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How do i know if my ex wants me back?

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Last Updated: 06/15/2022 at 11:36am
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Anonymous
June 14th, 2016 12:16pm
You will never know somebody's true feelings. But if your ex wants you back, your ex will spend time with you.
Greatlistener87
June 15th, 2016 4:20am
He is you ex for a reason, the most important question is based on why he is ur ex do you want him to want you back. If it is a yes then maybe u should ask ur ex the same question.
peacefulDancer4
July 28th, 2016 11:18am
If your ex is always trying to keep in contact with you and still flirts that is key to knowing whether they want you back or not.
Anonymous
July 17th, 2016 8:02pm
If your ex wants to be togheter and to rekindle the spark that was present before,you know that your ex will be wanting you back.
vidalix
May 23rd, 2018 6:37am
they will seem caring and will ask regularly about you, sometimes you might notice them peeking at you, they try to attend parties/event your attending, they might try to talk to your friends to ask about you
Falguni4782
May 11th, 2018 7:58am
No one wants to be with an ex other than these reasons 1. He hasn't found anyone 2. His new girlfriend is not having sex with him so….. 3. He has a crush on one of your new friends so you will just be a medium till he creates a good base 4. He accidentally deleted your nudes now his lust for your pics is increasing and therefore…. You might have ditched him earlier so now he's trying to comeback at you and do the same with you 5. He needs something from you 6. He wants some money 7. He wants a part time someone … Or 8. He still loves you and can't get over you. (By the way, if he has left you earlier he can do that again,so before getting back together take some time. And don't just do anything for the sake of his desire,learn to say “No” before it's too late)
Raspberrycheesecake
May 31st, 2018 4:56pm
If your ex wants you back, he would send out signals. these signals can be from messaging you again, finding excuses to see you again and wanting to be around you more.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2018 8:39pm
I suggest you ask your ex! Or give her/him signs to sort of get some reaction that'll tell you they do. Maybe they talk to you in a very sweet way still, compliment you a lot! Things like that can definitely give you some signs, but the best would be to ask!
Burgerfriedannabell
August 6th, 2017 3:39pm
They will always start the conversation with you and try to flirt with you. They act nice towards you and treat you like they did before ❤️
Thegreenarrow
June 25th, 2017 8:07am
Make a friendly gesture. Like text a seasons greetings with out any conversational involvement. So that he or she won't feel like you are trying to get back. If he or she is responding well then talk in a warm way, not too interested but let the person do the talking. Make him or her talk so that eventually something will slip from his or her mouth that will give you a clue of what's inside their mind.
JennofBoston
April 12th, 2020 6:51pm
You only really know what people want you to know, so if he/she tells you so....well, then you'd have a pretty good idea about it. What might be even more important, is how you feel and what you want. Have you asked yourself this? And if he/she IS your ex.... then it's also important to consider the reasons for it's failure in the past. Some people tend to attach their self esteem to the sensation of being wanted, and though I am in no way, saying this is the case....it doesn't hurt to make sure that your confidence is something that can stand on it's own. Working on yourself and being very strong and full of clarity in your own life, might lead you to have less of a need to be wanted back by your ex. And instead have the need to make yourself happy and whole, with or without being wanted back by your ex. The bonus is that in doing so, you'll create an attractiveness from within that will open up new and old doors...and from their you'll be asking "Do I want my ex back", not the other way around.
greatfulGrace21
August 16th, 2016 8:49am
They would've never left you to begin with. They wouldn't have needed a break or anything. Just move on honey. Or think about it..
Anonymous
July 28th, 2016 5:14am
He or she will just try to reach to you.. it's just that simple. Don't make assumptions.............
Kilali
July 27th, 2016 4:56am
He will let you know. Don't look for signs because they are often misleading. If someone wants you, they will let you know.
MaeveTheBrave
June 15th, 2016 5:59am
When you think thoughts like this, just remember they are your EX for a reason.
BassistBriar
June 15th, 2016 7:27pm
If you feel your ex wants you back, I would definitely communicate and express your thoughts with said person! :)
RobVL
July 9th, 2016 3:42pm
Hmmm, honestly. Unless you have a key to their mind and heart, or they straight up tell you, you won't know for sure about anything. If this is something you are pursuing, focus on yourself and your interactions with the world around you. Once you have this done and dusted, whatever needs to happen absolutely will.
Elvyre
June 23rd, 2019 10:54pm
Why would you know? Ex is something that belongs to the past. It's a really hard path to recover from it, but there are always solutions. Time will also heal your broken heart. Of course no one say that you will never talk to him/her again. But why aren't you together anymore? Why did you decided to break-up? Missing him/her is natural and wanting them back also. Maybe chatting a bit with them can help. The key to this problem is certainly communication, what's more important than talking about your feelings together? Love is hard and so are breakup.
Clarisse29
September 14th, 2018 7:29am
If your ex keeps trying to contact you and acts really sweet and keeps complimenting you and is flirtatious and shows all abovious signs of care and affection then they want you back 💕 also if they’re asking your friends about you and trying to know if there is someone new you’re interested in or want to date, then this might also be a sign for them to care about you and your relationships and to want you back because they won’t feel good and would be jealous if they see you with someone else and they would just try to break you up with the other person if you’re involved.
Anonymous
October 7th, 2018 4:45pm
Well, when a man or want their ex back they normally will go out of their way to try to win your heart back. One probably will buy you flowers, or cook you meals and offer to take you out for dates. Also, you will see signs that the ex want to be around you more than his friends and family. He will begin to fit his schedule around your off time ad he will do everything in his power to be near you when the both of you have some free time. Last but not least if he really want you back he will take you around the people in is life that means to most to him. He will want his families and friends to know that you are the one for him regardless of what others might think or say.
alex45678
November 22nd, 2018 7:21pm
You might have some clues as to if they want you back, like do they make up reasons to text you? Or if you see them looking at you or they still post indirects. Or maybe they ask you’re shared friends about you or how you’re doing. They still make an effort to connect or reconnect with you. But you also need to remember that you broke up for a reason so unless you’ve both done some growing the relationship might not be as healthy as it should be. This is just some things I’ve noticed from past experience! Hope it helps.
Returncontrol2u
January 2nd, 2019 6:27am
Ask if you can. If not, then you will not know. You and your ex separated for a reason. If you both chose to come back together, you both have to chose it. Usually all you can do is make sure they have your contact information and move on with your life. You both deserve the happiness of a renewed life and the responsibility of choosing what that new life has in it. When you love someone you want them to be free to make themselves happy. If you choose to remain single, that does not mean they must also. Most frequently it is dating others after you have separated that helps both parties confirm their desire to be together. The things you want from them may actually be in another person also. You can only control yourself.
Anonymous
January 18th, 2019 5:29am
It is not very important to know that your ex wants you back. Relationships are coming and going. It is important to see how to move on and be kind to others. No matter who you have dated or had a relationship with, moving forward and making sure they understand the situation is better than wondering about if they want you back. You do not need to know if this person wants you back. Regardless of many situations. You have connected to that person and they will always hold a place in your heart, but pondering back in the past is an unnecessary idea.
Anonymous
April 21st, 2019 4:26pm
If you keep a positive contact with him and give space for you both to heal from the break up if they want you back they will write and say they want to work this out. Keep a positive chat whether on the phone or through texts and let them know your true feelings . Listen to them when they are talking or through their words, honestly answer them in a positive manner. Ask if they feel sitting down and talking can help the relationship. Listen to what They have to say and take it as their truly speaking their feelings to you.
Anonymous
December 9th, 2021 1:01pm
They constantly find a way to make conversation with you. They talk about the good times you guys had. They mention they still love you or care about you. They talk about you to their friends and family. They do anything for you. When you’re in need of someone to talk to they’re always there and they’re always compassionate. They try their best to give you great advice. They tend to compliment you. They will look at you often. They’ll have any excuse for physical touch for example a hug. They will express that they still have feelings for you.
katherine081902
August 16th, 2019 7:58am
With exes, it is hard to stay away if you want to go back to them or vice versa. Short and simple, let them come to you. The best way to know if they want you back is to first find out if they want you in their life at all and to do that you must let them come to you. Don't try and force yourself into their life. My ex is a shy person who doesn't like confrontation so I knew she wouldn't come to me first. After a couple of months, I simply said "hi" and, as always, a conversation sparked between us. If your ex is like that then ease your way back into their life if they allow it, but tread carefully. Another way of knowing if they want you back is if they are asking about your love life specifically, many times if an ex wants you back they will try and see if you are over them or if you are single.
waterkid1024
August 2nd, 2019 2:38pm
my favorite (and only) way to find out what someone wants is by direct questioning. it's ok to ask a clear question about someone's goals and boundaries, what they want from you and what they can offer you. If you noticed something that makes you think they want you back, you could explain the signal you're getting and ask the person if it is correct. of course, whenever you discuss goals and boundaries, it's important to recognize and honor when someone says no, or that they don't want something to happen. it helps to realize that the no doesn't have to make us feel rejected or not good enough. they said no because they were being honest, and that's the best thing we can hope for when we ask an honest question.
Hanaa00
July 10th, 2019 11:38pm
Alright. To be quite honest, yes, there are ways to know this. However, you need to ask yourself if you really want to know whether he wants you back or not, does it really matter, and would it be healthy of unhealthy if you keep asking yourself that question? In order to fully move on from a relationship, you have to eventually stop thinking of any hypothetical scenarios that include your ex. Including the simple thought of whether he wants you back or not. Once you are able to focus on yourself, these questions simply won’t matter anymore. You will be able to grow as a person and move on from that relationship in a healthy way❤️
happyWillow7797
June 22nd, 2019 6:01pm
There’s no way to fully know if he/she does unless they tell you so. A lot of times, people tend to talk to their ex’s as friends or as “hook-ups”. However if they truly want you back for something meaningful, they’d let you know and show it through their actions. They’d actually make you feel wanted and loved. If at any point, you feel confused about what’s going on between you two, then you should consider that they don’t actually want you. Personally, I believe that you should never be confused in your relationship. It should always be clear how the other feels because that’s effective communication.
musicalBubbles69
August 12th, 2018 6:06am
They’ll probably show signs of affection, continue to talk or flirt, and will be jealous/ want to know if you’re with anyone else