How do i know if my ex wants me back?

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June 14th, 2016 12:16pm
You will never know somebody's true feelings. But if your ex wants you back, your ex will spend time with you.
June 15th, 2016 4:20am
He is you ex for a reason, the most important question is based on why he is ur ex do you want him to want you back. If it is a yes then maybe u should ask ur ex the same question.
July 28th, 2016 11:18am
If your ex is always trying to keep in contact with you and still flirts that is key to knowing whether they want you back or not.
June 15th, 2016 5:59am
When you think thoughts like this, just remember they are your EX for a reason.
June 15th, 2016 7:27pm
If you feel your ex wants you back, I would definitely communicate and express your thoughts with said person! :)
July 9th, 2016 3:42pm
Hmmm, honestly. Unless you have a key to their mind and heart, or they straight up tell you, you won't know for sure about anything. If this is something you are pursuing, focus on yourself and your interactions with the world around you. Once you have this done and dusted, whatever needs to happen absolutely will.
July 17th, 2016 8:02pm
If your ex wants to be togheter and to rekindle the spark that was present before,you know that your ex will be wanting you back.
July 27th, 2016 4:56am
He will let you know. Don't look for signs because they are often misleading. If someone wants you, they will let you know.
July 28th, 2016 5:14am
He or she will just try to reach to you.. it's just that simple. Don't make assumptions.............
August 16th, 2016 8:49am
They would've never left you to begin with. They wouldn't have needed a break or anything. Just move on honey. Or think about it..
June 25th, 2017 8:07am
Make a friendly gesture. Like text a seasons greetings with out any conversational involvement. So that he or she won't feel like you are trying to get back. If he or she is responding well then talk in a warm way, not too interested but let the person do the talking. Make him or her talk so that eventually something will slip from his or her mouth that will give you a clue of what's inside their mind.
August 6th, 2017 3:39pm
They will always start the conversation with you and try to flirt with you. They act nice towards you and treat you like they did before ❤️
May 23rd, 2018 6:37am
they will seem caring and will ask regularly about you, sometimes you might notice them peeking at you, they try to attend parties/event your attending, they might try to talk to your friends to ask about you
May 31st, 2018 4:56pm
If your ex wants you back, he would send out signals. these signals can be from messaging you again, finding excuses to see you again and wanting to be around you more.
June 11th, 2018 8:39pm
I suggest you ask your ex! Or give her/him signs to sort of get some reaction that'll tell you they do. Maybe they talk to you in a very sweet way still, compliment you a lot! Things like that can definitely give you some signs, but the best would be to ask!
June 18th, 2016 3:55am
He/she would tell me directly in a calm manner and he/she will respect my answer. He/she will explain their reasons.
June 30th, 2016 12:44pm
if he/she starts to get in touch again but so obviously,keep on reminding you of the things you used to have in common,the places you used to hangout at and things you liked to do together.
July 2nd, 2016 6:36pm
She/He contacts you often either by texting or via phone.They keep reminding you subconsciously of the good times you went through together.
July 2nd, 2016 11:39pm
It's hard to read the minds of others but a clear sign will be if you receive any contact from that person after you have broken up. However, the words they use and especially the tone of the message will be important; if they want to reconnect with you on a romantic level they will enquire after you, be very interested in what you have been doing etc. If they want to get back together with you it's likely they will continue to contact you in the days after your break up, they may also use social media as a way of keeping the link between the two of you. If you don't hear from your ex in the days and weeks after your break up, it may be that they need some time to gather themselves and take stock of everything, specially if the break up was bad.
July 3rd, 2016 10:40am
If they are talking to you still like you are dating eachother but be careful for a second chance with and ex is more of a relaps and what happened last time that caused the break up is bound to happen again
July 6th, 2016 3:31am
Sometimes an ex may be obvious that they want to get back into a relationship with you. They may call and text you multiple times a day, and they may tell you that they miss you, love you, etc. And sometimes it's not so clear. Sometimes they may ask to hang out with you, or text you here and there out of the blue, leaving you confused. Whatever the case may be, you need to evaluate for yourself whether this is a person that is good for you, and will be someone that will help you be in a healthy relationship, rather than a toxic one.
July 16th, 2016 12:46am
Flirting is a good example of an ex wanting you back. Always texting or calling. Asking if you want to hang out, etc.
July 18th, 2016 5:49pm
A person who is interested in you will make an effort to show that. If your ex is telling you that they want to try having a relationship with you again, or if they tell you that they want to work things out, this is a positive sign that your ex may want you back.
July 20th, 2016 9:14am
If your ex wants you back, they would make that clear to you. Embrace your feelings, but also realise that if they do not want you back then they have lost someone that loved them, and all you have lost is someone who isn't worthy of your company.
July 20th, 2016 5:23pm
Observe closely the way he reacts when he's around you,whether he stares at you or not, etc. If he texts you and the things he says, and also if he's mentioned something to a friend.
July 23rd, 2016 7:08pm
There is really know way to know for sure other than asking him directly if he/she wants you back. I know that it's going to be strange and/or even awkward to ask them, but how else are you going to know? You can't read their minds. Good Luck ! :)
July 28th, 2016 10:40pm
Just the way he did when you both were in a relationship but its better to ask like by telling him"how does he feel about you" then you'll know
July 30th, 2016 6:48pm
You'll just get this feeling whenever you're near him like... is he watching me? He will try to get your attention or try to get you alone to talk to you privately.
July 31st, 2016 12:50am
You can know if your ex want you back if he keeps messaging you like he used to when you were together, or if he sends poems, flowers, chocolate, or lastly but most definitely if he say I want you back.
July 31st, 2016 3:18pm
The old quote "actions speak louder than words" still applies in this situation. Let them show you that they care, not just say it to you because it's not worth getting your hopes up because of a particular text they sent you with some flirty message. You deserve more than that.