perfect future! Memories will come back sometimes, but as soon as you make new ones, you will slowly start to notice that the past memories are disappearing in the „dark side“ of the brain :)

Counseling - there are tons of different types of counseling for your comfort and convenience. Healthy coping is essential for a brighter future, but is what you should be more focused on. Mood/Emotions journals can be very useful too. Mediation can be a form of a mood/emotions journal in the form of thoughts versus pen to paper or in a smartphone app. Focus on new goals, like exercising daily. Exercise generates endorphins which improves our moods. The more you learn about exercise the more you'll improve and reach your fitness goal. Sometimes replacing a bad memory with a positive yet challenging goal can be rewarding and uplift your present and future, while overshadowing the bad memories that once seemed so overwhelming.

You don’t forget that’s the worst thing you could do I understand it may feel like the best thing to do to just forget all the bad things that happened but trust me it doesn’t help. Personally I have had some bad experiences from my childhood that I have yet to come face to face with and some are even suppressed and I remember searching online for hours upon end how to further repress memories and I just ended up crying and i am now thankful I didn’t find out because if I did I would find it even harder to open up and opening up is still a problem for me

This is tough, I too have a lot of bad memories.Who doesn't? But it's because of the bad things that happened to me made me the stronger person I am today. Have you ever thought, that why we remember the bad things instead of the good things. Well if we forget our mistakes, if we forget that we trusted someone and that person broke our trust or something very bad happened to us because we were careless, if we forget then we will REPEAT and again trust and we will hurt ourselves again. So I suggest that we don't try to forget or regret the bad past. Because it's out of our lives it's gone, the word 'past' it's self saying. But we shouldn't make it our weakness and let it ruin our future, but instead make it our strength learn from it and make a wonderful future. Because we can.

I can let go of the bad memories in my past as I train myself to focus on the good things that happened to me and that good things I have, my good character and my values. I like to find a good balance in my life between personal growth, family life and work life, in that order. Learning that being more sure about who and keeping a sound mind that cannot be shaken will only help me when I communicate with people who try to hinder my progress or want to do me harm. I will also like to forgive these people so I can move on more easily.

Always try to look at the bad memory in a different way, discuss it with a person to get it out or rant it out on a piece of paper. It's never going to help by bottling it up. The longer you have it inside yourself, the worse it'll get. If it's involved with someone, it'll be a big step forward by going to that person and talking about it, anything, to get that frustration out. If not possible, we listeners on 7 Cups are always here to listen to your frustrations, and we'll be open and will greatly accept you.

It can be hard to not let the thoughts of the past pop up, but I will not always focus to forget them but to remember what they have taught me. I focus on reminding myself that I am greater than the things that have happened to me. I practice positive affirmations daily to ensure that when I do get down, which happens, I have the tools to pick myself back up. The hardest part is creating new habits and allowing new patterns of thinking to prosper. Take it one teeny, tiny step at a time if you are new to this. It will get easier and you will be able to add more and more to your plate as you go.

When forgetting bad memories remember to let go. Try to think of that situation less and less. When you think about the situation push it out of your mind until you forget all together. Also try to go different places and hang out with different people which at the time will get your mind off of the bad memories, and you will start to make new memories that you can think back to instead of the bad ones. Try talking about the memory to someone because maybe they experienced the same thing. Talking things out usually help you to feel at least calmer about the situation and maybe a little bit better. Sometimes talking can get your mind off of it for a little while.

I think it is not possible to forget bad memories of the past. It is a better way to accept that you have bad memories, but they don't define your life path. They belong to the past, and maybe you can learn from them, or if not, than it is best to see that they are still a part of you, but not one that control you. You control them by not looking away, but by looking at them when you want it. If you try to forget them, they will stay and return on their own terms. Don't let them have so much power.

All things in life teach us a lesson, even those bad things in our past. For me, helping others through similar situations has been a great source of healing and being able to empower myself. There are many methods of going through bad memories and sorting them out and helping us heal. Support groups work for some people but I personally prefer one on one interaction with a therapist. You will know what works for you by your level of comfort. It can be a process of trial and error but there is hope that we can come to a point where we are not a slave to those bad memories and instead just look at them as another thing that made us the strong person we have become.

Sometimes it can be very difficult to forget about unpleasant past occurrences. Our minds dwell on them and anticipate a future reoccurrence. It is important to be able to let go of the past and focus on the present. I found one of the best ways of doing this is positive distraction. Find something you enjoy doing and do it as much as you can. Doing things keeps your mind occupied and it’s less likely to wander toward negative thoughts. The more engaged your brain is in the activity, the less power it has to wander. Things like reading, writing, drawing, doing word or number puzzles, and other brain stimulating activities can be very helpful in those situations. Personally, if I find my mind circling around in the darkness, I take a few deep breaths and sit down with a good book for at least thirty minutes. By the time I’m done, whatever I was dwelling on before has been completely replaced by the information I gained through my book, and my brain continues to think about the book for a while after. In my opinion, engaging your brain is the number one way to combat bad thoughts or negative memories!

The best way to forget your bad memories of your past is to not giving attention to them. Therefore, distract yourself from thinking about your bad memories from the past. Don't write diary about your bad memories of your past. If you have already written a diary, don't read it. Hide it somewhere you won't see it for many months or even years. Don't open it for all costs. Don't memorize or even celebrate anniversaries of bad things which happened in the past. If possible, distract yourself from everything what can trigger your bad memories from the past. If you can't entirelly distract yourself from these things, try not to think about memories from the past but about present event which takes place now.

There are many different techniques to recover from traumatic memories, but it isn’t beneficial to forget them, since then you can’t learn from them. I believe talking through your issues with a trained counselor, therapist, or listener is a wonderful way to progress to finding closure in that memory. I did this with my trauma, and it helped me. It takes a while, but the end result is a much more peaceful, wise, and happier mind. I talked to my therapist, my counselor, and my close friends and family about my experiences, and with the empathy from them, I was able to recover from negatively impacting feelings associated with that memory.

Bad memories can take a long time to forget. In fact, sometimes we can't forget them, only learn to accept. It is completely normal to think back to the past sometimes, but do not let it rule or ruin your future. You cannot change what has happened. Accept how you feel about those memories I.e it may be sadness, grief, anger and learn to let go of them. Distract yourself from any negative thoughts with the things you enjoy. Talking to others is also very important, sharing these memories with someone else may help you to process and accept them.

With my experience I try to write down everything that I'm grateful for. And I try to think about things that won't remind me of my past. When in a conversation the odd time something will come up about where I grew up and I will just try to breathe in and breathe out. This calms me down and allows me to continue on with the conversation. I also try to avoid words that may have been used in the time of my past. I also avoid words that involve something that happened in the past. Doing this will keep me from thinking about every bad memory.

Unfortunately it is almost impossible for us to forget bad memories; especially if they are traumatic. Our mind holds on to these memories to shape how we feel and behave. However; we can change our perception of those memories. From someone who has had traumatic experiences relating to assault in the past; I felt guilt and self-blame for what happened. I refused help for it and prevented a police investigation because of my beliefs about myself. Using CBT, where I challenged my beliefs about the event and therefore my understanding of what happened; I grew to a place of self-acceptance. I hold almost no emotion to what happened; not because you shouldn't find it emotional; but just because I have already worked through my emotions and have learnt to accept them, and watch them fade. I would recommend seeing a therapist for traumatic memories as these can be too difficult to work through on your own. I hope you find peace and happiness. :)

I try not to dwell on the past bad memories and instead focus more on the present in order to plan for a better future. However, my future will not be so good if I have not learnt from my past mistakes. So I focus on those areas where I could avoid anything happening like that again. Forgiving any people I hold grudges against also helps a lot. Hope this helped xoxo